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A hotel room.  With a view.  An amazing view at that.

I saw the window the minute I stepped foot into the room.  Big.  Floor to ceiling.  Over looking the snowy city. 

And the bed…with the crisp white sheets.  Perfectly folded down (what IS IT about hotel beds…hotel bedding….that so insanely turns me on?!).

I begin undressing in front of that window.  A window so similar to the one we had talked about….numerous times before.  The big city lights illuminating the room.

You take a step towards me.  Then another. I’m down to my bra and panties. …hadn’t undressed completely…yet.  As you take me into your arms, faltering backwards slightly against your weight, I feel the cold glass on my bare back.  The heat of your hand on my lower back, pulling me to you.  Your mouth heavily upon mine…but only briefly.  Both of our breaths catching….  As you move your mouth down my jawline, to my neck and collarbone.  Me turning my neck to the side, better enabling you to take me in, wanting you to taste me.

(vi.sualize.us)

I feel myself becoming wet.  Wanting.

Your fingers along the edge of my panties, near my waist.  Then moving to grasp my breast, inside my bra, to my nipple, pulling my bra aside.  Greedily your mouth encloses it.

Yeessss.

Your other hand enclosed over my neck, gently at first, then with more pressure.  As your mouth begins sucking, tongue flicking….my breath quickening, your grip tightening.

Crisp sheets come to mind.  I want to feel them against my skin.  I break away from you.  To crawl over them.  Kneeling on the linens.  In front of you.  Slowly unclasping my bra….  Then slipping off my panties.  Never taking my eyes from yours.  I moisten my lips, biting the corner of my bottom lip slightly. 

An invite.

As you move across the room, from the window to the bed, you begin peeling off your own clothing… unbuttoning your dress shirt.  When you stop in front of me, legs against the edge of the bed, I’m consumed with desire.  To have your hands on every inch of me.  Your mouth tasting me.

To feel the crisp white linens against my bare skin.

(vi.sualize.us)

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2010 Recap- Yes yes, I know. It’s actually almost February and I’m just now (finally!) getting it up (snicker).  It’s been mostly finished for weeks. I considered just ditching the entire thing and then realized how much I had invested already.  So yeah….here ya go.  It’s been quite a year.

***FYI, click on the highlighted links to see original posts

January….

My sister, Roxy and I prepped for our first girls only trip to viva Las Vegas.

We spent four days in -Sin City partying it up doing it up right our second night in with table service at The Rok and pulling an all nighter….10:00 am was the time in I believe.

I met Young Marine and so began my new found interest in….boys.

February….

I divulge PC and mine idea of delving into cuckholding.  The road that has brought us here.  Ok so, I open up more about my private life.

Vegas was so fun and my stunningly sexy friend Lolita was so bummed she’d missed the trip, what did I do???  WENT TO VEGAS AGAIN! (for a night…yeah I know….a NIGHT, haha)

PC writes his first post…explaining the path that led us to consider cuckholding.  And follows it with a post called “Pandora’s Box”.

My Young Marine flew in for the wkend.  We had a whirlwind two day fuck fest tryst.

Old Spice released THE. BEST. COMMERCIAL ever!

PC decides after my weekend with YM that I need a local someone. To see regularly.  He sees how much I enjoy the exhilaration and scours Craigslist.  Where he finds Ashton (aka- Tall Glass of Yummy).  And we hit it off immediately.  That *click* PC recognizes I need and the only way I can be interested in someone…is instantaneous.  And so the adventures of Ashton and I begin (and continue for the next year).

March….

My sister and I attend Cheesefest 2010 go see Bon Jovi in concert.

I’m turned onto La Senza….the best lingerie store E.V.E.R (thanks Elle!)

PC’s and mine relationship is on a learning curve.  I try to explain our relationship and what makes it work a bit more….to everyone else.

I introduce “The Nineteen Year Old Hottie”….a girl I had a summer fling with before she went off to college.

