Comments on: CQW- Being the other woman, you get all the presents and you get all th sex and no laundry http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:22:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Lolita http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-19344 Lolita Sun, 03 Feb 2008 14:42:00 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-19344 Tough one... I dont know. I did it for a few months with George and we all know how THAT ended ( I won, I won, I won!!!). Obviously people find "another" for a reason, they're not happy. If they were happy there would be no "you", so eventually something has to give. In my case, luckily they had to children etc so it was fairly easy to walk away. Honestly, I dont know how long I could have gone on. I knew I loved him and we tried many times to sort of walk away and keep our distance and we just couldn't do it. I would do it again all over in a heartbeat though. He's definately worth it! Tough one… I dont know. I did it for a few months with George and we all know how THAT ended ( I won, I won, I won!!!). Obviously people find “another” for a reason, they’re not happy. If they were happy there would be no “you”, so eventually something has to give. In my case, luckily they had to children etc so it was fairly easy to walk away. Honestly, I dont know how long I could have gone on. I knew I loved him and we tried many times to sort of walk away and keep our distance and we just couldn’t do it. I would do it again all over in a heartbeat though. He’s definately worth it!

]]> By: rob http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-19044 rob Thu, 31 Jan 2008 06:12:24 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-19044 I could perhaps do it long-term if I each of us had their own primary relationship. But in reality things would change over time and one partner would end up sabotaging everything. Don't do it! Unless it's with me. ;) I could perhaps do it long-term if I each of us had their own primary relationship. But in reality things would change over time and one partner would end up sabotaging everything.

Don’t do it! Unless it’s with me. ;)

]]> By: mamatulip http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-19019 mamatulip Thu, 31 Jan 2008 01:28:59 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-19019 One of my oldest friends' mother is the other woman. She has been for as long as I can remember. I always thought it was strange, but I have the 'to each is own' mentality, you know? I personally don't think I could be the other woman long term. For one, my conscience is way too big. Guilt would eat me up (assuming his wife didn't know about me). Two...I would worry about safety. About safe sex. If I was his other woman, was there another one? Was he protecting himself when he slept with his wife? Those things would eat away at me. So yeah. No. I couldn't do it. One of my oldest friends’ mother is the other woman. She has been for as long as I can remember. I always thought it was strange, but I have the ‘to each is own’ mentality, you know?

I personally don’t think I could be the other woman long term. For one, my conscience is way too big. Guilt would eat me up (assuming his wife didn’t know about me). Two…I would worry about safety. About safe sex. If I was his other woman, was there another one? Was he protecting himself when he slept with his wife? Those things would eat away at me.

So yeah. No. I couldn’t do it.

]]> By: Kel http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-19011 Kel Wed, 30 Jan 2008 22:01:22 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-19011 I think I could do it, if I were unattached that is. Sometimes I think that being in a relationship with no strings would be a nice change of pace. I'd still have my own space, not have to share with a man. If anything ever happened to me and my husband I'd say I'd go for one of these relationships. The security of the guy not leaving his other family and making things complicated sounds appealing. No muss no fuss. I think I could do it, if I were unattached that is. Sometimes I think that being in a relationship with no strings would be a nice change of pace. I’d still have my own space, not have to share with a man. If anything ever happened to me and my husband I’d say I’d go for one of these relationships. The security of the guy not leaving his other family and making things complicated sounds appealing. No muss no fuss.

]]> By: stealth http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-19000 stealth Wed, 30 Jan 2008 19:07:41 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-19000 I couldn't do it. I would be too sad. :( I couldn’t do it. I would be too sad. :(

]]> By: Professor Fate http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-18995 Professor Fate Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:48:45 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-18995 I have played the "other" man. I was fine with it. I didn't want commitment. Both of relationships crashed and burned (I think needing or wanting another man/women may be a sign that the relationship needs work). I have played the “other” man. I was fine with it. I didn’t want commitment. Both of relationships crashed and burned (I think needing or wanting another man/women may be a sign that the relationship needs work).

