….being turned onto an absolutely fabulous lingerie site and receiving your order almost immediately.

(course….one sucky thing about Daylight savings is going out drinking the night before, waking with an awful headache and remembering you actually woke up at NINE, then slowly realizing the entire day is probably a wash…  DOH)

~ xo

Vixen

Red Satin and Lace Bustier by Eden Fantasy

First let me say.  This bustier is beautiful.  It has a side zipper which makes it very easy to get on- which if you don’t have a multi-talented husband at your beck and call who is an expert at corsets like I do, would be very helpful.  It laces up the back and has incredible lace detail.  And looks really great with jeans.

Unfortunately there was a last minute wardrobe malfunction…  The main issue, the only issue, being it was much too large.  Granted I am a tiny person, very petite through the torso and waist.  But that is not where it didn’t fit.  The bust was HUGE.  Being a 34C, I don’t really consider myself very ’small breasted’, you know?  I have the smallest size they make (which is a Small), I think if they happened to make an XS perhaps it might fit better???

I’ve read other reviews on this bustier though and they have loved it.  So, I’m thinking my petite size was the issue here.  Which is something I’m used to working around (tiny waist, larger boobs….).  I would totally recommend this to someone, as long as they weren’t my size bc as I said, it really is beautiful and well made.  Very flattering on….as long as it fits.  ;)

More lingerie can be found at Eden Fantasy….

~ xo

Vixen

Friday Favorites-

Emmy…..

Sexy Sadie…..

Cheeky Minx.….

Scintillectual…..

Autumn…..


Path of Passion…..

Click on the links and go visit the lovely ladies! Show ‘em some love.

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So, the Bon Jovi concert.  I had assured my sister I could still have fun with us going out and me not drinking.  Very rarely am I the designated driver….. actually, can’t remember the last time I was.  Um…it’s been THAT long (doh!).  We always drag PC along and it’s his job that he quite willingly does.  I have to admit, it’s sometimes probably for the best to have him along to keep us….not so much in check, but ’safe’.  KWIM?  I’ve mentioned my sometimes lack of common sense when I drink (remember my ‘drunk girl, sometimes stupid’ post????).  Anyway.  I think she did worry at one point that while I had assured her I could have fun not drinking, when I turned down the round of Patron shots (I know…ME turn down Patron?!  *shaking head*) she wondered if SHE could have fun w/ me not drinking.  It all worked out though.

We did have a good time at the concert that we have affectionately dubbed- Cheesefest 2010.  I honestly do NOT remember him being as cheesy/corny as he was.  The spirit fingers, jazz hands, booty shaking, jumping jack-type-dance….was a bit much. *snort* Not to the mention the 50something crowd everfreakinwhere that were seriously *SWOONING* over him and his ridiculousness.  I only had beer spilt on me several times by the woman who danced and screamed the. entire. time.  I’m pretty sure she was his biggest fan.  That lucky Bon Jovi….  ~wink~

Eventually we left bc we were over him to beat traffic. I suggested we hit the dive bar near her house.  I have to say the FUNNIEST/HIGHLIGHT of the night was my VERY straight sister being kissed by a way overly drunk girl trying to bum a cigarette.  When I informed Drunk Girl that I didn’t smoke and therefore did not have a cigarette she could bribe off of me, she became all eyes for my sister.  The look on my sisters face and watching Drunk Girl try to redeem sexual favors for a stupid cigarette were….comical, to say the least.

And apparently neither of us were the brightest of bulbs that night…..   The cute bartender we were schmoozing with kept asking what our plans were after the bar closed (we were there until closing).  We both realized (after the fact!!!) that he’d actually been hoping we’d invite him to go someplace else with us after wards.  Oh.  Oh!  Uh.  Duh!  (maybe it was my lack of alcohol combined with the amount she’d had???  ….IDK…….) But again.  DUH!

