Barefoot Dreaming

Better now then later. It sounds harsh – but i say that because one of the girls with us tonight is going through a divorce and it is primarily because he re-enlisted. sigh….. so wrong.

  Vixen

BD- that was pretty much my point with him. Just bc ‘now’ isn’t the right time…doesn’t mean when he’s back, further down the road, they might not be able to spark things back up. If there is truly something there.

  Athol Kay: Married Man Sex Life

I think if you’re miltary these days you just have to assume the risk that your woman is going to leave you, cheat on you, or get pregnant to another man at a much higher rate than for non-miltary men.

Women only like the idea of “loving a man in uniform”, the reality of loving one is different.

And women wonder why men are afraid of commitment. It’s not our commitment we are afraid of, it’s your lack of commitment to us.

  frenchies

This is such a difficult situation because the distance always intensifies the emotions involved. It’s hard to get a baseline for the relationship when you’re always apart.

I wish them both the best and agree that NOW isn’t FOREVER.

  vixen kitten

My personal opinion is lets *hope* things don’t start up between them again when he gets back because honestly, it doesn’t sound like she deserves him.

Spoken as the proud Mama of a soldier.

xoxo
~vk~

  Babe Lincoln

I’m a firm believer in “everything happens for a reason,” so while he is suffering through the breakup now, something better could be right on the horizon and he might never have realized it without this happening first.

  TUG

As much as it sucks, it is better for him now. She has a life and must decide what is best for her. Now he can find someone who will understand his life better. If she did this now, she would certainly do it later…perhaps much later when it would be worse. Its a hard situation for everyone. Only the lucky ones survive after a few trips.

  Kahuna

Hey VIX,

I sincerely hope this does not come off wrong, but this is the same marine you are sleeping with and I would guess that the girlfriend was not aware of that. If that is not the case feel free to ignore this
Trust me – I am not being judgmental, it is a question that I ask myself. My Babushka’s girlfriend is married and her hubby is not aware of their intimacies. At times I wonder if it is fair for him either.

  Maggie

I’m with vixen kitten. There’s a certain amount of bravery required of someone who is with a military person. If she can’t handle it, maybe she should be dating someone who isn’t in the military and he should be dating someone who will stick by him no matter what.

  hubman

Being a partner to a member of the military isn’t easy, especially one who might have to deploy on a relatively frequent basis. Better that she recognizes that now, if it’s the case.

  Vixen

Athol Kay- I do agree with you about women loving the ‘idea’ of a man in uniform rather than the reality of it. The heartache.

But not sure how much I agree with the other stuff. ;)

VK- that’s kind of what I have been thinking too….

Babe Lincoln- me too, I believe the same thing. Everything DOES happen for a reason. Easier to say while not immersed in it, but yeah.

  Vixen

TUG- I agree. Better he find out now. And I truly think he should find someone better suited for him and his lifestyle.

  Vixen

Kahuna- They have been broken up since he came back from his last tour, right before Christmas. She knows he is seeing/being with other women, just not *specifics*. And she is dating, etc as well.

Maggie- yep. Great advice and I fully agree.