PC and I head to California for Roxy’s annual Birthday Bash!  Donnie….*swoon*…. (Don Ramon Tequila for newbies *wink*)

April….

Spring comes…*yay*!!!  And with it the worst allergies I’ve ever experienced *groan*

Learn that if Ashton were Superman, his Kryptonite would be Brazilian Rum.  *ahem*

After years of playing TMI Tuesday, in it’s place I introduce (to my site) Tuesday Trysts.

My head space falters.  PC suggests that a good dose of sunshine, tequila and Roxy will fix that (it did…  *grins*).  So off to Roxy-ville I go.

After numerous Dr appointments and living with my pyschotic PMDD symptoms for an eternity years.  I go in for out-patient Endometrial Ablation surgery to be ‘fixed’.  And have an awful, awful time recovering… (gah)

Marriages take work (duh)….focus, focus, focus.  PC still makes my heart go aflutter.

May….

Trolls suck.  BFD has one attack her for being a mom AND a sexual being *gasp!!!* and I rant.

I delve into the idea behind NRE (New Relationship Energy)….and lust.  And finally see Ashton again after the surgery that laid me out for weeks.  I think we saw a movie (kinda…*wicked grins*).

Mothers Day.  *happy sigh* PC rocked it in a serious way.  Making my heart go pitter patter.  Amazing day.

Drama pops up in regards to RL bullshit.  I don’t handle stress.  Or drama.  very well….  Dealing with anxiety issues.

Off to Roxy-ville again.  Sunshine, tequila and Roxy….  *happy sigh* Snowboard gear poolside- screams southern California, no?!  Hehe….

June….

After much obsessing, I went and got my 8th tattoo!  Not my most impressive, but definitely one of my most meaningful.

I make a confession.  I’m incapable of swallowing.  Not for lack of trying. I just. can. not. do. it.  But I promise I make up for it in other ways!

PC’s son came to spend the month with us.  And it rained.  And rained.  And….raaaaaaaaaaained.

I run into my pool crush.  A girl I became friends with years before.  The Real L Word starts up!  *YAY!*  PC says one of the girls reminds him of me.  Hey, but wait, she’s a player!  Oh….damn.

But wait. I’m not so much a ‘player’….I’m an equal opportunity flirter!  Ha!  I promise if I dig you, you WILL know it.  Even if I suck at showing it enough sometimes.  (I’ve actually worked on this and improved upon it…I do learn from my mistakes).

A list of the 9 most awesomest places to have sex!  And their consequences (doh). Ok…so I maybe don’t completely agree…

July….

PC and I head to Roxyville to celebrate the 4th of July.  WOOT!  And, and, aaaaaaaaaaand with a special surprise in tow.  THE OS SHIRT!!!  After years of begging asking I finally get it in my possession.  We took full advantage of involving it in all sorts of debauchery.  *smirk*

Stupid funk.  Again. (seriously…..come on already….sigh)

Someone (ahemBFDahem) has a birthday!  I celebrate by making her er, um, cupcakes.  *wicked grins*

I discover my song.  The best song.  Ever.  *happy sigh*

We make our annual trip the The Ren Festival.

Many life changes….PC’s work schedule changes and we both try to figure out how to make ‘the new us’ work.  It’s scary.
It’s exciting.  But at the end of the day….I love him with all my
heart.

With the help of PC, we come to the realization of what might be causing my sudden onset of awful ‘funks’.  Introduce “HAPPY PILLS” and Psycho-Hot-Mess-No-More.  Yay!!!!

August….

PC and I celebrate our anniversary, I don’t know what he was thinking when he proposed to me.  But damn…I’m one lucky girl! *grins*

I have a Facebook Fan Page!  Wait…you didn’t know?!  Wha?!?!  Look in my sidebar, click “LIKE”, you know you wanna!  It’s a super easy way to follow me!