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I requested my Web Bitch to do some work on my site.  Wanted to point out several new (ok one is new, one is fixed) features.  People have brought it to my attention *coughSagecough* that there is no way to follow comments on posts of interest.  The other being that you used to be able to click on my header and it brought you ‘home’….but after  PC re-vamped my header last fall (the one the totally awesome Roxy made for my last birthday *GRINS*) it quit working.  I kissed up asked nicely and PC made the changes for me.  I should mention, my site is not easy to work on. So let it be known the man seriously ROCKS, definitely a keeper.

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It’s come to my attention recently that I probably should give some more….information regarding PC and what he is gaining from my….extramarital affairs.  Quite a few of you are having a difficult time wrapping your head around what PC is getting out of it all.  Bc despite what he keeps saying about making my happiness #1, some have an even more difficult time wrapping their heads around THAT (remember though, we are firm believers that relationships are not quid pro quo). There has been expressed confusion, concern, curiosity, whatever about it and how he can be ‘OK’ with it.  I realize sometimes I’m very…..elusive, evasive about many some of the details I share.  It’s just how I am and what I am comfortable with.  PC is much more blatant about what he would share (which is evident in the few posts he’s written….that I’ve had to edit for my level of ‘okayness’, lol).  But that said, I think it is time to give a bit more insight so as not to come off as a selfish bitch in my marriage.  That post is coming.  It’s taking some processing and thinking on my part.

I also wanted to mention though, that while I’ve only just begun talking more openly about it here, as well as realizing I do find myself attracted to certain men…..  Our marriage has been open to me seeing/dating females since…well, the beginning.  So while certain aspects of ‘this’ are new-ish, the general concept isn’t.

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Have a perfectly fabulous weekend.  Mine is jam packed with fun stuff.

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

Shot through the heart, and your to blame, darlin’
You give love a bad name

An angel’s smile is what you sell
You promise me heaven then put me through hell
Chains of love, got a hold on me
When passion’s a prison you can’t break free

Oh, you’re a loaded gun … yeah
Oh, there’s nowhere to run
No-one can save me, the damage is done

Shot through the heart, and your to blame
You give love a bad name
I play my part and you play your game
You give love a bad name
You give love a bad name

You paint your smile on your lips
Blood red nails on your fingertips
A school boys dream, you act so shy
Your very first kiss was your first kiss goodbye

Oh, you’re a loaded gun
Oh, there’s nowhere to run
No-one can save me, the damage is done

Shot through the heart, and your to blame
You give love a bad name
I play my part and you play your game
You give love a bad name
You give love…..oh!

Oh!
Shot through the heart and your to blame
You give love a bad name
I play my part and you play your game
You give love a bad name

Shot through the heart and your to blame
You give love a bad name
I play my part and you play your game
You give love a bad name
You give love….
You give love a bad name
You give love….
You give love a bad name
You give love….
You give love a bad name

So I mentioned I was going to wear this fabulous bustier Eden Fantasy sent me to the Bon Jovi concert Monday night….

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This HNT sponsored by Eden Fantasys online retailers of lingerie and other sex toys

The full review will be posted over the weekend. Don’t forget to check back for it (and more pics!).

HappyHNT!!!

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

A bit ago I mentioned the Lingerie Football League.  What started out as a pay-per-view half time show, has quickly formed into an entire league of ten teams that actually play full games.  Uniforms consist of helmets, shoulder pads, elbow pads, knee pads, garters, bras and panties.

The founder of the LFL looks for three things when scouting women to join their teams-
*she must be beautiful (he explains that the girls must be marketable)
*in shape/athletic
*confident -to play in your underwear in front of millions, there’s got to be certain level of confidence, no?

I guess there has been quite a bit of criticism regarding the LFL and how it objectifies women, saying it’s

“disappointing that players have to put on revealing outfits in order to get recognized in the world of women’s football”

One player, a defensive end on team Bliss, was quoted disagreeing….

