I’ll go on record as saying that I’m incredibly aroused by the thought/sight of two men together. It’s not all curves, to be sure, but there is something about it that has its own primal beauty.

Your reader sounds like one I had a while back who inquired about any guy-on-guy play when Veronica and I are with another couple. I told him, no, neither the other man (SwingerWife’s husband, in this case) nor I was interested. WHY NOT? Was his challenging reply. As it turns out, he has a gay son and is carrying a chip on his shoulder, like my lack of interest in another man makes me a homophobe and therefore prejudiced against his son. Suuuuuure…

Back to your readers point, I’d believe that there are many more bi or gay men out there than admit it, but societal influences keep them in hidden. Which is too bad.

I can say that I have no interest in watching men having sex. None. Just not hardwired for it.

I am sure that many men are bi-curious or bi-sexual. I do feel bad that they feel that they cannot act on it.

As a guy, I really can’t comment on what women think about bi-guys. I suppose if they’re into them, that’s come a long, long way. Personally, I’m not all that convinced that women are at that point. There’s just nothing all that graceful about it like there is with watching two women. It seems to me that it would be a bit awkward.

WRT #2, I think that’s probably happening. But I’m not sure to what extent. I still think it smacks up against numerous taboos.

I think it is more acceptable in society if two *beautiful* women are making out/having sex. Stick two bull-dyke types and watch the expressions turn to the same ones as if it were two guys.
Society accepts beauty & fads. Bleah.

The idea of two men together does absolutely nothing for me. Not even a flicker of arousal. I almost feel the need to apologize for that, but it has nothing to do with homophobia. It just doesn’t do it for me, the same as big breasts, toe sucking, or role-playing don’t do anything for me.

As for #2, I think that’s true. Men are just not as comfortable expressing their sexuality, and in my opinion, it’s because society is a lot stricter about categorizing men as either gay or straight, with no in between. Women are given more lenience.

1) most woman are turned on by the thought of bi men just like men are about women

I think most or many is stretching it. I am sure it is at least some. Many or even most of your female reader might be turned on by the idea, but there is a self selection bias in place. [Yes, I am a statistics geek.]

2) more men are bi-curious than ever admit it

I agree with this one. I think more men are gay than ever admit it (and I think being gay is more socially acceptable that being bi if you are a male). Ted Haggard’s idea that he is straight but troubled is a perfect example of a gay man (or a bi-sexual man) forced to condemn his own behavior. A friend’s father has been living with and sharing a bed with another man for 30 years and he doesn’t consider himself gay.

Biscuit- you worded it very well for #2. I think you are right.

Prof Fate- yep, what you said in #2, agreed.

I can see that it may be true that women would find 2 men as sexy as 2 women but the idea of 2 men just does not get me going as the idea of 2 women does. I am honestly at a loss to explain why and I kinda don’t think that it is really fair of myself to feel that way ??!

I do agree that there are more bi-curious men out there then admit it. Sadly, although society has made great strides forward, I believe there is still stereotypes in society that make men feel as though they are less of a “man” if they admit to curiousities of such nature.

Insert infamous disclaimer of “just my opinion” here lol
~viemoira

Reading the comments, it’s interesting to see that most women in our blogosphere who have commented actually expressed #1 doesn’t turn them on. Kinda opposite what I would have expected, really. Anyway, similar to many here, I am not turned on by two guys doing it. I’m not turned off by it either, just kind of…”ehhh”. Now two women… YEAH! :).

I agree with #2. As a lot of others have indicated, societal expectations kind of skewed for guys here. Since it’s much less acceptable in our society for a guy who is not openly gay to express any sexual interest in another guy, I am sure there are more who hide this interest than not.

1) I definately do not think that “Most” Women are the least bit “turned-on” by this in the general sense. I also believe it’s a hollyweird-created media-myth that “Most” men are turned on by Women-Having-Sex-With-One-Another in a general sense. SOME are turned-on by the idea of really ATTRACTIVE Women having Sex. Don’t know anybody who wants to view Rosie O’Donnell’s sex-life.

2) I think History tells us that more men WILL engage in sex-with-other-men where it isn’t a cultural taboo. Not sure how that relates to “bi-curious”. It’s certainly less of a cultural taboo today in the USA than in times past.

I agree that we have come a long way. Me personally? I am as straight as they come. I just have no interest in same sex…sex as everyone else I guess. What I would fantasize is about hot chicks with me.

Two chicks getting it on? That’s nice I suppose but doesn’t arouse me. Two chicks getting it on with me? Completely different story…yeah, like that’ll happen.

Well, I think fabricating statistics about any sexual preference is just dangerous. We are sitting on the edge of a major sexual culture shift here. Why the pigeonholing?

Because, really, in the grand scheme, what does either one matter? Sexuality is one of the most personalized aspects of our humanness. To generalize an entire gender as “being turned on by” or “bi-curious” denigrates the very basis of individual sexuality.

How about we just embrace the fact that “What I like, you may like, too. OR, you may not”. I like broccoli. You may not.
I certainly wouldn’t assert “Most women like broccoli. And most men are more curious about broccoli than they are willing to admit” now, would I :)

Okay, that is silly, but you see my point, no?

Just MY 2 cents!

xo~
Sadie

Sadie- LOL! I love your broccoli analogy. I *heart* you :)

I heart you too, VIxen :)
xoxoxox~Sadie

I agree with Stiletto Reflections and a few others mentioned about the attractiveness. I would assume that when people make sweeping statements about being turned on by girl on girl or guy on guy they actually mean attractive girl on attractive girl or attractive guy on attractive guy.

As for my own personal tastes, guy on guy can be really hot. Maybe it’s the mystery and intrigue of something I don’t get to see every day and certainly not a level of intimacy I get to see between two men every day?