Comments on: I don’t understand why so many people must limit themselves to only half of the people around them -CQW http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/ Mon, 21 May 2012 02:07:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: NY Diva http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-80293 NY Diva Sat, 21 Feb 2009 14:41:55 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-80293 I agree with Stiletto Reflections and a few others mentioned about the attractiveness. I would assume that when people make sweeping statements about being turned on by girl on girl or guy on guy they actually mean attractive girl on attractive girl or attractive guy on attractive guy. As for my own personal tastes, guy on guy can be really hot. Maybe it's the mystery and intrigue of something I don't get to see every day and certainly not a level of intimacy I get to see between two men every day? I agree with Stiletto Reflections and a few others mentioned about the attractiveness. I would assume that when people make sweeping statements about being turned on by girl on girl or guy on guy they actually mean attractive girl on attractive girl or attractive guy on attractive guy.

As for my own personal tastes, guy on guy can be really hot. Maybe it’s the mystery and intrigue of something I don’t get to see every day and certainly not a level of intimacy I get to see between two men every day?

]]> By: sadie http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79967 sadie Thu, 19 Feb 2009 05:13:11 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79967 I heart you too, VIxen :) xoxoxox~Sadie I heart you too, VIxen :)
xoxoxox~Sadie

]]> By: Vixen http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79939 Vixen Thu, 19 Feb 2009 02:28:33 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79939 Sadie- LOL! I love your broccoli analogy. I *heart* you :) Sadie- LOL! I love your broccoli analogy. I *heart* you :)

]]> By: sadie http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79932 sadie Thu, 19 Feb 2009 00:29:41 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79932 Well, I think fabricating statistics about any sexual preference is just dangerous. We are sitting on the edge of a major sexual culture shift here. Why the pigeonholing? Because, really, in the grand scheme, what does either one matter? Sexuality is one of the most personalized aspects of our humanness. To generalize an entire gender as "being turned on by" or "bi-curious" denigrates the very basis of individual sexuality. How about we just embrace the fact that "What I like, you may like, too. OR, you may not". I like broccoli. You may not. I certainly wouldn't assert "Most women like broccoli. And most men are more curious about broccoli than they are willing to admit" now, would I :) Okay, that is silly, but you see my point, no? Just MY 2 cents! xo~ Sadie Well, I think fabricating statistics about any sexual preference is just dangerous. We are sitting on the edge of a major sexual culture shift here. Why the pigeonholing?

Because, really, in the grand scheme, what does either one matter? Sexuality is one of the most personalized aspects of our humanness. To generalize an entire gender as “being turned on by” or “bi-curious” denigrates the very basis of individual sexuality.

How about we just embrace the fact that “What I like, you may like, too. OR, you may not”. I like broccoli. You may not.
I certainly wouldn’t assert “Most women like broccoli. And most men are more curious about broccoli than they are willing to admit” now, would I :)

Okay, that is silly, but you see my point, no?

Just MY 2 cents!

xo~
Sadie

]]> By: Flyinfox_SATX http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79913 Flyinfox_SATX Wed, 18 Feb 2009 20:27:01 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79913 I agree that we have come a long way. Me personally? I am as straight as they come. I just have no interest in same sex...sex as everyone else I guess. What I would fantasize is about hot chicks with me. Two chicks getting it on? That's nice I suppose but doesn't arouse me. Two chicks getting it on with me? Completely different story...yeah, like that'll happen. I agree that we have come a long way. Me personally? I am as straight as they come. I just have no interest in same sex…sex as everyone else I guess. What I would fantasize is about hot chicks with me.

Two chicks getting it on? That’s nice I suppose but doesn’t arouse me. Two chicks getting it on with me? Completely different story…yeah, like that’ll happen.