I take one last trip to Roxyville.  My monthly visits through out the summer helped my head space in such a serious way.  Roxy and I take a super hot photo shoot.  *wicked grins*

PC does some experimenting of his own…..  *winkwinksmirk*

I confront several issues I’ve been putting off.  Roxy’s coin-marked phrase ‘being in Ostrich-mode’ needs to come to an end.  *sigh*

I contemplate the idea of a MMF threesome.  Hmm……  An idea that used to repulse me is sounding rather intriguing now.  Wow how a girl can change in a year.  First I reconsider swearing off all men (thanks to the encouragement from the love of my life…PC) and next I’m fantasizing about being with two men!  Ha…who knew?!

Kiddos go back to school.  The pool closes for the season.  Summer is officially coming to an end.  (whaaa….)

We all have skeletons in our closet.  Mine chose to peek out.  And sometimes we open ourselves up to people and then later realize how much we actually exposed of ourselves….and wish we could take it all back.  So as not to feel so vulnerable.  And raw.

September….

I talk about my dating experiences with different dating sites.  Ashton set that freakin bar high- HIGH.  My quest to find someone even remotely comparable begins.  If nothing else, good blog fodder! (haha)

I become sick.  Not just ‘kind of sick’…I know how to do sick up RIGHT.  Over 6 weeks of being sick with a kick ass (and not in a good way) respiratory infection.  Fuck. Me.

The same day that my little girl turns 11 *gasp!* the stork delivers 5 babies to our house….3 little boys and 2 sweet girls.  I officially become a SAHM to Daisy’s second litter of pups.

PC and I continue to discuss our ‘rules’.  The only way this ‘thing’…with my playing…will work is with rules.  And constant, extremely open conversations.

After quite a few dates that can be summed up with- wha whaa waaaaaa…….  I meet Abercrombie/The Mechanic.  He’s no Ashton, that’s for sure (sigh….damnit) and he’s definitely only interested in a FB but…..hey.

PC celebrates a birthday!

Roxy and her stud of husband, Quicksilver, come into town to celebrate my birthday!  WOOT WOOT…. My sister and many of our other friends  join us downtown for margaritas and Coyote Ugly to party like rockstars.  *huge grins*

October….

Google me!  Or rather, I’m going to google YOU.  I never date someone who isn’t google-able.  I respect a person that introduces themselves as the real deal.

A close long time friend and I have to part ways because his wife is uncomfortable with him and I remaining friends because of who I am.  Sigh….bummed.

It’s getting hot in here!  My top 10 9 hottest, most favorite sexual adventures  to date!

Car sex is hot. Just sayin….

I love him.  He’s mine.  I need him.  We’re good together.  He makes me *comfortable*.

Just to reitterate- I live my life with the volume on loud.  I make no bones about who I am and how I like to live my life.  If it’s too hot in the kitchen, get out.

Abercrombie, the new boy toy found in September, fucks up.  Whatever. *cold shoulder*

I make #6 of the Best Sex Bloggers of 2010.  *WOO HOO*

THE EXOTIC BALL!!!! Sis and I go as Angels, PC as Hitgirl.  Super fun times….

November…..

Vegas Baby…uh huh.  BFD and I head to Sin City for five days, Coyote Ugly never knew what hit them *wink*
Sigh.  Swoon. …:::memories:::….

One of PC’s best quotes-
“It’s like being married to a flight attendant. You come home long enough to do your laundry and recharge before heading out again.“ (ha!)

I’ve met someone one…new.  Kind of on the sly I begin mentioning him.  The exotic ball….  Vegas….  *wicked grins*

Celebrate this blog’s 4th Blogaversary!  My my how things have changed since I began blogging 5 1/2 years ago.

I wonder sometimes if my expectations are too high.  Of the type of relationship I’m seeking…  I don’t know.  I just want to know that you’re into me!  You know?!

Mmm…..holiday flavored Martini’s woo me.  Oy.  Too much so.  I decide I have to break up.

(I miss her)

December….

Hottest. video. E.V.E.R……  Damn.  Girl knows how to work it. ...taking notes…

Bloglines announces it’s closing it’s doors.  Bummed.

