i smile too much

i have a random question 4 u that doesnt have anything to do with this cqw… which, btw– i think is semi*ridiculous bcuz little kid spankings & deviant sexual behavior don’t add up to me – but anyways~ : ) (lol)

my question is that i noticed i can get here to your blog by my internet explorer browser. no problem.

but i cant if i’m in my aol browser… is that because of what you blocked personally or is that a setting on your blog?

i ask because i wanna do the same to my blog so that i dont have anonymous aol ip addresses (cause i had some crazy ass stalkers freaking me out, threatening, obsessing, pretending to be others they werent and so on & so forth w/ me recently…..)

hope my question makes some sense- let me know how you did that or else ignore me if my question is too confusing (lol) ; )

  Kel

Oh my, the things they come up with. I was raised where we got the occasional spanking. As an adult I’m not into spanking. So yea…I honestly think that after you get in all others answers, you’ll blow this “research” out of the water. :) Happy Wednesday.

  Mike Y

I think that is total nonsense. My folks were very straight laced and so were my grandparents. I can’t tell you how much I was spanked as a child. And believe it or not, I didn’t enjoy it a single bit.

With respect to BDSM now, I think I like it, though I really haven’t played in it. I find a lot of the elements to be arousing and interesting to me. And seeing I am usually very conservative and in charge, putting all that aside for a few moments sounds like quite the escape.

Now there other elements which are an absolute turn off too. But to categorically deride BDSM is absurd. Not all of it is deviant. Frankly, who here would think it deviant to see Vixen dressed up in latex? If you think it is deviant, how many of you would like to be deviant with her???

And I could only be so lucky to ever have Vixen spank my ass. Sadly, that’s not her thing. And when I try to spank my own ass, I just end up looking like I’m playing horsy.

  Mojito Mojo

*SNORT* at Mike’s last paragraph. If I hear neighing in the extra room while you guys are here…
Anyway – I was spanked as a kid and I’m pretty reserved, sexually speaking. I think it IS another tactic to keep parents from disciplining their children AND to taboo BDSM. Pitiful.

  Bunny

Picturing Mike spanking himself . . . LOL!!

I think this “research” is a bit ridiculous. There may be the occasional person whose experience with discipline as a child affects their adult interactions (perhaps adults with unresolved feelings of abandonment or people whose only touch or attention from their parents was discipline so they long for that type of touch . . . ), but I really don’t think the occasional spanking turns kids into BDSM aficionados. And so what if it does? They make it sound like it’s a bad thing . . .

  D

bs. complete and total bs. i was spanked as a kid but have no overwhelming desire to be spanked now. and i don’t even think it is a scare tactic. i just think it was a way for someone to get money from someone else to do a study so that they didn’t have to get a real job. put two “taboo” subjects together and it will get people’s attention.

anyone want to help me with a study i’m considering? i want to see if there is a link between having frequent diaper rash as a kid and being into anal sex. of course i will have to personally find out just “how” into anal sex the female subjects are but that it will purely be research.

  Haaaaaaa

I love these studies. It links two factors which may or may not have a direct correlation. With the right circumstances, any two things (e.g., rubbing crunchy peanut butter on your dick and serial killing) may be correlated with each other.

In the end (not literally), what this says is how much people have it in for people who like and talk about sex. Sex is less tolerated than violence. People walk away from you really quick if kinky sex is involved, but a guy like OJ is still admired by many, given refuge in people’s homes, and dates a hot chick who it looks like he is beating up. One picture of OJ with nipple clamps, though, and his life is over.

  mina

thanks for the link… that part of his post made me crack up too! I was spanked as a child but not often. And yes, I am into BDSM today… but I don’t think that makes me a person who has “sexual problems” as the article implies. Sylvanus was raised in a church going straight edge family… his discovery of his sadistic side unsettled him at first. But he embraces it now. So perhaps getting spanked as a child makes you more able to embrace your S or M side. But really, the whole idea that there is a connection between spankings and growing up with BDSM tendencies is ridiculous!

  mamatulip

I’m not really into spanking as a sexual thing, nor is it something that I do with my kids on a regular basis, but I have spanked both of them before, once. It was a situation that I felt warranted a spanking and I never once thought while I was doing it that they’d grow up being sexual deviants.

I have to wonder if this study wasn’t drawn up by media outlets to create a spark during an otherwise slow newsday/week.

  Professor Fate

Junk science. The “researchers” had a result in mind before they did their “study”. If you are not going to be academically honest, you can prove anything.

“There are three types of lies – lies, damn lies, and statistics.” – Variously attributed to Benjamin Disraeli, Alfred Marshall, Mark Twain and many other dead people.

  CMW

To say I was spanked as a child would be an complete understatement. I would say, I had the shit beat out of me quite a bit. So much so, my older sister would hide me from our mother and take the beatings so I wouldn’t get hit.

Am I into BDSM? Not really. I do like a light nipple pinching or a smack on the hiney, but that’s about it.

I don’t think being spanked has anything to do with BDSM.

  madame x

OMG… what a completely ridiculous study. I can see the researchers theory because it is said that people who are sexually abused tend to grow up to be abusers also. There is a link and I think they are trying to take the same type of link and generalize it for anything they find ‘different.’

I was spanked occasionally as a child when warranted (at least for what my parents thought were the biggies). I don’t believe that because of this made me pre-disposed to participating in BDSM. I will admit, ~grinning~ I enjoy getting spanked, hair pulling, etc. but it doesn’t make me or Yummy a deviant in this area. It just makes me *FUN*! :)

  NY Diva

I thought the same thing when I saw that article. It’s sad how BDSM is seen as this awful thing.

I actually just wanted to comment to say that I second you on knowing someone raised by church going strict people and he is one of the kinkiest people I know. And I thank God for that every time he spanks me. ;)

  Rae

I said something similar on Syl and Mina’s blog too, but I think this is completely ridiculous. Yes, some people might grow up and like spankings who were spanked as children, other children who were never spanked may grow up and want to be spanked too. I’m in the later category. It’s all a matter of degrees frankly, if you are obsessed and have fetishized spanking to an unhealthy degree, then maybe there is something about spankings in your childhood that have caused that desire, but really? The average person who wants to be spanked just likes it, whether because it is the thrill of something a little “kinkier” or because of the way their lover can make them feel about it.

  Vixen

i smile too much- I’m going to email you. :)

Mike- *shaking head at you spanking your own ass*
Sadly, my parents didn’t spank enough. You’ll have to take that up with my dad.

  Vixen

Mojito- you and the others hit it dead on. A way to make parents feel badly or afraid to use spanking as discipline and adults feel badly for their possible BDSM habits.

Prof Fate- love the quote…totally agreed.

  Lucia

I love the color contrast…the soft pinks against the baby blue against the creamy skin…scrumptious :-)

happy HNT!