Wow. Looks you 3 had a great time in Vegas and you even managed to surprise yourself.

Missed you at MM.

Might we get at least some of the details? Please?

Well, I guess that cat’s out of the bag.

Hon, you didn’t disappoint. I have to admit that I never quite envisioned you getting into this quite as much as you have. You’ve now taken to this like a duck to water or perhaps a cat to catnip. Who knew?

I’m glad you’ve had fun. It’s definitely a strange place for me. Talking about something and actually doing it are very, very different. And I certainly don’t want you to feel as if I’m indifferent or that I don’t care what you do. The reality is I care very much and I don’t like sharing.

But I am working hard to not be controlling, to let you have the control over yourself and over me as well. Remember to do a good job all the way around, my Vixen. :)

Troll- I’ll be back next week :)

Hubman- you did say please… ;)

(I’m working on it)

PC- catnip…. *giggle*

I like having the control too. Who knew ;)

*MUAH*

Well, you say you do. But you’re still the passive-aggressive dominatrix when comes to all this stuff. “Tell me what you want me to tell you.” ;)

PC- Doh

True…so true…..

Passive-aggressive dominatrixes. Hilarious. I think a new category of kink has just been created, and I suspect there are a lot of people in this category. I’m like PC on this one and my wife is like Vixen. I love her just the way she is, but it’s so exhilarating when she is sluttier, and she makes me feel the shift of control.

PC – Man you are one special guy…I kinda get where you are at…but I don’t know if I have the constitution to handle it myself.

Vixen _ I am kinda caught between wanting you to share and not wanting you to share..the Pros are it would probably be hot and totally titillating

The cons – would be that it would be hot and totally titillating :-) and I dunno maybe it should just be a you and PC thing as well.

Just thinking out loud…glad you had a good time…and if you could send a chick to CLICK with me out to California I would be very grateful! :-D

Well, so far it’s been mostly talk– or really all talk. And while I love her to take control, getting her to actually do so is more difficult than getting the dogs to stop eating cat poop.

I suppose at the end of the day, I’m really just an enabler. And I’m pretty okay with that. But she’s welcome to start demanding stuff. I’d probably be VERY good with that. ;)

I hear you K. It’s tough on this end too.

If our behind closed doors lives were boring, this would become a no-brainer, I suppose. But it’s not like that. We have quite a nice life together.

And it’s not a quid pro quo situation either. That would take the fun out and keep the bar always being raised.

Ultimately, the way to go is that seeks to do things for me that I enjoy and vice versa, regardless of what the other’s actions are. And that’s hard to do without some fear of selfishness creeping in.

Ultimately, the way to go is that seeks to do things for me that I enjoy and vice versa, regardless of what the other’s actions are. And that’s hard to do without some fear of selfishness creeping in.

yes, I agree completely.

PC, for your enjoyment. Maybe Vixen’s, too.

Postings I’ve made on another site. Scroll down to the entry written by jrgraham

http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=3642&start=1450

and then it picks up here

http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=6505&p=108586#p108586

Not meant to be self-promotional at all, just to be enjoyed and I hope its OK.

My sister had the same situation with her now-husband before they were married and he was deployed. She could do whatever (whomever) she wanted as long as she told him every little detail. He loved it. After they get a little more established as a married couple I think they may try to do something like this again.

Wow, I think it’s real cool that you are open like that. I guess I didn’t know to the extent. I thought it was just girls. I know that PC said above in his comments that it’s not quid pro quo..so he doesn’t play the same way that you are allowed to? He just likes it that you do? Cool nonetheless.

I think the difference is that I’m so used to being in control that it’s refreshing to have her in charge. In her case, the opposite was true and she didn’t feel much freedom.

So I definitely have zero interest in having anything extra marital on my side. I’m completely devoted to my wife. :)

I will have to admit, some statements you’ve made in blog posts here and there made me wonder if I was either a) picking up on something or b) missing something. Glad to hear it wasn’t the latter (for once!)

I’m glad you had a LOT of fun in Vegas! ;-)
~Emmy

Wow did I pick the right week to come back or what!?!

You and PC definitely must have a great relationship. I could not be in his shoes – but I think I’d be willing to try on your’s one day! ;)

Oh and I had to go google “cuckholding” – what does that say about me? lol
(urbandictionary.com sucks by the way)

Emmy- I’m good at being cryptic and have alluded to much. This just seemed a good time to kind of spill more than usual :)

PC- *swoon*

Vixen & PC,

I’ve lurked for a few months, but the Vegas travelogue demands some audience participation.

First and foremost, I truly admire the honesty, candor and security the two of you share. That degree of trust and (granted) freedom is something that I aspire to within my own relationship.

Secondly, Wow! If I’m not mistaken, I think this Vegas thread was the first time that your face was clearly disclosed, Vixen. Previous photos, in their various expositions, were all lovely, but this vacation series fully reveals how truly beautiful you are. Standard blog cliche, perhaps, but PC, you are a very lucky man indeed.

V, you always weave a compelling narrative, but your detailed recounting of the Vegas trip was the next best thing to being there, too. Almost…

Glad to hear that the trip rekindled some internal, personal sparks that had cooled a bit. We could all benefit from a re-charge now and then. I will be curious to hear further details if you decide to post them. Not just the salacious aspects, but the attendant psychological perspective on it, too, as well as PC’s take on the events.

I’m guessing that any case of slightly jangled sensibilities on PC’s part might be mitigated by the photos captured that weekend. I may be guilty of placing my own psyche’s template on the adventure, but seeing the pics of the Marine boy –young and clearly not Rico Suave– would ease any inevitable twinges of jealousy, despite the carte blanche that existed that weekend.

Anyway– great website, great writing, beautiful woman and amazing marriage. Thanks for sharing, literally and figuratively. It helps to inform the steps the rest of us take on our own paths to realizing truly satisfying and intimate relationships.

Scott- nice to see you come out of the woodwork :)

Loved your comment, very flattering, *grins*

Thanks so much for what you’ve said.

You’ve got something really quite similar to my husband and I. He really wants to hear the details, he wants me to be slutty and come back home. He reads the blog, as well!

AND YES I’m so the same way “tell me what to tell you” when I try to be dominant, lol

I’m glad it’s not only my dog that eats cat shit!

PC, I couldn’t do it & I can admit that. I’m not sure how I’d feel in your shoes but on the other hand the level of trust you have is *amazing* and I totally envy that. I would always want the truth no matter what. Unfortunately what most of us get are lies.

jrgraham – sounds like our wives need to meet ;)