Maybe not all recycling is good -CQW
posted by: Vixen
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Karen and Shane (names have been changed) have been together for almost a year. It’s a good relationship, they are in love, things are going very well. For their one year anniversary Shane tells Karen he is taking her out to someplace special to celebrate. She gets dolled up, very excited for their special night out.
Until she discovers the restaurant he is taking her to is the exact same one he used to take his ex girlfriend to for special occasions. She knows it used to be ‘their place’. Karen is quite upset about this and they end up getting into a very nasty argument. Her issue is she felt as if it were a recycled date. That rather than put thought into taking her to a uniquely special place to THEM, he took her to the place him and his ex girlfriend liked to go together.
Does she have a valid point or is she blowing things out of proportion and making more of an issue out of it than there actually is? How would you feel? I’d love to hear from both sides.
Personally, I think she’s being ridiculous. Shane can’t take her *anywhere* he took his ex??? What if he took his ex girlfriend to Cancun? Would she mad if he took her there too?! Depending on how many exes he has had and how long he was together with them, there may not be anywhere he could take her that he hasn’t taken someone else at some point. And honestly, if a ritzy, nice restaurant is very romantic and awesome and has great food, of course he would want to take her. PERFECT example. My most favoritest, most romantic restaurant EVER is The Melting Pot. There are three located here but one (the original) that puts the others to shame. It’s located in a historic library, dimly lit, very private and the epitome of romance. I love love love love going there. And yes, my exH had taken me there on occasion.
Like I was NEVER going to want to go back!? Or wouldn’t want to share such a fantasically wonderful place with PC?! On like our second date PC took me there. He’ll have to answer for himself, but as far as I know, it never occured to him to be upset that my exH and I had been there. And now, it’s OUR place to go. When we are celebrating a special occasion like an anniversary or birthday, it’s the first place we both think of to go. We’ve made it *our* place.
I understand wanting things to be special but she’s dwelling on irrelevant details. IMO.
Your thoughts?
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April 28th, 2009 at 11:52 pm
I agree with you completely. Alot of towns only have one Pizza Hut. What’s a guy to do?
hubmanApril 29th, 2009 at 3:42 am
I agree with you as well, she’s blowing it out of proportion. Why not make that restaurant “their” place?
I’ve only been to one fondue restaurant in my life. Yup, The Melting Pot! The one in Seattle, about 10 yrs ago.
Happy Hump day!
AlfieApril 29th, 2009 at 4:10 am
Agree with you one hundred percent. Not that I’m qualified to say, only ever having one woman in my life.
PCApril 29th, 2009 at 7:17 am
Hey! I had no idea that your ex used to take you to the Melting Pot, especially that one that we like to go to. Now that I know, we’re never going there again. *stomping feet*
BTW, I used to go to Olive Garden all the time with my ex. I suppose that’s off limits too.
LOL, I try to be a bit unique in the things I do and the places I go. But when you’re dealing with chains that you enjoy, you’re only punishing yourself by being so restrictive.
Stiletto ReflectionsApril 29th, 2009 at 7:24 am
She’s just the type of bitch he should dump, lol.
VixenApril 29th, 2009 at 8:07 am
Os- exactly!
*snort* …..you are SUCH a classy guy…. ;)
VixenApril 29th, 2009 at 8:08 am
Hubman- I’ve heard the one is Seattle and Ca is *the best*. :)
VixenApril 29th, 2009 at 8:09 am
PC- well, see, that’s it. We aren’t ever going to Olive Garden again, even if it’s my most favoritest pasta place in the universe. Hey, a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do! *HUMPF*
;)
*LOL*
Professor FateApril 29th, 2009 at 8:27 am
She better learn to cook if she can’t learn that it is who you are with not who has been there before.
Chef TrollApril 29th, 2009 at 10:17 am
Great minds think alike on this one. She’s unreasonable and ridiculous. I’d take it even further than y’all did and apply it to ANY restaurant, not just a chain.
DanaApril 29th, 2009 at 6:52 pm
Boy … let me tell you, this would be even more of a challenge for those of us over *cough*40*cough attempting to get into the dating game again!
She needs to go away – far, FAR away!
danimo21April 29th, 2009 at 11:15 pm
oooh, there’s a melting pot only 10 miles away from the boyfriend’s house (where i’m staying)! yay! :D where’s this grand original you’re talking about? *crosses her fingers and hopes it’s in california* :P
as far as the controversial question goes. . . when i do things with my currents that i’ve done with my exes, i either don’t notice at all because i’m with my current and am not thinking of my ex(es), or i feel awkward / awkwardly guilty if something reminds me of them, even if the memory is a good one.
if it’s easy for “shane” to find another special place to share with “karen,” he/they should go about looking for one. i don’t think karen necessarily overreacted because i’d probably feel recycled if that happened to me too; it’s always harder on the s.o. ‘cuz they never know what’s going on in the others’s head and that’s the key to the answer.
danimo21April 29th, 2009 at 11:15 pm
oh, and i absolutely love the picture, as usual! YUMMY! ;D
rageApril 30th, 2009 at 12:20 pm
I think it would have been cool if he cooked for her. It sounds like she’s got jealousy or territory issues (obviously). Perhaps that would have been a more safer route.
TUGMay 2nd, 2009 at 2:41 pm
Yeah, no big deal. Sometimes us guys just aren’t very original and we stick with what works.