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Do you remember the friend I mentioned awhile back in my ‘Can we have sex already?!’ post… the one who was dating a guy who she really liked but he had yet to really make a move on her and they hadn’t had sex yet and it was bothering her?

Ok.  So.  Fast forward.  She did finally have a conversation with him, letting him know that she would like them to be sexually intimate and where the hell was he at (ok, worded more ‘delicately’, but you get the idea).  His point was he really enjoyed their friendship and was happy with things moving along slowly.

Well.  Alright.  Not really the ‘OMG NOW THAT I *KNOW*, I WANT YOU NOW, LET’S HAVE SEX!!!’ jump-her-right-there answer she might have hoped for.  But being someone who hasn’t had the best luck with long term relationships and most of them being all about great sex but not a lot of substance….she swooned a bit at the thought that he wanted something more in depth with her than ‘just sex’.

Hell, who can blame her?!  Although us on the outside silently cringed a bit thinking…..he doesn’t really care about sex.  Or at least, sex isn’t at important to him as it is her.  (and it’s very very important to her)  Which long term, could really be an issue. (I say this with certainty because I’ve seen it time and time again, several people close to me are in marriages like this and it’s not a good thing…)

Fast forward a bit more.  They had a blow up, broke up.  Have begun doing things together again, but this time under the understanding that they are *friends*.  My friend doesn’t want to only be friends, is hoping it will grow into more and the relationship will turn into what she hoped it would be since the beginning.  On the outside looking in, can’t help but think- he NEVER truly wanted to be anything more than friends with her!  I think she’s wasting her time, she should cut her losses and move on rather than pining away for something she hopes it will become when to me, it was clear it was never going to be anything more!

Yes?  No?  Should she continue ‘trying’ to get it to grow into more????

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HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

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I had a deep dark secret from my childhood slam me in the face on Sunday.  Hard.

At first I was taken off guard.  Shocked.  Surprised.  But then as the day wore on, into the night and then the next day….and the memories and emotions and feelings starting bubbling up and over.  Things I haven’t thought about or talked about in over twenty years.  And I felt myself suffocating from anxiety, of being overwhelmed…

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And I shared some of this information with someone close to me.  But then walked away feeling overly exposed and very, very raw.  Worrying.  Regretting.  Obsessing.

My sister pointed something out to me.  That was rather eye opening.  I am a very open person.  But I am very open about things that I am comfortable with.  Which is many/most things but that I have several boxes that I keep tightly closed, off limits, that I don’t share very openly about.  She said I was being unfair to myself.  And that maybe that is where ‘these feelings’ were coming from…

Have I mentioned how much I *heart* my sister? 

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PC came home mid day, to be with me.  He brought lunch from a new sandwich shop I’d been wanting to try…knowing if he didn’t, I probably wouldn’t have eaten.  He didn’t have to come home.  But he did because he was worried and wanted to be with me.  I was able to shut the buzz of my thoughts down long enough to rest.  Something I struggle with…

Have I mentioned how much I *heart* my husband?

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~ xo

Vixen

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.…

Just be sure to add the Vodka too.  ~wink~

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So.  What weekend, where? 

*blink blink* 

Weekend started out a bit um, rough.  “Stuff”.  As well as had beyond imaginable bad service at a restaurant Friday night.  Will not be going back there again.  For food.  It will be tempting to go back for their great drink prices though….

Kiddos were kidnapped by their aunt for part of the weekend.  Which freed up an evening to do adult activities.  Girls night out!  PC included, as he is an honorary girl after all.  He was on his bestest behavior (brownie points for him!).  I however, was not.  *evil grins* 

We went to our new favorite place that has a super fun rooftop patio.  The night is somewhat of a blur as the shots and beers continued through the night.  So much for telling PC I would be sticking to beer only, and definitely not more than one shot.  (says the girl who drank three plus shots….one of which contained a concoction of Crown, Peach Schnapps and Red Bull- all three of which are on my ‘no-way-no-thank-you-no-no-no’ list….)

I do remember my (SMOKING HOT) friend being hit on by some guy and me climbing into her lap seductively and informing him she was with me, followed by a fitful of giggles from her and I.  Once he realized we weren’t going to allow him to play with us, he left.  *snort*

Another interesting tidbit was an older gentleman who kept hitting on the three of us, while at the same time trying to hook one of us up with his sons.  Um…hmmm…..alrighty then, but no thanks.

