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I’m sure that some SO’s know a body better than the individual. That could be the case.

However…and I’m probably going to be poo-poo’d for this…maybe achieving a fast and (I’m assuming) powerful orgasm isn’t what she wants all the time. Maybe having him down there for an extended period of time, taking his time, is really what she craves. It could be about attention–being the focus of everything—or maybe the fast orgasms can be a bit “much” for her, She might be very, very sensitive and prefers a slow build up. Everyone should be open minded (do it her way sometimes, his way other times).

Huh. Okay, so I just went off on a huge tangent. Sorry. But, anyway, in answer to your question: yes, I think it’s possible for someone to know a “person’s” body better than him/herself–there’s probably something behind that though. In my case, though…no, no one knows my body better than me. Being the Queen of Masturbation will do that to a girl. ;)

  Amorous Rocker

I think it is. There are spots on me that my boyfriend KNOWS to hit that I’m not even sure exactly where they are. I can feel it when he does it but if I go looking, I can’t ever find these two points in particular. My guys knows my body extremely well. Even when we play with a toy together, he does it just as well as I do. He can even tell by my breathing, facial expressions and poses what to do in terms of faster, slower, harder, etc. I do prefer to do that on my own most of the time still though.

I rarely have to direct him at all unless it’s just something specific that pops into my head that I want right then and there. Mostly, he has me down and needs little direction at all. It rocks hard.

Now I’ve had ex lovers of the make and female persuasion who I was with dozens of times and it was like they needed a map on plenty occasions, lol.

With your friend… his way may make her cum better all around but maybe she just physically prefers her method? Some people it’s more getting there that counts versus the end result. Maybe that’s all it is with her. Though it’s always nice to take in consideration the time and strain you’re putting on your partners mouth, lol. =X

I’m rambling. Sorry! =) Great topic today! XoXo.

  Mike Y

I would imagine she probably has some sensations she craves and which are brought out by having him do certain things. That’s not to say it’s supposed to result in greater Os.

You know me pretty well and have made a regular habit of doing things to me that are much better than what I would have guided/instructed you to do for me. Having said that, some of the sensations that I crave the most might never result in orgasms. Is one better than the other? I think it’s just different.

In the end, I like sharing with you the things I like, dislike, crave and even fantasize about. Likewise, I like you sharing the same with me. How we meet each other’s desires is what makes our chemistry so great. At least that’s my opinion. I love the things you do and say to me ;)

  CMW

I know for a fact that my SO knows my body better than me. As someone who didn’t masturbate for the first time, until they were 26, my SO knows the in’s and out’s of me. And I know that he knows exactly what to do to bring on the big O!!

  SeaRabbit

Not sure if I understand well the question… but could it be that she prefers having it slow than fast??? Nice to get there quick and easy, but, the ride is sometimes something to enjoy too??

  Professor Fate

I know hers better than she does. There are some things she knows she likes but I have learned all of them. I have found (well more like shown) her places on her body that produce a response.

But I don’t think that is necessarily their (his) issue. If she is directing him, guiding him, she is not relaxing and enjoying what he is doing to her.

a) If it is good then lay back and enjoy it.
b) If you want something specific ask for it then lay back and enjoy it.
c) If it isn’t good, see b.

  Osbasso

MikeY–”…That’s not to say it’s supposed to result in greater Os… ” So I get better, the more her cravings are taken care of? ;-)

  Mike Y

LOL, I suppose so, Os. :)

  Biscuit

Well, gee, I guess there’s no faking an orgasm… The first thing I thought was that she’s letting him think he’s rockin’ it so that she doesn’t hurt his feelings, but she’s gotten brave and is trying to get what she needs by giving directions. Takes longer because they aren’t really in sync.

Completely different take on what everyone else said, I suppose.

  AJ

I agree with Biscuit, I imagine it’s more likely that when he does it “His way” she is faking to get it over with. If she’s giving instructions, she wants it a different way so that she can have a real orgasm. Sometimes it takes a while, especially if he’s resistant to giving her what she really wants.

I have known guys who will start to do what I want then go back to their way in a couple of minutes and frankly it totally throws me off… back to square one…