Comments on: Settling for prince charming ~CQW

By: wifegonebad

wifegonebad — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 16:21:47 +0000

She made the right decision, definitely. I know from being in that situation that you can’t (or I can’t) “grow in love” with someone just because they are a good person and love me – I wish I could.

But, on a brighter note, happy b-day to your daughter and great photos!

By: PC

PC — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:24:47 +0000

Bat, I was in a 14 year relationship not being “the one”. I seriously though that my love and care would be enough. But eventually I simply ran out of gas trying to become the one.

By: Bat

Bat — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:10:28 +0000

From somebody that finds himself in that exact situation, I think I can understand why he is upset. I too asked for “a chance”. I never understood that there was a problem. She made the decision without him. It was never “I need this” or “I can’t live without that”.

However, he should realize that often these people focus on what they do not have instead of what is standing right in front of them. She is probably doing him a favor.

By: TUG

TUG — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 06:23:18 +0000

If in doubt that much then she made the right decision. I have more to say about this topic, but I can’t put it here.

Happy Birthday to your sweet little girl. She is a doll. I guess she can have a cool birthday date as well :)

That picture of you two is precious.

By: rage

rage — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 04:41:42 +0000

Not sure if your friend will ever be happy. She will never find the exact same qualities as she did in the one.

Furthermore, if it did not work out the first time with TO, then it probably won’t work out for some reason the second time. That just my opinion though.

Happy Birthday C…beautiful photo.

By: Vixen

Vixen — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 02:36:46 +0000

Os- *whew* I’m glad you finally got in (the site, lol)

And yeah. There is barely a shred of tomboy in me. It’s from PC ;)

By: Elle

Elle — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 00:47:49 +0000

I think they shouldn’t compare their love for each other. Meaning, she shouldn’t leave because she thinks she doesn’t love him as much as he loves her… How can you really quantify or compare such a thing?

If she felt happy with him, and loved him, that should be enough, no matter if he loved her “more”. Just like he shouldn’t leave her because he feels she loves him less than he does. I feel what’s important is how we feel about our partner. If said partner is happy enough to stay, why question it further? Or am I making no sense at all? :P

Wonderful picture with your girl, happy birthday to her!

By: MinorityReport

MinorityReport — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 22:03:52 +0000

CQW: I would argue that there’s more to a great relationship than sparks, but if she didn’t feel anything (love, sparks, interest…) with the fiance I think breaking it off with him was a good move. I’m not sure why the fiance would push so hard to be with a woman who was upfront about not loving him the same way.

Beautiful photo! Happy Birthday to your daughter. Sounds like a great day. :)

By: Emmy

Emmy — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:50:32 +0000

Happy birthday to your beautiful girl! Love the pictures, btw – both of them.

As for your question, she should stick with her decision. I think she’s being torn because of her ex – not because of her heart. A very important distinction. :)

By: mamatulip

mamatulip — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:52:13 +0000

I am embarrassed to say that it’s been so long that I’ve been here that I haven’t seen your new banner, which I LOVE.

I think Jane should stick to what she feels, in the end, is the best thing for HER. It’s her life…she’s the one who has to live it. You know?

I LOVE LOVE that picture of you and your beautiful girl – happy, happy birthday to her. And happy birth day to YOU, Mama!