Alfie

I just welcome any chance to show I love Emma. In Wales we have two days for lovers and I celebrate them both with cards, flowers, chocolates, whether she reciprocates or not. She usually forgets, but only because, being retired, we don’t really keep track of what day it is.

  viemoira

I’m not thrilled about V day but Master is. I tolerate what he finds appropriate celebration. To me, it’s the over commercialization.

  MinorityReport

I’m with you. I think if the person you love/care about is into the day you should do something for it. That’s part of being in a relationship, right?

My husband’s not a fan of the day. I don’t look forward to it, but I still like to acknowledge it. So we found a compromise. We decided a few years ago to skip the whole gift buying part of the day and just use the money we would have spent on gifts to do something fun together.

  Barefoot Dreaming

You do the day – seriously how hard is it? Not doing anything for you mate because you think the day is dumb… is … well… stupid! That is basically saying you don’t care for that person. It is the same as seeing a movie they chose or eating at the restaurant they like – it is compromise.

We don’t buy gifts. In fact I don’t do anything in the gift department (except provide fabulous sex ;)
But hubby gives me the same gift every year and it costs nothing – hint …. he writes it.

  ~K

Ok so a quick story. First off I am a hopeless romantic and love the opportunity to show someone I care about some Romance and even if it is a little goofy. I for one am a guy who likes Valentines Day, but at the same time I hate it.

You see as a young married man I would do all sorts of sweet things. One year I hid things in the house for every hour of the day until I got home carefully giving her clues every hour. You know trying to have fun, be sweet, build anticipation. As things wore on through the years I continued to shower my wife on that day all I wanted was a little touch, maybe a little reciprocation, some couples fun. However, as the years wore on what ended up happening was disinterest, frustration, and pain on my part. Valentines Day slowly died.

Does this answer your question? I don’t know but I do think a relationship is a give and take thing and if your SO likes Valentines Day is it so difficult to play along for a day? Surely, there must be things he or she does not really enjoy that they sacrifice for?

This year I find myself with no S.O., no one,,,nuthin and admit I feel the sting of Valentines Day again. However, if I had someone I would still be out enjoying it.

  Babe Lincoln

Thankfully neither hubby or I feel the need to make a big deal over Valentines Day… card, maybe flowers, and that’s it. I say celebrate Valentines Day if it means something to your SO, but draw the line at Sweetest Day… that is a ridiculous Hallmark holiday in my opinion!

  Westcoast Weirdo

We don’t have a set celebration style with Valentine’s Day. Sometimes it’s just a card, sometimes dinner. We’re very low-key when it comes to holidays (except birthdays, lol).

The “guy-Valentine’s Day” is Steak & Nobber Day – March 20th. It’s their version of the perfect Valentine’s Day. Seeing how I am not a Nobber girl, I can see their point of Valentine’s.

LOL

  Vixen

PC…. “A big bucket of duh” eh?
*giggle*

Of course I’m not surprised by your ‘traditional’ views of the holiday *ahem* ;P

  Vixen

Alfie, Aw….. You just put the biggest smile on my face. Lucky girl that Emma :)

MinorityReport- I think that is a great way to celebrate together. And I also think what matters most is that it’s something you both decided would be fun *together*.

  Vixen

BD- compromise is a good word that you chose. Completely agree.

I think it’s a given that hot sex should be the priority on Vday. Men that are boycotting the holiday obviously aren’t getting it good enough. *LOL*

  Vixen

K- this doesn’t surprise me at all. You seem like such a romantic at heart…. xo

Roxy- *off to google ‘Nobber’ day…..lol

  Drew G

It depends on the year. Some years I go all out and embrace it with a passion. Other years like this one it goes by like any other day of the week. I am not quite sure why.

Vixen your blog is dynamite. I love reading it. If you ever want to work together please just email. Either way keep up the awesome blogging. You rock.

  hubman

I’m lucky in that Veronica is as disinterested in Valentine’s Day as I am. For us, it’s a general objection to the notion that Feb 14 is THE day that we’re supposed to express our love for each other.

But if Veronica was into it, I’d put on a happy face, for her. ‘Cause that’s the kind of guy I am :-)

  Maggie

Of course you do it. It’s just like any other special day. If my SO was really into birthdays, I’d go all out for that, so why not for Valentine’s Day? Being romantic and sweet every day is a given, but why not take advantage of an opportunity to go above and beyond?

  Ms Scarlett

As horribly over-commercialized as Valentine’s Day is, I’d be disappointed it went by completely unmarked. No big gifts, nothing overboard…. but some pretty flowers or a card will totally make my day!

XO

  Lolita

Oh here we go. You know how much I *love* this so- called “holiday”. Sorry but I would rather be shown on any random day how much I’m appreciated, whether it’s a card, a flower, a note etc, than some day that has become so commercialized it’s sickening. It means *so* much more to get something out of the blue. On “Single’s Awareness Day” you find people (both men & women alike) that wait & wait for something and are extremely disappointed at the end of the day when they don’t get anything special or even a secret admirer out there somewhere.

This year, yes I am single, however the couple previous years I did have an SO. We had “the talk” about it early on and had both decided we had the same outlook therefor decided it would be just another random day for us.

Not to mention how much they jack the price of everything up. Random day flowers are about half the price they are on SAD!

  Elle

This one hits a little close to home for me, except that this question doesn’t only come up for Valentines Day, but also for Christmas and birthdays. My boyfriend hates everything that tells him what he’s “supposed” to do, according to society’s norms.

While I agree with those who say that there shouldn’t be ONE day where you’re supposed to express your love for your SO, it still stings to get nothing on V-day. But it shouldn’t hurt, right, since I think it’s silly and over commercialized? Thing is, boyfriend never asked ME what I thought of it. It’s not a way to proceed that we agreed upon. If he brought it up, I’d probably agree. But on the other hand, if he did surprise me with something sweet, I think I’d cry. Hell, I feel like crying just writing this now.

I respect his hate of Christmas and usually celebrate it with my family. Sometimes I get him something, sometimes I don’t. But this year I didn’t feel like getting him anything because I knew he wouldn’t, and it made me feel a little sour…

Birthdays are a different story. I feel this should be a special day for the birthday boy or girl, and he doesn’t feel that way. I’ve had to tell him, for my last birthday, that perhaps it isn’t important to him, but it is to me… And for his last birthday, I decided that maybe HE wasn’t into birthdays, but I am. So I celebrated him the thoughtful way I wish he’d celebrate me. I don’t want anything lavish, I just want something that shows he put some thought into it.

So to answer the question, what to do if your SO isn’t into a holiday and you are, or vice versa, I definitely feel you should play along for the benefit of your SO. How hard is it? And like Barefoot Dreaming says, “That is basically saying you don’t care for that person.”

  Dana

I *heart* the idea of Valentine’s Day, but have never been with someone who felt the same way about it as I do … which ultimately results in a huge disappointment.

I just think it’s become competitive – and that there is an expectation that this is a woman’s holiday. How many women make it a romantic day for their men?

No disappointments for me this year though. There are some benefits to NOT being in a relationship.

  TUG

Not really a response here, more of a complaint. A friend of mine and myself got the wives a day at the spa for V-day. It includes a facial, mani, pedi, massage, etc. When he told his wife she responded by complaining that, “you know I don’t like massages”. I felt so bad for him. He busts his ass for her and she constantly treats him like crap. So yeah, do what makes the other happy…but also appreciate the effort.