Friday Favorites-

Ms. Lily….. I LOVE bows (and boobs, lol)!!!

Dana, Amid Life’s Crisis….. So soft, feminine and pretty, I love how her hair curls near her ear.  :)

Evening…..  Damn this pic is freakin’ smoking *HOT*

Amorous Rocker….. Stunningly sexy


Jobthingy.…. The lighting is absolutely outstanding, throwing off such fantastic shadows.  Very erotically sexy!

Ms. I certainly knows how to rock a little black dress….  Or was it a sweater, I’m not sure we figured it out but regardless- WOW.

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I completely forgot to tell about our ‘adventures in Girl Scout Cookie hunting’ of the week before.  Two years in a row we missed out on cookies bc we never came across any GS’s selling cookies.  And apparently LP isn’t friends with anyone who are either.  You wouldn’t think it was so insanely difficult to find freakin’ GIRL SCOUTS?!?!  We even tried to contact the actual GS organization last year to have someone contact us to buy cookies from them.  Nothing.  So this year we were bound and determined to not miss out again.  Que operation: FIND GS COOKIES.  Looked online for places they would be setting up stands.  Drove, *out of our way* to the places the website said they would be.  One stand was sold out of everything and packing up to head out.  The second location they weren’t even there!  *grumble grumble*  The next afternoon the kiddos and I head out again.  And  ….:::drum roll please:::…..  We found a stand that was actually WHERE they said they would be, WHEN they said they would AND had a full supply of cookies to choose from!  *WOOT!!!* 25 12 boxes of cookies later, we are stocked up.  Whether LP likes it or not, we may sign her up just for the fucking cookies in the future.  DOH!  ~wink~

There is a new show on Fox that premiered several weeks ago called Dollhouse.  It has Eliza Dushku in it  *swoon*

I’m a huge fan of hers and good lord the chick is smoking hot.  I didn’t care for the first episode.  But by the end of the second one I was hooked.  My fingers are crossed all over the fucking place that they don’t cancel it now.  Gah.

Hope everyone has a kick ass weekend!

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*Is there a difference between a Fuck Buddy, FWB, lover, mistress etc?

IMO, in short- yes.

I think Fuck Buddy and FWB are similar in that I view both as casual.  A FWB I think can be defined as- An individual with whom you have a non-romantic relationship, during the course of which you engage in sexual activites.  A Fuck Buddy is with someone with whom you are sexually involved, but with no strings attached.  As in NO relationship, NO friendship….nada emotionally or romantically but purely physical.  As Carrie in Sex and the City said: A fuck buddy is a guy you probably dated once or twice, but it didn’t really go anywhere, but the sex was so great, you sorta of keep him on call….  Anyways.  Both offer a little ‘somethin somethin’ on the side.

I can honestly say I have enjoyed several FWB relationships.  I rather enjoy them with females.  But never a Fuck Buddy.  I am incapable of having sex with out intimacy or attachment.  My flaw I suppose.

A Lover or Mistress is someone (I feel) you have formed a ‘relationship’ with, it’s more of an emotional connection, more involved than a casual ‘hook up’ for sex that you might have with a FWB. It’s *MORE* (lol).  And longer term.

*And does one of these labels make it ‘less/more of an affair’ than another?

An affair is an affair.  There is no ‘less or more’, IMHO.  What it comes down to *for me* is that if you are having any sort of sexual or heavily emotional relationship with someone other than your S/O with out their approval or knowledge, it’s cheating and it’s an affair.  Whether it’s casual or serious.

I think the word ‘affair’ is totally subjective too.  These days many marriages/relationships are very ‘open’, and each one has different ‘rules’ that they follow and are ok with.  It’s really defined in each individual relationship.  So rather than debate an affair, I want to ask YOUR personal opinions.  I want to ask you to try to be as open as you can and answer honestly about the first question with out the second question jading your response to the first one.  Okay?

***Again, I’m not wanting to debate whether you think affairs are wrong or right but your OPINIONS on these two topics***

Happy HUMP Day!!!

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1. What do find is the most exciting part of a new sexual encounter?
Those crazy, insane butterflies.  That feeling of electricity that races through your every nerve as their fingers graze you or you feel their breath….  Mmmm……

2. Do you have “a most exciting part of a sexual encounter” with a usual partner?
Um.  I’m a huge fan of when he makes me O.  Is that wrong of me???  *LOL*

3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?
Hmm….it does take me a bit to let my guard down, to feel as if I can trust that person with *ME*.  But once I do, I’m very open and honest.  Course, it really also depends on WHO and WHERE I have met this person.  I compartmentalize well.  I’m going to be less open and honest about *me* to say my kids teachers, a PTA mom then I am someone else I meet somewhere else.  You know?

4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?
Well….seeing as I don’t work outside the home…… 

5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent a your child’s friend or…)?
I guess see #3.  It really depends on the vibe I get from them.  Honestly for the most part though, I try to be myself with everyone. I may tone ‘me’ down (which is very sexual and flirtatious and sarcastic and teasing) depending on who they are.

