Comments on: Boycotting the V word ~CQW http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/ Tue, 22 May 2012 21:47:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: TUG http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-116498 TUG Sun, 28 Feb 2010 05:37:58 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-116498 Not really a response here, more of a complaint. A friend of mine and myself got the wives a day at the spa for V-day. It includes a facial, mani, pedi, massage, etc. When he told his wife she responded by complaining that, "you know I don't like massages". I felt so bad for him. He busts his ass for her and she constantly treats him like crap. So yeah, do what makes the other happy...but also appreciate the effort. Not really a response here, more of a complaint. A friend of mine and myself got the wives a day at the spa for V-day. It includes a facial, mani, pedi, massage, etc. When he told his wife she responded by complaining that, “you know I don’t like massages”. I felt so bad for him. He busts his ass for her and she constantly treats him like crap. So yeah, do what makes the other happy…but also appreciate the effort.

]]> By: Dana http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115831 Dana Sun, 14 Feb 2010 21:18:47 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115831 I *heart* the idea of Valentine's Day, but have never been with someone who felt the same way about it as I do ... which ultimately results in a huge disappointment. I just think it's become competitive - and that there is an expectation that this is a woman's holiday. How many women make it a romantic day for their men? No disappointments for me this year though. There are some benefits to NOT being in a relationship. I *heart* the idea of Valentine’s Day, but have never been with someone who felt the same way about it as I do … which ultimately results in a huge disappointment.

I just think it’s become competitive – and that there is an expectation that this is a woman’s holiday. How many women make it a romantic day for their men?

No disappointments for me this year though. There are some benefits to NOT being in a relationship.

]]> By: Elle http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115763 Elle Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:54:11 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115763 This one hits a little close to home for me, except that this question doesn't only come up for Valentines Day, but also for Christmas and birthdays. My boyfriend hates everything that tells him what he's "supposed" to do, according to society's norms. While I agree with those who say that there shouldn't be ONE day where you're supposed to express your love for your SO, it still stings to get nothing on V-day. But it shouldn't hurt, right, since I think it's silly and over commercialized? Thing is, boyfriend never asked ME what I thought of it. It's not a way to proceed that we agreed upon. If he brought it up, I'd probably agree. But on the other hand, if he did surprise me with something sweet, I think I'd cry. Hell, I feel like crying just writing this now. I respect his hate of Christmas and usually celebrate it with my family. Sometimes I get him something, sometimes I don't. But this year I didn't feel like getting him anything because I knew he wouldn't, and it made me feel a little sour... Birthdays are a different story. I feel this should be a special day for the birthday boy or girl, and he doesn't feel that way. I've had to tell him, for my last birthday, that perhaps it isn't important to him, but it is to me... And for his last birthday, I decided that maybe HE wasn't into birthdays, but I am. So I celebrated him the thoughtful way I wish he'd celebrate me. I don't want anything lavish, I just want something that shows he put some thought into it. So to answer the question, what to do if your SO isn't into a holiday and you are, or vice versa, I definitely feel you should play along for the benefit of your SO. How hard is it? And like Barefoot Dreaming says, "That is basically saying you don’t care for that person." This one hits a little close to home for me, except that this question doesn’t only come up for Valentines Day, but also for Christmas and birthdays. My boyfriend hates everything that tells him what he’s “supposed” to do, according to society’s norms.

While I agree with those who say that there shouldn’t be ONE day where you’re supposed to express your love for your SO, it still stings to get nothing on V-day. But it shouldn’t hurt, right, since I think it’s silly and over commercialized? Thing is, boyfriend never asked ME what I thought of it. It’s not a way to proceed that we agreed upon. If he brought it up, I’d probably agree. But on the other hand, if he did surprise me with something sweet, I think I’d cry. Hell, I feel like crying just writing this now.

I respect his hate of Christmas and usually celebrate it with my family. Sometimes I get him something, sometimes I don’t. But this year I didn’t feel like getting him anything because I knew he wouldn’t, and it made me feel a little sour…

Birthdays are a different story. I feel this should be a special day for the birthday boy or girl, and he doesn’t feel that way. I’ve had to tell him, for my last birthday, that perhaps it isn’t important to him, but it is to me… And for his last birthday, I decided that maybe HE wasn’t into birthdays, but I am. So I celebrated him the thoughtful way I wish he’d celebrate me. I don’t want anything lavish, I just want something that shows he put some thought into it.

So to answer the question, what to do if your SO isn’t into a holiday and you are, or vice versa, I definitely feel you should play along for the benefit of your SO. How hard is it? And like Barefoot Dreaming says, “That is basically saying you don’t care for that person.”

