Inappropriate Gifts? ~CQW
posted by: Vixen
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‘Tis the season for gift giving. And it always comes up in some fashion- the appropriateness of who you give gifts to and what they are. Awhile back I discussed in a CQW about ex’s exchanging gifts and under what circumstances it was or wasn’t ok. So this is a bit similar but different.
Joe’s company does a gift exchange each year. Each person is given the name of the person they are supposed to buy for. Then at the company Christmas party everyone receives their gifts. Joe was given a custom tailored beautiful/sexy shirt by a female co-worker. It’s clearly expensively made. His wife Karen is upset. The shirt fits Joe perfectly and Karen is curious/confused as to how the female co-worker would know her husband’s exact size. She feels this was an inappropriate gift and has asked him to return it to her. The entire scenario makes Karen super uncomfortable.
Is Karen making too much of this or is he in the wrong for accepting it???
My view….
Is Karen making too much of this? I don’t think so. It would bother me that such an extravagant gift was given. What would bother me even more is how exactly the female co-worker knew his correct size to have a shirt custom made. That part is a bit odd to me. Is he wrong for accepting it though? No. What was he supposed to do? And Karen asking him to return it to the co-worker….what does that do?! Joe can be gracious about the shirt as a gift but I think he’s now in a position to make sure he’s not sending this female mixed signals.
Your thoughts?
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December 15th, 2010 at 6:36 am
The oddest part is that the co-worker new his size, etc. She obviously didn’t consult Karen. Perhaps there’s more going on with Joe and the co-worker than meets the eye. Karen has a right to be upset and should have further discussion with Joe.
Babe LincolnDecember 15th, 2010 at 2:51 pm
I’d be pissed. And I’d sure be talking to Joe about whatever signals he must be sending to Karen!
kennyDecember 17th, 2010 at 11:37 am
Look I wouldn’t read too much into the fact that she knew his size. Men’s clothing sizes are a lot easier to guestimate than women’s and I doubt it is that custom other than the sleeve length and neck size.
That being said a gift of this nature and expense is wholly inappropriate for an office gift exchange. It smacks of a little more intimacy than is appropriate for an exchange with someone who is in a comitted relationship, but giving it back might be insulting.
If it were me though I would plan on doing some fishing off the company pier!