Bonus (as in optional): Define a “normal” as in “normal relationship” or “normal sex life”.
Vanilla. (NOT saying that’s how I would describe *my* sex life, lololol)

But seriously, what is the ‘norm’ for me might be crazy monkey sex to someone else.  And the reverse (although I am pretty open to just about anything, at least once anyways).  I’m very non judgmental and open.  So this is a difficult question for me to respond to.

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Mis-matched lingerie is unforgivable~ A Slip of a Girl

Mute Monday- History

Lingerie in History…..

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After five days off of school the kiddos finally are going back.  All those days off actually went surprisingly well (lol!).  PC had finished off a huge project and the four of us got to spend quite a bit of family time together.

Friday night we had this crazy blizzard that began with insane winds, closely followed by wet, horizontal snow and then *poof* …..gone.  That’s Colorado for ya. I swear, don’t like the weather?  Give it 10min.  ~wink~

Saturday my sisters kiddos spent the day with us, the weather cleared up and the five of them were able to spend most of the day outside.  Sah-weet!  LM even found a really cool deer antler.  It is amazing how much *five children* eat.  Good lord.  Doh.  Then all five kiddos went to spend the night at my sisters.  Leaving PC and I with a night to ourselves.

After some really, really yummy sushi (tempura veggie roll…:::drool:::…) at my new favorite Japanese restuarant we saw He’s Just Not That Into You.

CUTE movie.  GREAT CAST.  I’m a huge fan of Scarlett’s.  She’s gained a bit of weight but really rocks it as a voluptious vixen.  *whit woo*  And again with the Jennifer Aniston hair envy. (damnit!)

In other news, we made the leap and bought a new vehicle.  A super cool Jeep Rubicon.  I’d been balking big time at another car payment.  The vehicle I’ve been driving for the last five years is a ’93 Jeep Grand Cherokee that is completely PAID FOR (albeit paid an arm and a leg for in the last few months to just about completely rebuild the fucking thing).  Numerous years ago I was severely traumatized by debt and haven’t been super excited to jump back into anything regarding owing money.  But we did it.  And maybe even at some point PC will let me drive it! ~wink~  I’m totally looking forward to this summer….top down, wind in my hair, sun shining, cruising to the pool.  (hehe)

Happy Monday!!!! 


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Kiki courtesy of Viviane’s Sex Carnival.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #160? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

The Annual Anti-Valentine’s Day Posting: 2009 Edition

“Ahh, Valentine’s Day. Sigh.”

Exposed

“We talk a lot about putting me on display, and it was even more intense in reality as it has been in fantasy.”

Yes

“At the edge of the precipice, my nerves rippling with electricity, i tumbled down into you”

Sugasm Editor

Sex Work And Compassion: A Call From Baghdad

Editor’s Choice

Stairwell

More Sugasm

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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

A different approach to polyamory

Do vegetarians make good lovers?

Fantasies

Onesies and Twosies

Things I’ve Discovered I Like

Understanding Masturbation Addiction [podcasturbation]

Sex News, Review, and Interviews

20 Questions with Shawn (aka Syd Blakovich)

The Choices We Make…

Stars In My Eyes

Tribute to Milton

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

Dakoda Brookes

Hearts -HNT

In the garden of lust

Kiki

BDSM & Fetish

25 Things, the Kinky Way

The Domme Experiment – The Result

Firsts, part 2

Permission

Single Minded Passion

“There is no ’should’” and the sex-positive “agenda”

Erotic Writing and Experiences

A Bossy Blowjob

Concrete

A Gift for Daddy

Guess Who I Came Across At The Weekend?

My Idea…

Naughty Rose goes bananas!

Petulant and Demanding

The Scream

While She was Waiting

Friday Favorites-

Dana, Amid Life’s Crisis….. Huge fan of selective color AND flowers, highly artistic and beautiful.  She said when she recieved these flowers one of her first thoughts was what an excellent HNT prop.  Ha!  Girl after my own heart! ;)

Pudwhipped…..Perfection!  Seriously, no!?  The perfect exposure of such.

Sadie, Confessions From My Open Marriage…..She talks about CUNTs.  It’s a word I used to seriously recoil to and these days, eh, not so much.  Especially if Sadie is going to be the one talking about them!  *ahem*

Beautiful Dreamer….. The soft lighting in this photo is just incredible.  Also can’t help but love the ruffled panties!

Fruit of Another.…. Exhibitionism at it’s finest, I feel as if we are getting a peak into her bedroom and it’s *HOT*.  Great lighting!


