Who knew Vixen’s latest trips to Vegas and my reactions would generate so much feedback and interest? Actually, I sort of had an idea a while ago.
There is so much that is regarded as taboo that can be quite sexually stimulating when you allow it. The problem is we’re so pre-programmed that we often avoid fun and excitement. The sad part is we’ll do and make our spouses less fulfilled in the process. The issue isn’t to force things upon our mates. It’s to explore possibilities– together. And that’s really the key. Another important factor is making sure you’re not in a quid pro quo relationship. Sure you might be able to make some things work. But what happens when you actually hit up against a wall that your spouse can’t go beyond? Are you going to hold your mate hostage until you get what you want? These are just some of the things I’ve had to personally deal with over recent weeks.
When Vixen and I first discussed the topic of cuckolding, it was very strange and awkward. I can’t say that I was actually into it. And she didn’t even know what it was. This is what we knew at the time:
- I was into the idea of kink, but didn’t know what I really liked. Bondage sounded good to me– not so much to her
- Vixen had been in a fairly controlling relationship, so being jealous of things was never going to resonate well with her
- She has a lot of anxieties– so getting her to open up to new things is beyond difficult
- She’s very passive-aggressive
- I am expected to be in charge and a leader during my day-to-day life, which gets to be quite taxing
- She loves to flirt
- She loves to be flirted with
- She loves to be pursued and hates to pursue (except when it came to me)
- She’s into girls and not guys
- Okay, she hates to admit that she does get turned on by some guys (but don’t tell anyone)
With those things in mind, we talked about swinging and things like that. What we found out was she was very open to the subject, as long as I didn’t do any actual swinging. Hmm… that didn’t sound like swinging to me. That was something all together different. But we still didn’t know what to call it– perhaps “one way hinge”.
During the course of these discussions, we actually found something that she was really into. She loved the idea of telling me to do anything she wanted and I couldn’t say “no”. This was a huge discovery, especially if we could figure out a way to exploit it. Needless to say, the first few ideas were a bit less than convenient, especially for me. But it might give you an insight into how her mind works.
Bearing in mind that Vixen enjoys women and that so many of the women we’ve come across are married, she came up with her “circumstances” request of me. There was the chance that we might come across a couple, consisting of a bi-sexual woman. Well, she wanted me to run interference for her with the guy. Seriously! That’s what she wanted of me. Now, go back to the previous paragraph for review. A new found turn on for her was to tell me to do something and for me to go along with it.
Well, this concept was a huge stretch for me. Basically, she was asking me to be bi or to do bi-sexual acts myself, which I was not sure I was okay with. It was one thing for her to do things, it was another for me. I can remember when this came up. It was around the time Casino Royale came out with the new James Bond. The reason I know that is it was the first movie we ever went to together. And after the movie was over, she marveled at me bragging about the new guy. He was the first believable James Bond since Sean Connery. But he also had this build… Anyway, you get the idea. She found an opening and began teasing me with it, which I resented at first. I fought her teasings with all my might. But she ended things by asking me to at least keep an open mind. I felt that was a reasonable request on her part and so I agreed.
As time passed, she began exploring the idea of “circumstances” more and more. It wasn’t always in the context of me running interference for her. She changed things slightly. She began to discuss the possibility of her being with the guy too and with me sitting there all tied up and helpless. All I could do was watch her. That started to get me a bit excited. My hot wife getting it on with a couple, especially with another guy, was a tremendous turn on for me. And so we began discussing it further and further. Eventually, she added new dimensions to it.
Up until recently, this has pretty much been the extent of our discussions. She has trained me well over the past couple of years. When we first met, I really didn’t even care for sex. I was a night time sex person at best. I had so many anxieties associated with it. I didn’t mind doing other things. But intercourse was not my thing. She, on the other hand, was into morning sex, afternoon sex, etc. Basically, she wanted sex all the time.
This was a problem for us for a couple of reasons. Apart from the lack of libido on my part, I was a morning person and she was a night owl. She was never really ready for sex until I was already asleep or on the verge of it. This created a lot of tension at one point. And I felt guilty and started to take it out on her. But when you love someone, you try to find ways to adapt and to cope to please your mate. In my case, I had to deal with more sex. And not only that, but I had to deal with the fact that I wasn’t always that great at recovering to have multiple orgasms a day. One was enough to leave me feeling quite drained and not very clear headed.
Over time, my routine has morphed considerably. It’s not really important how we do foreplay. What’s important is that we do it, and during the middle of the day. But in order to handle the part of me getting horribly tired, she added a new dimension. I was only allowed to cum on command. Okay, this is like herding ducks. But in keeping with her turn underlying turn on, we tried this. And we tried it some more. You know what? We’ve gotten pretty good at it. I am only allowed to cum during our night time sessions. And if I don’t stay awake to have them, then it’s my loss. Because during the day time, I am expected to service her at least once or twice. We cannot stop any session until she has at least two orgasms. And for me…
Well, I am getting slowly introduced into this new world of watching and assisting my wife in her being pleasured. And that’s giving me a new high, which lasts a lot longer than I ever expected. Sure, so far we’re talking about orgasm denial and about her being pleased by another man. We haven’t gone down the other paths yet. Perhaps there’s no need for it. The point is we’ve found something that apparently works for both of us. And we’re starting to experiment a bit.
Would I like to watch her? I think so. You never really know how you’re gonna feel about something until after it’s over. The problem with going to the next level is that I can come across as a bit intimidating. I can’t really imagine someone skinny calling me a bitch. As Vixen has put it, I will definitely have to be tied up– probably so the other guy will be comfortable.
For me, it’s simple. I made her a promise to not tell her “no”. It’s not always the easiest thing to live up to. But I love trying and devoting myself to my wife.
~PC
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TFT is UP. Oddly/amazingly enough we have almost as many guy contributors this week as we do girls. Hmm… Will wonders ever cease! Women, step it up (lol)! Anyway, go check it out!
The site is always looking for contributors. If you’ve thought about wanting to do it- there is no time like the present! If you have before but it’s been awhile- we miss you! All you have to do to help support our troops is EMAIL ME! Help boost some morale!
~ xo
Vixen
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