If you have a “type” chances are strong that when you look back – your “type” may create the strongest attraction for you, but not the strongest relationships -CQW
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I was talking with a friend the other day and she was talking about an argument her husband and her had gotten in. She had made an off-handed/teasing/joking comment to him about him not being her ‘type’. The comment struck a chord with him and he ended up dwelling on it (in girl terms, ‘obsessing’…lol). Long story short, the end result was that they got into an argument over the topic. He questioned her being with him, could she really be ‘in love with him’ if he wasn’t her type.
Her point was, the fact that she had fallen in love with him, despite him not being her type, was actually pretty huge. She had been ‘WOWed’ by him enough for it not to matter that he wasn’t her usual ‘type’ she dated or was attracted to originally. Which is a good point.
“Push past your type to see who might be a far better, longer lasting and happier match for you.”
Dating for Women – He’s Not “My” Type
By Ronnie Ann Ryan
And it got me thinking. About my type. Do I have a type? I think about girls I’m attracted to…. Once upon a time I would have said someone like Jennifer Anniston…Jenna Jameson. Slim, blonde, pretty, girly, feminine…. BUT then I think about every girl I’ve been attracted to or been in a relationship of sorts with in the last few years. And uh…none of them fit that description. LOL! (ok, one of them did, she was a short term summer ‘fling’) What it comes down to is not my initial reaction or attraction (or lack there of, whatever the case may be). They pursue me. They wow me. The girls who have pursued me, the dark, mysterious personalities that everyone else is falling head over heels for but they still chose ME. THAT is who I’ve been with.
Men. I used to think I had a type. But that in itself was difficult, bc as a general rule, I’m not attracted to men really. But a cut bod. Surfer type, guy used to do it for me. Until I realized (as I matured, doh!)….no. What does it for me is the guy that holds doors open for me. Acts as if and treats me like I am the most beautiful creature in his presence, wants to take care of me and protect me…but at the same time help me grow, and let me be me. THAT is a huge turn on. And the more I got thinking about that….huh. I found him. AND he does have a cut bod to boot. ~grins~
The Girl Next Door:
52% Sexy-Cute, 57% Dark-Light, 64% Artsy-Stylish
Cute, neither Dark nor Light, and neither Artsy nor Stylish. This sounds like a blah category, right? Oh, my, no. The Girl Next Door has been the subject of more dirty fantasies than you could possibly count. She’s so sweet, and innocent, and infinitely corruptible. Every morning you glance out your window hoping she’ll have forgotten to draw the blinds. You may feel bad about it, but you know you’ll be doing it again tomorrow.
The Your Type of Girl Test
Action movie star:
You scored 55% masculine, 52% athletic, 54% exotic, and 56% refined!
You love a manly man and you don’t have time for boys. You like someone who looks exotic and who takes care of his body and hygiene. That is a good idea in case you are trying to eat jello shooters off of his beautiful 6 pack. Someone like…..Jean-Claude Van Damme, Belgium’s hottest export. But let’s face it, the whole point of this was to look at a bunch of hot guys.
(seriously….I do NOT care for *this* particular man, barf, LMAO!)
The What type of MAN turns you on Test
What is YOUR type? Not just what the silly test says, lol. But what you think is your type? And would you consider the person you are with now (if you are), ‘your type’?
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July 16th, 2008 at 3:26 am
I don’t have a type too much.
My top three girl crushes. One is a redhead, kind of shy, athletic body, quiet demeanor, book worm, articulate and very cute in a girl next door kind of way.
Another is black haired, dark eyes, dark make-up, dark clothing, several piercings, very curvy, several tats, total metal chick badass. Loud, flirty and very fun.
Another is a blonde, green eyes, athletic, bubbly, a little ditzy, hilarious, great to talk to, imaginative and fun to be around.
They’re all very different and I just adore all three of them. I couldn’t care less what “look”
they have. Girl next door, geeky girl, goth girl and lots of in betweens.
Same goes for guys. I’ve been with pretty boys, badasses, jocks, bad boys, goth boys and lots of other physical cliches.
I will admit that the darker ones usually get me more but I am not a particular person when it comes to looks. Like I’ve listed, I pretty much can find something attract in most anyone and I never stick with one particular look of physical cliche. It’s the personality and character that interests me beyond the first five minutes, no matter what looks they’re rocking. =)
DanaJuly 16th, 2008 at 5:24 am
Well …
The Girl Next Door
77% Sexy-Cute, 57% Dark-Light, 58% Artsy-Stylish
Exotic bad-ass
You scored 80% masculine, 71% athletic, 64% exotic, and 44% refined!
No surprises there, but I must admit, the older I get, the less I care about the initial physical attraction. Sure, they are fun to look at, but do they chew with their mouth closed??
Mojito MojoJuly 16th, 2008 at 6:23 am
Physical attraction is a HUGE thing with me. But I keep them different. Hot people=one night stand. Good looking, kind-hearted and respectful=relationship and holds my heart.