“I think it’s very empowering for women to be sexy AND tough!”
~Summer LaViolette

IDK.  I guess I can see why it might bother some people…  Kind of.  (But I’m guessing these are the same people protesting Cheerleaders too????)  If you’ve seen a LFL game, we’re not talking about ‘flag football’ here.  It’s full contact, tackle football…not glorified mud wrestling. 

But so that brings me to another interesting thought.  One of my readers emailed me a bit ago and presented me with this question:

Lingerie Football aside.  But ANY sport females participate in?  I believe there are plenty of woman’s sports that don’t objectify women.   But that’s not the question……  SO?

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

~ xo

Vixen

My sister and I are headed to see Bon Jovi in concert.  Squeeeee!!!!  I saw him quite a few years back (um…like 19 years ago *ahem*).  My friends and I, at that stage in my life, were very into hair bands/rock n roll, etc.  We were heavy concert go-ers. I can’t say I remember many of them, bc those were also my heavy drug and alcohol days (ok so I’ve remained a lush, but I bid farwell to the drugs with my twenties…).  I was reminicising with Yummy about how my friends and I used to sneak alcohol in to the concerts in hairspray bottles.  Gag, I know.  But you know fill it with Jack Daniels and all you have to do is buy yourself a Diet Coke and you are set!  These days I’m thinking my sister and I will suck it up and pay the $10 for a beer.  ~wink~

I’ve outgrown many of the hair bands and wince when I hear certain bands/songs.  But there are the ‘memory songs’ and Bon Jovi (Def Lepard very close behind…I mean who doesn’t love a song with lyrics like- Pour some sugar on me?!) has the most of them.  I still remember and love many of his songs.  We are stoked to spend some adult time together and will be rockin it, you can bet on it.

Oh.  And I wore my new corset from Eden Fantasy’s.  Something to look forward to….you know, being the picture whore I am and everything…..

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TFT is UP!

The site is always looking for contributors. If you’ve thought about wanting to do it- there is no time like the present! If you have before but it’s been awhile- we miss you! All you have to do to help support our troops is EMAIL ME! Help boost some morale!

~xo

Vixen

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I’m *sigh* in my mid thirties. In less than three years I will be 40.  How in the HELL did I become OLD?!  Meaning…I remember when I thought 40 was so. old.  *LOL*

But honestly, I wouldn’t rather be anywhere else then here.  My favorite part of where I am in life is that I am finally comfortable in my sexuality.  In who I am.  In what I want.  I don’t settle.  I don’t accept half assed or ‘kind of’.

For numerous years I was a follower.  I did what was asked of me.  What others wanted.  In the back of my mind I began forming an idea of what I wanted. But it’s only been in the last six years or so that I realized who that person was, that I thought about becoming, wishing I were…could actually exist.  AND was emerging.

I love knowing what I want.  I love being able to request and require that it be met.

Very empowering. 

“Just living is not enough” said the butterfly, “one must have sunshine, freedom and a little flower.”
~Hans Christian Anderson

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~ xo

Vixen

Lexie: “For once in my life I’m doing something only for me.  This is about not feeling.  You make me not feel and if you can’t handle being used for sex then tell me so I can find a guy who can“

Alex: “I’m all about not feeling.  And I have a free twenty minutes…  You want to go have not feelings somewhere?”

~Grey’s Anatomy

There is a reason I date women.  Haven’t dated men (um, you know, until recently….  and PC not included, bc he breaks every man ‘rule’ I’ve ever known, lol).   I have recently RE-discovered all the reasons why I find females so much easier to date.  I KNOW how a girl thinks.  9.5 times out of 10 what she is thinking- I am thinking/have thought/felt.  I would do. I can *relate*. Men confuse the hell out of me!  I SUCK AT IT.  I suck at trying to figure out what they are thinking.  How much is too much?  How little is too little?!  Dewey wrote a post a bit ago and it really struck home and it’s what I have recently tried to keep forefront in my thoughts.  Call it “What would Dewey do….” if you will.  *LOL*

He talks a lot about NSA sex.  Hmm.  I have noticed I am not very good at this. I’d like to be.  If I weren’t left wondering so much.  I think too much.  I obsess.  I’m trying to work on that more.  But….hell, I’m a girl.  I’m not flippant about my feelings.