]]> By: Mike Y http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-18985 Mike Y Wed, 30 Jan 2008 14:40:30 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-18985 I'm really not sure I could be the "other woman" long term. In the short term... jk ;) Honestly, I simply couldn't do it very well. I could be friends. Really good friends. But it couldn't be much more than that. You know how emotionally attached I get. Do you think I could handle such a thing? I have never been in quite this type of situation. I do remember that when I was fresh out of boot camp, I became friends with a couple of girls at UCF. One was in a LTR with a truck driver who lived almost an hour away from her and saw her once a week. I was asked to stay off base with the two girls and eventually something developed between me and the one girl. The first time something "happened" I stopped her. I didn't feel right at all about it. But the next time... nothing much happened. She taught me how to french kiss and that was about it. We stayed good friends and there was always a bit of special chemistry. Anyway, my big thing is I need to be needed and trusted. I could never be satisfied as a 3rd wheel. I’m really not sure I could be the “other woman” long term. In the short term… jk ;)

Honestly, I simply couldn’t do it very well. I could be friends. Really good friends. But it couldn’t be much more than that. You know how emotionally attached I get. Do you think I could handle such a thing?

I have never been in quite this type of situation. I do remember that when I was fresh out of boot camp, I became friends with a couple of girls at UCF. One was in a LTR with a truck driver who lived almost an hour away from her and saw her once a week. I was asked to stay off base with the two girls and eventually something developed between me and the one girl. The first time something “happened” I stopped her. I didn’t feel right at all about it. But the next time… nothing much happened. She taught me how to french kiss and that was about it. We stayed good friends and there was always a bit of special chemistry.

Anyway, my big thing is I need to be needed and trusted. I could never be satisfied as a 3rd wheel.

]]> By: Bunny http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-18979 Bunny Wed, 30 Jan 2008 12:28:55 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-18979 I could not handle such a relationship long-term, not if I was in love. The jealousy would poison it for me. Knowing he was sleeping in her bed every night, spending holidays and vacations with his wife and children, etc would just be too hard. My 39-year-old SIL's two long-term relationships have both been as "the other woman." I've seen how painful that was for her and would never want that. She had been with one guy for several years and he told her that he was not even sleeping in the same room as his wife. Yet somehow he and his wife had two more children in that time. Nope. I definitely couldn't do that long-term. <i>LOVE</i> the hump day pic! Something about the thong being pulled off by the stiletto . . . I could not handle such a relationship long-term, not if I was in love. The jealousy would poison it for me. Knowing he was sleeping in her bed every night, spending holidays and vacations with his wife and children, etc would just be too hard.

My 39-year-old SIL’s two long-term relationships have both been as “the other woman.” I’ve seen how painful that was for her and would never want that. She had been with one guy for several years and he told her that he was not even sleeping in the same room as his wife. Yet somehow he and his wife had two more children in that time.

Nope. I definitely couldn’t do that long-term.

LOVE the hump day pic! Something about the thong being pulled off by the stiletto . . .

]]> By: MsBehavn http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-18978 MsBehavn Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:46:30 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-18978 Well, I've been the Other Woman for over three years now. I had no idea that our relationship would last this long. Admittedly, the rules have changed from when it all started and I should have walked away the minute his Primary Relationship shut down. But I didn't. It's inevitable that at some point you WILL wake up wanting more than you're getting. I know that I have. Well, I’ve been the Other Woman for over three years now. I had no idea that our relationship would last this long. Admittedly, the rules have changed from when it all started and I should have walked away the minute his Primary Relationship shut down. But I didn’t.

It’s inevitable that at some point you WILL wake up wanting more than you’re getting. I know that I have.

]]> By: SS http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2008/01/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/comment-page-1/#comment-18965 SS Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:00:48 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/cqw-being-the-other-woman-you-get-all-the-presents-and-you-get-all-th-sex-and-no-laundry/#comment-18965 I think I cold be "kept". Under the right circumstances. I mean I dn't do emotion much so all the stuff that goes along with that wouldn't apply. So I guess I'd say if the money was right and I could play on the side without putting my sugar momma in jepordy I spect I could do it for a long time. I think I cold be “kept”. Under the right circumstances. I mean I dn’t do emotion much so all the stuff that goes along with that wouldn’t apply. So I guess I’d say if the money was right and I could play on the side without putting my sugar momma in jepordy I spect I could do it for a long time.

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