So um PC….whatcha got going on down there?  Bwahahaha….. 

Super fun night.  Super late night….  Had to pick up the kiddos at what had seemed a reasonable time when I originally agreed, although came waaaaaaaaaaaay too early the next morning.  (doh)  Thank God for Starbucks!

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My sister and I have fabulous costumes planned for Halloween, doing the same theme as each other.  We’ve begun searching out the items we’ll need.  The most important and intricate part of the costume is being researched.  PC has already ordered his (custom ordered/made so no Cindy Brady this year, haha!).  It’s going to rock.  Can. not. wait!  *giddy*

I’m rather brain dead in a tequila fog sort of a way so that is about all I have.  Date night with Ashton (aka Yummy) so this will be posting early. 

Happy Monday!

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~ xo

Vixen

Friday Favorites-

Topaz…..as I told her earlier, this causes my mind to reel.  The bit of long hair, the necklaces, the wisp of material covering, that ‘sweet’ spot her cleavage creates, ok yes, and the FRISKY ink….sensory overload.  And in a good way.

The Reluctant Princess…..wine.  bath.  bubbles.  She had me at hello, er um, her in the tub.  ~wink~

Barefoot Dreamer….. and NO it’s not just bc seeing her texts/IMs/FBmsgs, etc give me butterflies and draw up thoughts of pushing her back up against a wall in a dark corner and doing very bad things to her….her photography and pictures are amazing

If you haven’t done so already- hit the girls up!
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Who would have thought my kiddos going back to school would actually cause me to be busier than I was when they were out.  Good lord, the blur of craziness the last couple week have been for me!  I think I might catch a break the middle of next week and actually be able to breathe again.  Part of the issue is that the HUGE children consignment sale that comes twice a year happened to fall the week after school resumed.  I always consign/participate and it’s a ridiculous amount of work.  But thankfully, always pays off, making it worthwhile.  Add in the mix, two separate parent nights (one for each kiddo), a very pregnant Daisy dog, household upkeep, a self created To-Do list….  Honestly.  The last two weeks have been such a blur I don’t even know what day it is barely.

Anyway.  Speaking of parent night. I have mentioned my kids school PTA in previous posts.  We live in a tiny town.  They dynamics of our PTA is….um….well, reminds me of high school.  A group of cliquey, catty, snarky women.  There are those that are PTA moms and then those of us that ‘are not’.  And it’s a very clear line.  At first I tried to pretend it was in my head.  But uh, no.  I could give you scenario after scenario.  Whatever.  It’s a whatever.   *rolling eyes*  I just do my thing and pretend to play nicey nice to get by.  I enjoy volunteering at the school, in the classrooms and I’m not going to let wanna be high school girls trying to re-enact the movie Heathers fuck that up. 

So the first night went down drama free, with out incident (other than the usual BS).

The second night however…  Whoa. I have officially met the. biggest. asshat. EVER.  From the beginning of the evening the man (father of some poor child) was a complete ass- being belligerent, rude, highly inappropriate and quite obviously had a massive chip on his shoulder regarding….  teachers?  parents?  schools?  school systems in general?  the human race????  I couldn’t even begin to recount what took place but a mini-riot ensued.  Seriously.  It was insane.  I do not handle confrontation well at all and my anxiety was through the roof.  I pity not only the child of that person but also the poor, poor teacher that will have to deal with that parent for the entire school year.  Gah….

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So there you go.  It’s Friday!  Time to decompress and let loose.

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~ xo

Vixen

More from a previous series… Honestly, they are out takes. I’m killing time until after Labor Day to begin a new fabulous series (Barefoot Dreamer told me so, ~grins~)
Tranquility
Serenity

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HappyHNT!!!

~ xo

Vixen

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I read an article recently about a woman who sued her ex-boyfriend for giving her an STD.  And she won.  It’s raised a ton of controversy in the legal system.  Some experts believe such cases send a message that people need to take responsibility for their sexual behavior.

“If you engage in conduct that you know can cause harm to others, and fail to take precautions or give them an opportunity to opt out, you an hardly complain when you are held accountable” ~Areva Martin (author of “The Everyday Advocate”)

But others disagree saying we live in a highly ‘sue happy’ society, that because STD’s are so common, it could clog up our court system.  Pointing out that a ‘better fix’ than suing would be better sex education.

