Biscuit

A friend or family memeber’s SO or ex-SO would be off limits for me. Age is a borderline thing. I had a huge crush on a friend/co-worker at the gym, and then found out “25-ish” was actually “19,” and it made me feel kind of icky. Being invited to a party and spending the evening hanging out with the DAD stung a bit, too. It’s funny now, but it wasn’t at the time. *LOL*

  Mojito Mojo

It’s different to me if it’s going to be a fling or a relationship. I have different standards for each, lol. Certainly, incest is off limits. Not about to bone my second cousin or anything like that! And as long as they’re of legal age, I’m good with it.

  madame x

Hmm… that’s a tough one. I’m probably not a good one for this one as I’ve had flings with guys involved in other relationships *coughYummycough*. I guess the one standard that I have is that I’m not going to be in a fling with any of my students any time soon! lol

  TUG

I hesitated to answer this. Most people say age difference isn’t an issue, but I’ve seen it creep up as an issue with people I know (only those in a relationship, not a fling).

I used to say that SO of friends, etc…but, well that didn’t work out ;)

But now…all is off limits.

  Troll

I did a Mother and Daughter. That sort of fits both questions. 15 years apart. I was younger than Mom and older than daughter obviously.

  Flyinfox_SATX

I am getting married in about 10 days. Everything will be “Off Limits” for me.

Flyinfox_SATX

  Professor Fate

For a relationship I find age an issue (and it isn’t age as much as a lack experience and a lack of depth).

For a fling, no one is safe. I have bedded friends and friend’s SO. I have bedded women who are engaged and married. I have been with both halves of a lesbian “marriage” (though neither knew about the other – they were friends of mine). I have been with twins and roommates. I have dumped daughters because their mother was more interesting. I have “dated” the bosses daughter (if she didn’t tell him I was about to). The closest thing to a rule I have is I no longer date people I work with (I learned that lesson the hard way).

P.S. If any of my friends or family or anyone else want the ex-wife they can have her.

  Shaun

Co-workers are off limits. Other than that, if they’re of legal age, it’s all good.

  The Covert Lover

Should be off limits in my opinion – Blood Relatives, Step-parents, step-sibilings, in laws, etc. Or exes of your parents or children.
For just a fling, an ex of your sibling seems ok, but if your sibling has children with them, it would just be too wierd to have a serious relationship. Imagine if you had to explain to your niece that her Daddy is fixing to become her uncle as well!
For a serious relationship – anyone younger than your children, even if they are of legal age. I just don’t think that’s cool, but again a fling seems harmless.

And for me personally off limits – any ex or “crush” of the really important people in my life.

  mamatulip

In high school I dated a guy almost right after my best friend dated him and it was like, no big thing. Of course back then I wasn’t doing the nasty with him, or anyone else for that matter, KWIM?

In college I dated a guy very briefly and when it ended I found out that one of my close friends had gone in for the kill. I was surprised with my reaction – I really thought I could shrug it off but instead I was super pissed off.

If Dave and I broke up and one of my friends went for him I’d be really bothered by that too. So yes – I think there are people who, in certain situations, are off-limits. I think though that it depends on your age and what level of intimacy you’re at with the person. Like when I was in HS it didn’t bother me so much because I wasn’t sleeping w/ him but in college, when I was more, uh, *experienced*, it did bother me. You know?

  tomscockwhore

Hi Vixen -
Just wanted to stop in and say HI! I’m back after being gone on hiatus for several months. I got a comment from not2shy and went to visit his site which led me to yours since we were digging the Lick It song. SUPER!!

I agree with the boundaries with exes and such, there is always a fine line.

  blueballs

I know I am a day late. Great topic Vix….big wink. Wonder where you got it?

I have friend who used to be a student at a school I worked at while I worked there. She is now in her mid 20s and we bumped into each other again and now have are friends. Well she made it pretty clear and gave me the green light if I wanted it.

I didn’t for numerous reasons but the main one was I still see her as a high schooler… I know that’s hot to some but not to me LOL