Bloglines announces they are no longer closing it’s doors but rather have been acquired.  Oh.  But wait, with a few minor changes.  Annoyed.  Bye bye….

Sometimes life gets in the way.  You have to work at the sparkle!  (((PC)))

Vixen’s Bucket List of sexploits-

“I’m a try-sexual. I’ll try anything once.”
~Samantha (Sex and the City)

Luscious Lush.  Yes.  Hello, this is me.

Two words- Turtleneck Season.  Ashton says anyways…  *wicked grins*

Sometimes I wonder if I’m emotionally slutty.  Never mind.  I am.  I share too much and usually too soon.  Like blurting out my feelings to someone in such a way that they feel uncomfortable.  Direct much?  Sigh…hello.  This is me.

Temperatures yo-yo all over the fucking place.  Near 60′s one week.  Twenty below the next.

My list of the past years “Best of the Best HNT’s“.

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We’ve come a long ways baby.  *wink* Cheers….here’s to a new year!

~ xo

Vixen

Some randomness for this Saturday morning…

1. Did you have sex today?
Actually, no.  But I’d like to!

2. Did you have an orgasm in the last 24 hours?
Yep.

3. Can you get off from a sexy text message?
Depends on who it’s from, but yes, I can get myself off from one.

4. I have a friend that can get horny watching the food network, what channel or show gets you off?
Hands down, The L Word.  I mean seriously people…

5. Blow job while in a moving vehicle with the blow-ee driving.
Oh yeah many times.

6. Longest you have gone without sex?
4 weeks?  After my kiddos were born.

7. Longest you have gone without toys of any kind?
Probably before I got my first one in my early twenties.  It’s been a long term love affair ever since.  *wink*

8. Most uncomfortable place you have had sex?
I’ve put a lot of thought into this and finally it occurred to me.  It wasn’t so much the place but the circumstance.  I had an awful sunburn on my back from a day at the beach and he was fucking me, while holding me up against the wall of a bathroom stall.  HOT scenario but can still remember vividly how it hurt like an SOB.

9. Are you loud in the bedroom?
Um….yes.

10. Do you like to be in control or have none?
I derive an incredible amount of pleasure from both.  Depends on my partner and my mood (key component!).

11. How do you feel about choking?
Huge huge huge turn on.  With the right partner….  *wicked grins*

12. Have you ever vajazzled?
Um hell no.  And I have no intentions of doing so.

13. Can you yoodle? (remember she said she was drunk)
I’m guessing Yodle?  And no.  I can’t.  Not really sure I’ve even ever tried though either.

14. What is the sexiest thing you own in your opinion?
Wow…how to choose????  Possibly the slipdress I’ve been featuring in my most recent HNT’s….  BUT I’m going to go with what Roxy calls my stripper boots.  The over the knee black heeled boots I wore in Vegas and in a few of my HNT pics (most recently the ones *with* the slipdress)

15. Favorite kind of alcohol that makes you horny?
There’s a specific kind?!?!  Pffbbttt……  (lush—->me)

16. Have you ever had sex on a full bladder?
Yes. It actually intensifies things in a good way…usually.

17. Biggest turn on in a man and biggest turn on in a woman?
Hmm….. *thinking*
I guess in a man- clean shaven, smooth everywhere (scruff is a different story….a long as it’s maintained).  I’m really not a fan of body hair. It’s a huge turn off.  I’m all about manscaping.
In a woman….it’s the small of her back and collarbone.  Drive me insane.  Wait.  One more thing, outgoing/outspoken/direct/ BOLDNESS= OH HOLY HOTNESS!

18. Do you like oral sex?
Yes.  *LOVE* to give it.  And pretty huge fan of receiving it, with a partner I’m comfortable with.  It feels like a very intimate act and if I don’t know the other person extremely well, I’m highly uncomfortable.