Now.  What made her case ‘news worthy’ was the type of STD she had.  HPV is difficult to prove transmission by a specific sexual partner because there is no HPV test for men and they can be carriers with out ever experiencing symptoms.  As well as it can lie dormant for years in a female, causing no symptoms or problems.

For the purpose of this CQW, I’m not wanting to dwell on which STD.  Just the over-all question of would YOU sue over an STD?

I was actually super surprised, when I researched this article and the facts surrounding the case, to discover how many people when asked this question said- NO.  Saying various statements like- the ruling seemed “over the top”, it was “unfair”.  One person even said something to the effect of- sometimes bad things happen to good people and you have to roll with it rather than look for people to blame.

Right.  Hmm…..

The case has sat with me.  I’ve read both sides (as best you can, neither of them have ever given interviews,  it’s just what is court documented) as well as the ‘for’ and ‘against’ points of views.  I think in this day and age, with STD’s being as widespread and ‘common’ (ack- I hate to use that term) as they are.  If someone willfully gives another an STD- as in KNOWS they have it and never make their sexual partner(s) aware of it- then YES.  That person should be held accountable.  Not taking accountability for one’s actions is a rather big character flaw in my opinion. It’s something we teach our children, it’s something I expect from other adults.

Now the question that comes up in my mind though is *would I*.  That I’m not sure about.  I’m inclined to say I probably wouldn’t.  I’m not someone who likes to be involved in the court system.  I am the utter opposite of ‘sue happy’.  It just probably wouldn’t be in my nature to take such action.

Would YOU?

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HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

I’ve been thinking quite a bit about what it would be like to experience a positive M/F/M threesome.  You know, as opposed to the experience I had that sucked (no pun intended) and I swore I would never participate in such an activity again…..  I actually used to be fairly turned off by the idea of threesomes in general.  So many emotions and feelings involved, someone inevitably feels left out, which causes issues.  Which can lead to drama.  You all know how I feel about drama! But I’ve had more positive experiences that have led to a more positive position (again, ha, no pun intended) on the idea.  It can work.  It can be drama free.  It can be A LOT of fun.  With the right people.

Part of our cuckhold talk for numerous years between PC and I have involved the idea of a M/F/M scenario.  Fun to talk about in bed, in the heat of the moment, as a ‘turn on’ tool…but to actually go through with?  Yeah, very different.  And I have been….reluctant to proceed.  But as of late, the idea is intriguing me more and more. 

I am becoming much more open to the idea, let’s just say.

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I’ll make it even easier. You want to become a regular contributor? You can send me one picture at a time. Or bunches. I’ll start a file and pull a picture from it each week. I’m easy people (I keep telling you all that! *grins*)!

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Have a fabulous Tuesday!!!

~ xo

Vixen

Whirlwind of a weekend.  Some plans fell through.  Others popped up.  My sleeping habits are all mucked up (ie…. asleep at 9, up from midnight-4am, asleep 4ish-9am…hey I guess if you add it up, that’s 9 hours of sleep- impressive for me! Haha…).  I thank my allergies.  But overall a fabulous one.

Some random notes-

*** The other morning, in the midst of LP having yet another melt down (the 5th?  10?  ….idk I lost count) it struck me how fucking high strung she is.  She gets/feels stressed and her anxiety goes up and next thing you know she’s flustered and short and her voice goes up…..  Good lord girl, take a chill pill already! And it hit me.  HARD. 
OMG….she’s totally me.  PC refers to it as me being in “Daisy Mode”.  We have a very neurotic Mini Australian Shepherd, Daisy.  The poor thing HATES to get in trouble, HATES for voices to be raised, gets stressed out VERY easily- if everything is not feeling completely fabulous and peachy to her she becomes a mess.  I’ve referred to it before, but if you ever saw the movie The Golden Compass, they focus on everyone having a ‘daemon‘.  PC says Daisy is my daemon.  When I mentioned to PC how high strung LP is and that I thought she might have gotten it from me.  He stares at me incredulously and says…. “might?!”.

Oh.  Right.  Man….