]]> By: Lolita http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115709 Lolita Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:19:53 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115709 Oh here we go. You know how much I *love* this so- called "holiday". Sorry but I would rather be shown on any random day how much I'm appreciated, whether it's a card, a flower, a note etc, than some day that has become so commercialized it's sickening. It means *so* much more to get something out of the blue. On "Single's Awareness Day" you find people (both men & women alike) that wait & wait for something and are extremely disappointed at the end of the day when they don't get anything special or even a secret admirer out there somewhere. This year, yes I am single, however the couple previous years I did have an SO. We had "the talk" about it early on and had both decided we had the same outlook therefor decided it would be just another random day for us. Not to mention how much they jack the price of everything up. Random day flowers are about half the price they are on SAD! Oh here we go. You know how much I *love* this so- called “holiday”. Sorry but I would rather be shown on any random day how much I’m appreciated, whether it’s a card, a flower, a note etc, than some day that has become so commercialized it’s sickening. It means *so* much more to get something out of the blue. On “Single’s Awareness Day” you find people (both men & women alike) that wait & wait for something and are extremely disappointed at the end of the day when they don’t get anything special or even a secret admirer out there somewhere.

This year, yes I am single, however the couple previous years I did have an SO. We had “the talk” about it early on and had both decided we had the same outlook therefor decided it would be just another random day for us.

Not to mention how much they jack the price of everything up. Random day flowers are about half the price they are on SAD!

]]> By: Ms Scarlett http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115705 Ms Scarlett Thu, 11 Feb 2010 04:26:20 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115705 As horribly over-commercialized as Valentine's Day is, I'd be disappointed it went by completely unmarked. No big gifts, nothing overboard.... but some pretty flowers or a card will totally make my day! XO As horribly over-commercialized as Valentine’s Day is, I’d be disappointed it went by completely unmarked. No big gifts, nothing overboard…. but some pretty flowers or a card will totally make my day!

XO

]]> By: Maggie http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115677 Maggie Wed, 10 Feb 2010 23:56:56 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115677 Of course you do it. It's just like any other special day. If my SO was really into birthdays, I'd go all out for that, so why not for Valentine's Day? Being romantic and sweet every day is a given, but why not take advantage of an opportunity to go above and beyond? Of course you do it. It’s just like any other special day. If my SO was really into birthdays, I’d go all out for that, so why not for Valentine’s Day? Being romantic and sweet every day is a given, but why not take advantage of an opportunity to go above and beyond?

]]> By: hubman http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115672 hubman Wed, 10 Feb 2010 23:19:24 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115672 I'm lucky in that Veronica is as disinterested in Valentine's Day as I am. For us, it's a general objection to the notion that Feb 14 is THE day that we're supposed to express our love for each other. But if Veronica was into it, I'd put on a happy face, for her. 'Cause that's the kind of guy I am :-) I’m lucky in that Veronica is as disinterested in Valentine’s Day as I am. For us, it’s a general objection to the notion that Feb 14 is THE day that we’re supposed to express our love for each other.

But if Veronica was into it, I’d put on a happy face, for her. ‘Cause that’s the kind of guy I am :-)

]]> By: Drew G http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115659 Drew G Wed, 10 Feb 2010 18:38:24 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115659 It depends on the year. Some years I go all out and embrace it with a passion. Other years like this one it goes by like any other day of the week. I am not quite sure why. Vixen your blog is dynamite. I love reading it. If you ever want to work together please just email. Either way keep up the awesome blogging. You rock. It depends on the year. Some years I go all out and embrace it with a passion. Other years like this one it goes by like any other day of the week. I am not quite sure why.

Vixen your blog is dynamite. I love reading it. If you ever want to work together please just email. Either way keep up the awesome blogging. You rock.

]]> By: Vixen http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115654 Vixen Wed, 10 Feb 2010 14:55:25 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115654 K- this doesn't surprise me at all. You seem like such a romantic at heart.... xo Roxy- *off to google 'Nobber' day.....lol K- this doesn’t surprise me at all. You seem like such a romantic at heart…. xo

Roxy- *off to google ‘Nobber’ day…..lol

]]> By: Vixen http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/comment-page-1/#comment-115653 Vixen Wed, 10 Feb 2010 14:54:16 +0000 http://blue-eyedvixen.com/2010/02/boycotting-the-v-word-cqw/#comment-115653 BD- compromise is a good word that you chose. Completely agree. I think it's a given that hot sex should be the priority on Vday. Men that are boycotting the holiday obviously aren't getting it good enough. *LOL* BD- compromise is a good word that you chose. Completely agree.

I think it’s a given that hot sex should be the priority on Vday. Men that are boycotting the holiday obviously aren’t getting it good enough. *LOL*

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