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This week has just been crazy.  P/T conferences were the end of this week.  LM only had two days of school, LP three.  Both kiddos conferences went very well.  LM has surprised me in the best of ways at how well he has succeeded in Kindergarten.  AND his teacher continues to thank us for sending to school such a polite, well behaved little boy we’ve sent her.  Yes, she’s talking about *LM*!  I mean WE see that little boy, but sometimes you’ve got to wonder how he is when he’s not under our direct supervision, with other little crazy boys.  LOL! ~wink~  LP continues to be the perfect student she has always been.  Although I guess she has a stalker little boy who has a crush on her and it’s causing her to have a bit of….’her head in the clouds’ (as her teacher described, lol).  Regardless, it’s reassuring to hear both teachers gush about our children.  It reaffirms they are who we are striving to raise them to be.
*happy sigh*

My insomnia has been out. of. control.  Can’t sleep into the wee hours of the morning.  Staying up waaaaaay too late.  Forced naps during the day to try to function, which only makes it more difficult for me to fall asleep at night.  Vicious cycle, I tell you.  Gah….  The end result is by Thursday I was not functioning on fumes.  Sheer and utter exhaustion was my middle name.  *groan*

In other news, it was confirmed we are going to be able to keep with tradition and fly out to celebrate SR’s bday with her. BOOYAH BABY!!!  To say I am stoked and beyond excited would be an extreme understatement.  ~BIG GRINS~

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brave enough to tell their stories here, the blogging community owes it
to them to listen.”
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It’s something I absolutely support.  I highly recommend you at the very least go check out the site.  You’ll notice I added a button in my side bar as well earlier this week.

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Hope everyone has a kick ass weekend!

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I had an interesting response to my CQW last week.  Ok, I had numerous ones (some blasting me and my/our life style, doh, but whatever).  But I’m referring to one specifically from latenightsinboulder.  He made two statements that I’ve since put quite a bit of thought into…..

1) most woman are turned on by the thought of bi men just like men are about women

2) more men are bi-curious than ever admit it

In regards to #1.  I think this might definitely be true for some women. Probably in the sex blogger network more so true.  But I’m not sure I would say ‘most’ and I don’t really feel it’s the same.  I still think it’s easier for ‘people’  (me included) to fantasize about two women together (beautiful, curvaceous, soft, sweet smelling…),  than it is men together (maybe it’s just me???).  BUT that said, I do think we have come a long way in what we allow our minds to wrap around.  Openness in our sexuality is becoming more acceptable and with it, things that might have been deep dark secrets are being brought into the light.

ETA: PC called me out on being ‘non committal’ in my response to this, lol.  Personally, the idea of two men can be a turn on. I *like* bi men.  I think they are possibly more in touch with themselves and their sexuality than one that is straight.  *JUST MY OPINION* (I’m not trying to stereotype) 

Now about #2 though.  Absolutely.  I think there are quite a few men who are bi-curious.  Fortunately in today’s society being gay is becoming more acceptable, people are more open to it.  It almost has become a ‘fad’ of sorts to be bisexual.  I’m not really going to delve into *that* or my opinions on it right now.  That’s not the purpose of this post.  But even more fortunate, there are fewer and fewer ‘homophobes’.  Which I think has opened men/people up more to fantasizing about their sexuality.  To being more ok with thoughts and feelings that used to be taboo. 

I’m curious everyone else’s thoughts and opinions on these two statements.

Happy HUMP Day!!!

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1. What is your favorite charity?
I support the local humane societies, esp our *main* one here and near us is the Colorado Horse Rescue that I have donated my time to. 

Do you you give your time or just money to that charity?
So far it’s been just my time, donations like pet food, blankets, etc bc that is what I have to offer and have been able to contribute.

2. Describe your bed.
I looooooooooooove my bed.  It’s a HUGE king sized bed that is big and high off the ground and so so so so soft.  It has girly pink flowery sheets and a thick, soft, comfy duvet in a pretty duvet cover.  *happy sigh*

What side do you sleep on?
This question always throws me….I sleep on the left side, when you are IN the bed.  *LOL*

3. How important is a partners kissing ability?
Oh, VERY important.  Kissing compatibility is HUGE bc it is something I love to do and must have.

4. Have you ever “taken advantage” of a person under the influence of alcohol?
Them or me? ~wink~  LOL  I am certainly WAY more outgoing sexually when I’ve been drinking.  And yes I probably have, but in a good way.  I have coerced a girl or two in a drunken setting to kiss me or let me pull them into a bathroom at bar/club on several occasions bc they had been drinking.  But I consider these in a ‘good’ way, not ‘take advantage’ in a bad/wrong way.

Have you ever been “taken advantage” of while under the influence of alcohol?
Again, I’m going to say yes, but in a good, FUN and exciting way.  I’m usually pretty good about not putting myself in situations that aren’t ‘safe’.  So fortunately for me, nothing bad.

5. Ever tried to replay the famous scene from From Here to Eternity? How was it?
Um….I hadn’t really even heard of that movie and am completely unfamiliar with the scene (I had to look it up, the kiss scene???). So, I guess that is a no.

Bonus (as in optional): What kind of birth control do you use?
Snip.  Snip.  Him.  NOT me ;)  It’s very convenient and easy.  Hehe…..

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