19. Do you think you could watch your partner/signif other be with someone else?
I could…  Under the right circumstances.  As BFD put it though, I don’t really want to sit in a chair and like *watch*.

20. Daisy was drunk, so she shared a picture… and dared us to share one as well… 

21. Have you ever tried ben-wa balls?
No….

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~ xo

Vixen

~ Mae West

Friday Favorites-

France…Sometimes The World Begins…..

Elle…Kink Unleashed…..


Mama Still Wears Gucci…..

Barefoot Dreamer (I didn’t catch her before she went out of town to give me her pic, so you just have to go check her out for yourself!)

Remember thumbnails are only teasers, if you haven’t done so already go over and show them some love. Go on now- SCOOT!

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As you might have noticed, I haven’t been mentioning AFF much (ok, at all).  I actually hadn’t been on AFF for quite some time (and then it was just to delete the email build up) and finally this week I disabled my account.  There’s a reason for this, I have no need or desire to continue looking.  I’m good.

My profile was Female for Female (F4F), despite 4 years of searching, I hadn’t given up my search for that *one special girl*.  Then something happened.  Or rather SHE happened.  And Vegas with HER happened (*swoon*).   Pretty much since August I had kind of known I wasn’t searching anymore…  I wish she lived closer (desperately so) but she doesn’t (damnit)…..we both agree though that somehow we’ll make it work.  I’m just not someone who dates and ‘hooks up’ with random people, I never have been.  I’m not capable of it and I don’t enjoy it.  So while the distance is a bitch, I’m much too smitten with her to desire being with any other female.

On a different note.  I did actually meet a guy on AFF that I’ve been seeing regularly for the past 3 months.  Funny thing about having a F4F profile.  It doesn’t stop all guys from responding.  There are two camps of men who will respond to a F4F profile.  The dumbasses who don’t even read your profile and hit you up (usually crudely and distastefully so) and then the ones that actually have a tendency to catch my attention.  They are the particularly outgoing/adventurous ones who have the -“Hell, I’ll give it a shot” attitude (which I kind of admire, bc I think I possess this trait as well).  They notice it’s a F4F profile, and mention it in their initial email.  Along with some coercement (…I know this isn’t a word, add it to my list of made up words) of why I should consider giving them a chance to at least wine and dine me.

Which is how I met Johnny (not his real name- duh, not sure I’ll stick with it- he just happens to look a bit like Johnny from the original Karate Kid movie, according to PC).  I rarely respond to people on AFF.  It takes a lot to wow me with an email so that I feel even remotely like there could be a click.  And I sat on his for a quite awhile before responding.  When I finally did, we immediately clicked.  A bit like how Ashton and I did.  I knew after my initial correspondence with Ashton that there was a *significant* CLICK.  Similar feeling with Johnny.  This was back in October.  PC has met him and approves of him (he actually went out with PC, my sister and I to the Exotic Ball on Halloween).  He’s closer to my age (definitely for the best….the boys I was meeting -Ashton excluded- were killing me with their immaturity and games), is interested in the same type ‘thing/relationship’ I am (not a FB or complete NSA…which I’m mostly incapable of, much less desire), super funny, super cute and we really enjoy our time together.  Bonus all around.

Ashton and I remain in contact and I value our friendship tremendously.  He’s an amazing guy.  But his life is complicated and busy.

I couldn’t write all this without boasting/mentioning/gushing over the most important person in my life….PC.  The last month or so has been the best ever for us.  Some changes were made between us over the summer, not just between us, but personal ones as well.  We have been communicating better, getting along super well and just been over all incredibly balanced.  Which over all makes me super happy.  In a content …:::sigh happily:::… sort of a way.  There have been other stresses going on in our life, completely out of our control and he manages them amazingly well so that I, for the most part, don’t have to.  At the end of the day, he’s the one I come home to, am happy with and enjoy immensely the life we’ve built together.

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Ok.  Hope everyone has a fantabulous weekend!