Professor FateJuly 16th, 2008 at 8:48 am
I don’t have a physical type other than “cute”. I have loved women with all body types: short tall and in between, busty or not so busty, great legs, great ass or not so much. What is makes her “my type” are the intangible things: sense of humor, not quite as crazy as many of the females who inhabit our planet (I have missed this more than I have hit it), some one with enough self esteem that they are not jealous (at least overtly jealous), someone who is at peace with themselves intellectually (I have no interest in someone who feels the need to prove how smart she is by correcting inconsequential typos are grammar mistakes if I am getting my point across, but she needs to smart enough to ask questions and say “I don’t know”). I don’t want or expect her to be “perfect”. Individual flaws and foibles make a person interesting.
Mojito is right. If I am initially attracted to someone because she is “cute” and she doesn’t meet my requirements the “relationship” will never be more than sexual. It may not last more than 3 to 6 hours.
BronxbtJuly 16th, 2008 at 8:48 am
didn’t take the test, don’t need to.
always had it secretly bad for blondes, but found that i ended up dating mostly firey redheads (and it tends to be tru.. as in “what they say”) and burnettes. the brown-haired splendids tend to be more aggressive and grounded. something i like
overall….
… if they didn’t / don’t let me open the door for them, screw it. i do it outta respect and love, like yer man does for you.
;)
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Professor FateJuly 16th, 2008 at 8:58 am
The Favorite Friend
70% Sexy-Cute, 72% Dark-Light, 64% Artsy-Stylish
Cute, Light, and neither Artsy nor Stylish, she’s that friend we’ve all had. The great girl. The one we’ve been friends with since the third grade. The one who laughs at our jokes and sends funny text messages. The one with whom we secretly, desperately want to crawl under the covers and spend the next eighteen hours naked.
BiscuitJuly 16th, 2008 at 10:14 am
I definitely have a type for guys, as far as who I am attracted to. Personality wise, it’s the Big 4: Funny, kind, intelligent, and confident. Looks wise, it’s dark curly hair. Gets me every time.
My scores…For girls it was the Hot Friend. I would agree with it, except it called me a jackass! Sheesh. I HAVE been told that I would make a great guy. I’m thinking they meant great as in…um…well, jackass. I’ll just go hang my head in shame.
For guys, it was the Buff Sweetie. Just not true. Looks are last on my list of things to worry about with men. Well, ‘cept for the hair. *LOL*
Mike YJuly 16th, 2008 at 10:50 am
I’ve never really had a type. I suppose I have always known what I didn’t want more than a specific type of what I wanted. All I know is I am beyond happy with my mate. :)
Love you!!! See you in a few hours.
TUGJuly 16th, 2008 at 11:59 am
I got the same answer as you! For the girls that is ;)
I never analyzed my type until I ‘discovered’ my type. Now I realize what I’ve always been attracted to and its not really what I have :( But, I have cute as hell kids :)
bunnyJuly 16th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
I scored “Buff Bad Boy” but that’s not really my type. My type was always intellectual, confident to the point of arrogance, dark hair, darkish eyes, in good shape but not ripped, fairly tall but not towering – I got intelligence when I married Spousehole, but he’s blond-ish, blue-eyed, very pale, and (when I met him) skinny as a rail (but with nice broad shoulders), and not the most confident guy on the planet. He’s just over 6′, so the height is about right. I’ve fattened him up to an acceptable 34 to 36 inch waist and his back muscles are very, very hot, but he’s still not super confident in himself though getting better. He at least no longer falls into the “skinny dying fucker” category, though I do find some of those guys hot still. That just seems wrong, doesn’t it?
SeaRabbitJuly 16th, 2008 at 6:38 pm
On the who turn me on type I score with ‘Action movie star’
You scored 70% masculine, 59% athletic, 64% exotic, and 56% refined!’
What could, I say could… be my type… but I learned a long time ago that my type isn’t my happiness, so far from that!!!! And it is something that was said quite early in our relationship… my man, isn’t my type… but I love him over everyone who could be my type… because, yes… guys my type made me suffer quite a lot… and I’m happy like a angel in heaven with my man!!!
On the girl type, I found out that I was falling for The Brooding Poet
32% Sexy-Cute, 23% Dark-Light, 40% Artsy-Stylish
Sexy, Dark, but neither Arsty nor Stylish, the Brooding Poet has her lips constantly pursed in an infinitely kissable pout. She would dress up, maybe, but why bother? Is not life simply an empty voyage through a desolate, cold world?
And… this resemble a lot what I think about myself… How strange… But, in reality, I really have no interest in women… not in a romantic way, for sure, and in a sexual way even less… ;-)))
MeVery interesting topic… and I love that ‘friend’ answer to her husband… I’m sure he was feeling more secure after hearing that… ;-)) and that she never been happiest all her life since she felt in love him!!!
July 17th, 2008 at 2:59 am
Let’s see…the quizzes say that I like the Exotic Man and the Debutante. I do not have an Exotic Man–and I am not a Debutante.
Hmm…I’d like to think that I was at least my own type. LOL.
LolitaJuly 17th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
Hmm… Looks like I’m the oddball1!! :) Something we DON’T have in common!? Imagine that!
The Hot Friend
30% Sexy-Cute, 51% Dark-Light, 56% Artsy-Stylish
Tough guy
You scored 75% masculine, 76% athletic, 36% exotic, and 31% refined!