Damn how I wish I could be sometimes though…..

There should be an instruction manual for dating guys.  Maybe I need to invest in “Dating for Dummies”.  Hell, I can use all the help I can get!

(does practice make perfect?!?!)

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

Friday Favorites-
I did end up having enough time to make rounds.  Two wow’ed me….

My Hot Raven…..

Roxy.….

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I’m free! I’m free!!!  I begrudgingly drug my feet regarding jury duty this past week..  Many of you heard me complain.  I know it’s my civic duty, I should feel honored to get to help out in our wonderful judicious process, blah, blah, blah….  Here was the MAIN issue.  I LIKE being home.  I am responsible for a farm full of animals.  I have a 5mo old puppy that is only partially housebroken bc she is always in my lap or tagging close beside as I do chores.  Which means when I’m gone, she’s NOT even partially so (bc she hides under the bed from PC…don’t even ask why *shaking head*  ALTHOUGH, I do think they bonded a bit with me gone).  I do NOT like being away from home.  I do not like not being able to keep up with my house.  Or with my animals.  Or seeing my kiddos.  And not being able to keep PC in his happy place when his day gets stressful.  It was just difficult being away from my home for twelve hours a day,  especially for four whole days……
 
So as it turned out, most civil cases last a day.  And are usually painfully dull.  They cover minute things like broken contracts, small law suits, etc.  The trial I served on was a carry over from a criminal case, where the mother of the plaintiff thought the defendant had only received a slap on the wrist and wanted justice to be served.  For the defendant to truly understand what he did was wrong. Think….OJ Simpson.  Family didn’t feel justice was served in his criminal trial so they brought him to trial for punitive damages.  Same deal here.

Let’s just say….teens, sexting and fathers with guns….not a good combo.

Bc of this the trial was very long.  I missed my family. I missed my home.  My family missed me.  My house missed me (as was evident by how trashed it became w/o my typical upkeep, lol).  I am behind on everything…..blech.  BUT that said.  While the super early mornings sucked (I didn’t love having to be up by 5:00am in the morning I am a NIGHT person, nooooooooooooot a morning person.  The last time I got up that early was to make our flight for Vegas.  Yeah…having to wake up for a VACATION is way more fun than having to get up to drive an hour away to the court house. Blech) and the long days exhausting….now that it’s all over and done with it was a very enlightening experience.  Very valuable I think.  Interesting also in that I was the youngest juror and definitely the most….open minded and open EYED to teens, sex and our society.  I felt for both sides, very unfortunate situation but did find myself feeling some compassion for the plaintiff most of all.  The other, older jurors, who I will classify as ‘naive’, we didn’t really see eye to eye.  The case was shocking, upsetting and outrageous we all agreed, but in different aspects and for different reasons.

As I said, positive experience to have had and walk away from.

On the plus side, the case gave gave me several different ideas for CQW!  AND the highlight of my mornings was Starbucks drive through.  (Oh!  They have a new drink… Dark Cherry Mocha….YUM-MY!  And I don’t even LIKE Chocolate!)

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Have a fabulous weekend!

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

…or what’s waiting for us when we get there. But the one thing we can say for sure, with absolute certainty…….is there are moments that take us to another place. Moments of heaven on Earth. And maybe for now, that’s all we need to know.
~Grey’s Anatomy

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Tomorrow is maybe (hopefully, oh please please please) my last day of Jury Duty.  I’m having serious, SERIOUS withdrawals from PC, my family, animals, friends, RUNNING and internet.  *sigh*

HappyHNT!!!

~ xo

Vixen