*** We were out Friday night at our favorite brewery (good beer and endless vegetarian options= *SWOON*).  Sitting on a very crowded patio.  And I receive a text from Roxy.  A very um, NSFP (Not Safe For Public) picture.  Which…totally not shocking. *snort*  I didn’t open it with the most ‘care’ (I know, I know…my bad).  Doh.  I receive several more (Roxy!  LOLOLOL) and realize the five-top behind us has become increasingly more ‘interested’ in PC and mine conversation.  And the way in which I am sitting, anything I view on my BB is also viewable to some of them.  It’s a moment where you wonder if you should just invite them to sit with you because clearly they are more interested in what you have going on.  *shaking head*

I bring this up bc this is the third time in the last couple weeks I’ve been out and had the occupants of a table nearby so blatantly be eavesdropping.  I love to people watch as much as the next person but fucking A, at least I’m stealth (ok…’ish’…) about it.  Ashton (aka Yummy) and I were out last week and I admit, carrying on an increasingly more risque conversation.  I swear the woman at the table next to us was about to fall out of her chair she was so intrigued/interested in what we were talking about.  I felt like pulling a chair up and inviting her in. I mean, seriously…  Apparently conversation of raves, threesomes, and lesbians were far more interesting than whatever the three men she was with were talking about.  *snort*

*** Back to my Friday night.  We had a fabulous time.  Intermixed with boob and penis shots.  Never a dull moment in Vixen-land!  Did ponder something else while we were out this weekend….  What makes someone who is very clearly NOT a people person, take a job in a position that clearly requires you to BE a people person.  Such as waiting tables.  Things that make you go, hmm….

*** It was 94 Saturday.  And 99 degrees on Sunday.  Scorching hot.  Luckily I was able to get the kiddos to the pool one of those days.  I hear there is a huge change in weather coming soon.  Noooo……

*** I have an insane crush on Hit Girl.  Yes. It’s wrong.  Very wrong.  She’s um….ok. I’m not even going to tell you her age.  But damn….  *fans self*  Let’s just pretend she’s like, um, twenty-one!  Yes, yes, that’s a fine and legal age.  Mmmhmm.  (um yeah….)

*** Jennifer Anniston and Justin Bateman had mad chemistry in The Switch.  Sweet, funny, heart wrenching…..very good movie.  AND there are a ton of awesome chick flicks movies coming out in the next few months!  Yay for PC…  *snort*  (I’ve seen enough action/shot them up/alien/macho movies that panty boy of mine can suck up five a chick flick every so often ~wink~)

So there you go.  It’s Monday.  Enjoy it.  I hear that with enough coffee I could rule the world.  I will be testing this theory….

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

PC- Are you drunk?

Vixen- No. 

PC- Can I make you a drink?

Vixen- Are you trying to get me drunk?

PC- No.  I’m trying to get fucked.

Ha!  Well ok then.

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~ xo

Vixen

“A red hot set for your lingerie collection, this stretch mesh babydoll features embroidery with sequined detail. The underwire cups are padded for lift and support, and have a ruffled trim with a satin ribbon accent. A set of detached puff sleeves and matching thong complete this set.“

There were quiet a few things I absolutely loved about this super sexy set.  The set includes a babydoll, matching thong and *detached* puff sleeves.  The ruffled, mesh babydoll has the most perfectly perfect ribbon tie.  It’s also underwire and padded, with adjustable straps, giving *POP* to your cleavage.  Because of the ribbon tie and the adjustable straps of the babydoll and the stretchy-ness of the G-string it could fit many body styles/types.  The G-string fit exactly how it should- low, form fitting…  Many times a set will come and one part will fit great while another is too big (on me).  Not the case.  They both fit perfectly. 

My only complaint was that the ‘detached’ puff sleeves were exactly that- detached.  Granted, I have fairly scrawny small arms, but I could not get them to stay up.  For the life of me.  They are a fabulous added feature to the set.  The costume I’m considering for Halloween has these same puff sleeves.  LOVE the idea.  But the fact they were detached was kind of a turn off.  Because even if they were too big, if they were attached they would stay up AND they would be a awesome addition to the outfit.  Having them not be attached made them seem a bit…pointless, I guess.

Overall I did really love the set!

More lingerie can be found at Eden Fantasy….

~ xo

Vixen