Dana

*Is the there a difference between a Fuck Buddy, FWB, lover, mistress etc?*

My answer will be much like yours.

Fuck Buddy – someone you have no connection to other than sex. Someone you might not even like, but who can sexually rock your world.

FWB – someone you have what I like to call a romantic friendship with. For whatever reason, your relationship will never go beyond friendship, but you allow yourselves to explore that sexual tension that always lurks just below the surface.

Lover/Mistress – I think I’d lump these in the same category. This is what I call a committed sexual relationship – a long-term combination between a fuck buddy and a FWB!

Great question!

  Bunny

*Is the there a difference between a Fuck Buddy, FWB, lover, mistress etc?

I think you have described the differences perfectly. FB is just that, someone you f*** occasionally. FWB is a friend who you occasionally f***. A lover is more – more emotional involvement in addition to the sex.

*And does one of these labels make it ‘less/more of an affair’ than another?

For me a lover is more of a threat to my marriage than a FWB or a FB. I’ve had FB and FWB “affairs” and they were never any threat to my marriage. But I had an emotional “affair” that was far more a threat to my marriage even though we never even kissed. We became such an important part of each others’ lives that it was definitely a danger to both our marriages. So for me the more emotional involvement, the more of an “affair” it is.

  Stiletto Reflections

The difference is in your own mind, defined by society, but the fact is that they’re all simply the same – someone you are sleeping with. I’ve had the same FWB turn into a FB. To me, it depends on *that* situation, lol, at *that* time to define what they are to me.
Is one less/more of an affair than the other? – if your partner does not know then no – an affair is an affair is an affair.

  Professor Fate

I’m stealing part of Dana’s reply because she started so well

Mistress – This is a lover other than the one you have at home. Congratulations! You are having an affair.

  Chef Troll

1) The first 3, (fwb fuck-buddy lover), are pretty similar the way I use them. The 4th, mistress, has an economic component to me.

2) Agree with you. If you’re married, it’s an affair. Period.

  TUG

I’m not very original. I agree with everything you wrote.

  Biscuit

Scooch over, TUG, I’m not original either.

Vixen, you basically took the words right out of my mouth.

  B

I agree completely with your labelling, and I agree that cheating is cheating. However, I think an affair (in my head) is something that happens with the mind, therefore fuckbuddies and FWB’s are out of the affair equation.

To clarify, you are having an affair when your mind is with that person, so you could have an affair without even meeting that person, let alone have sex, (if the mind is with him/her), but you are not having an affair if you are just messing with no emotional ties with FWBs/FBs; that’s just cheating. (which is not so bad on my corrupted sliding scale)

Interesting topic.

Of course, there is a blurry line when FWB’s become more. (Which I’d struggle not to be victim too, as you)
There is also the other exception which is persistant intentional (emotionless) philandering, then we are in affair territory – just affair with ‘others’ rather than one.

does this make any sense AT ALL?

Love to you honey xxx

  autumn

i really enjoyed your descriptions as well and have to agree. i have never had a fuck buddy, as i too must have some sort of emotional attachment or friendship with someone in order to continue anything physical. i do have a FWB at the moment and it does give me that little somethin somethin that i need right now. i am not yet prepared to open myself up to the emotions of a full blown relationship, but i do love my sexytime. we have been friends for many years and neither of us are currently involved with anyone else. i enjoy spending time with him, but i do take care to discuss my feelings very openly so that there is not misconception of my intentions here. it’s a bit of a fine line, probably not something i would do for months on end because there is that risk of becomming overly attached–both of us.

lovers are different. i think it implies a much deeper level of emotional attachment. mistresses? i never want to be one. i just wouldn’t feel right doing that to another woman. she might not know, but i would. no thanks. not today.

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  Vixen

Bunny- good point, and I agree with you. I think a long term *AFFAIR* that leads to a relationship is more of a threat to a marriage.

I had thought about those aspects too, or to divide what would be the ‘worst’ or least forgiving.

  Vixen

Prof Fate- LOL! I like your clarification ;)

Thanks for your input :)

  Vixen

B- I think I call that an emotional affair.

And yes, you made sense, to me anyways. xo

  Vixen

Autumn- I hadn’t thought of that….that many times a ‘Mistress’ is defined as ‘the other woman’ having an affair with a married man.

Thank you for your candid input sweetie :)

xo

  Southern Vixen

You nailed it, Sista! That is EXACTLY how I would categorize each of those. The fuck buddy is just someone to get you off. The FWB you can have lunch with, chat, then play. The other ones, you are getting into more of an emotional tie.

I like your perspective, Darlin’.

  mykey

I agree with your definitions V. I would add that FWB would suit me also, but ‘no attachment’ sex doesnt stir me at all. Its little better than self gratification.
I do envy those who treat sex more lightly sometimes.

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