]]> By: Chef Troll http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79903 Chef Troll Wed, 18 Feb 2009 17:40:38 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79903 1) I definately do not think that "Most" Women are the least bit "turned-on" by this in the general sense. I also believe it's a hollyweird-created media-myth that "Most" men are turned on by Women-Having-Sex-With-One-Another in a general sense. SOME are turned-on by the idea of really ATTRACTIVE Women having Sex. Don't know anybody who wants to view Rosie O'Donnell's sex-life. 2) I think History tells us that more men WILL engage in sex-with-other-men where it isn't a cultural taboo. Not sure how that relates to "bi-curious". It's certainly less of a cultural taboo today in the USA than in times past. 1) I definately do not think that “Most” Women are the least bit “turned-on” by this in the general sense. I also believe it’s a hollyweird-created media-myth that “Most” men are turned on by Women-Having-Sex-With-One-Another in a general sense. SOME are turned-on by the idea of really ATTRACTIVE Women having Sex. Don’t know anybody who wants to view Rosie O’Donnell’s sex-life.

2) I think History tells us that more men WILL engage in sex-with-other-men where it isn’t a cultural taboo. Not sure how that relates to “bi-curious”. It’s certainly less of a cultural taboo today in the USA than in times past.

]]> By: Lionia http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79898 Lionia Wed, 18 Feb 2009 16:58:31 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79898 Reading the comments, it's interesting to see that most women in our blogosphere who have commented actually expressed #1 doesn't turn them on. Kinda opposite what I would have expected, really. Anyway, similar to many here, I am not turned on by two guys doing it. I'm not turned off by it either, just kind of..."ehhh". Now two women... YEAH! :). I agree with #2. As a lot of others have indicated, societal expectations kind of skewed for guys here. Since it's much less acceptable in our society for a guy who is not openly gay to express any sexual interest in another guy, I am sure there are more who hide this interest than not. Reading the comments, it’s interesting to see that most women in our blogosphere who have commented actually expressed #1 doesn’t turn them on. Kinda opposite what I would have expected, really. Anyway, similar to many here, I am not turned on by two guys doing it. I’m not turned off by it either, just kind of…”ehhh”. Now two women… YEAH! :).

I agree with #2. As a lot of others have indicated, societal expectations kind of skewed for guys here. Since it’s much less acceptable in our society for a guy who is not openly gay to express any sexual interest in another guy, I am sure there are more who hide this interest than not.

]]> By: viemoira http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79894 viemoira Wed, 18 Feb 2009 16:29:53 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79894 I can see that it may be true that women would find 2 men as sexy as 2 women but the idea of 2 men just does not get me going as the idea of 2 women does. I am honestly at a loss to explain why and I kinda don't think that it is really fair of myself to feel that way ??! I do agree that there are more bi-curious men out there then admit it. Sadly, although society has made great strides forward, I believe there is still stereotypes in society that make men feel as though they are less of a "man" if they admit to curiousities of such nature. Insert infamous disclaimer of "just my opinion" here lol ~viemoira I can see that it may be true that women would find 2 men as sexy as 2 women but the idea of 2 men just does not get me going as the idea of 2 women does. I am honestly at a loss to explain why and I kinda don’t think that it is really fair of myself to feel that way ??!

I do agree that there are more bi-curious men out there then admit it. Sadly, although society has made great strides forward, I believe there is still stereotypes in society that make men feel as though they are less of a “man” if they admit to curiousities of such nature.

Insert infamous disclaimer of “just my opinion” here lol
~viemoira

]]> By: Vixen http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79886 Vixen Wed, 18 Feb 2009 15:12:46 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79886 Prof Fate- yep, what you said in #2, agreed. Prof Fate- yep, what you said in #2, agreed.

]]> By: Vixen http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2009/02/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-79885 Vixen Wed, 18 Feb 2009 15:12:15 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/index.php/archive/i-dont-understand-why-so-many-people-must-limit-themselves-to-only-half-of-the-people-around-them-cqw/#comment-79885 Biscuit- you worded it very well for #2. I think you are right. Biscuit- you worded it very well for #2. I think you are right.

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