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~ xo

Vixen

Sometimes I can feel your eyes on me as I move across the room.
Undressing me with them as you imagine my dress falling away.
As it slips off my shoulders and slides down my back to the floor at my feet.

~CLICK~

Happy HNT!!!

~ xo

Vixen

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Can you have a FWB relationship with an ex?

They previously dated, were in a serious relationship, broke up.  Have remained friends and now, sometime later have become FWB.  She is worried one of them (probably more so her) will develop feelings again and doesn’t want that to happen.  There was a good reason they broke up in the first place.  They did not do well as a ‘couple’ in a relationship but the sex is fabulous.

Is she playing with fire by continuing the ‘benefits’ aspect of their friendship?

BTDT.  For me, personally, it made me realize -again- WHY I didn’t want to be with that person anymore.  BUT.  Fabulous sex is well….fabulous.  Right?  And when it’s with someone you are already comfortable with.  That’s yet another bonus, that in my opinion, makes sex even better.  I do think you run into a small risk of re-developing feelings for that person.  But I think when you have any friend with benefits relationship, that can happen. 

Is it possible to be “friends with benefits” with someone you’ve had a
past relationship with and once had very strong feelings for? Can you
separate the emotions, or is this playing with fire?

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HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

I lean you over the counter.  My mouth on the back of your neck.  Biting.  Gently….  Well.  Not really.

My hand finding it’s way between your legs.  Fingers delving into the sweet warmth. I can hear the soft moans escaping, as you move your legs further apart…inviting my fingers further access.  Further inside.

I turn you around so that you are sitting on the counter.  Scooting your ass to the edge of it.  Your legs apart.  Feet resting on the countertop.  You are exactly how I have envisioned you, wanted you.  My mouth on your neck.  Your collarbone.  Breasts.  Taking your breast into my mouth.  Tasting your sweetness.  Hearing your breathing quicken.  Louder.

I move my mouth down your thighs.  My tongue lapping, tasting, suckling…enjoying you.  But I want to kiss you.  I want you to taste yourself on my lips.  Kissing you hard.  One hand on the back of your neck, the other on your hips.  Grasping your ass.  Pulling you towards me.  Into me.

Fuck me.  Please  …you whisper…
 
I want to ravage you.  Leave you wanting, breathing heavily…..  Begging me to stop, but yet continue.  I want to wear you out.

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~ xo

Vixen

I heard a term a bit ago that intrigued me.  Piqued my interest so much so that I went in search of more information.  And the more I learned about it, the more I so completely resonated with.  It was an *AHA!* moment…

Sexual Fluidity.  An idea that eliminates labels.  And suggests that people aren’t attracted to another person because of their gender but because of who they are.  And that one’s ‘sexual orientation’ isn’t always about sex, but about an emotional attachment as well.  No longer does a person’s sexuality have to be tied up all pretty in a perfect little box. 

Once upon a time, there was a certain clarity in the world of
sexuality. Regardless of whether one believed a homosexual orientation
was innate or a matter of choice, the sexual orientations were easily
and clearly defined: Those who were attracted to, and had sex with,
people of the opposite gender were heterosexual (straight), while
homosexuals (gays and lesbians) were attracted to, and had sex with,
people of the same gender. You knew who was who by the gender of the
sexual partner.

As time went on, the waters became muddied a bit by acknowledgment
of bisexuals and their ability to be attracted to, and have sex with,
people of either gender. Initially, they were seen as immature or
confused, either closeted gay people or curious straight people. But
eventually we got our heads around bisexuality and, for the most part,
accepted that it was a real sexual orientation, just like gay/lesbian
and straight.

Some completely straight individuals have unexpectedly found themselves
falling in love with, and being sexual with, those of the same gender,
and some happily gay people have unexpectedly become partnered with
those of the other gender.
~goodtherapy.org

Ah….that last paragraph.  That’s what made the most sense to me.  For most of my life I have only been attracted to females, but occasionally I would find myself drawn to a male.  PC tells people I’m his ‘lesbian wife’.  It takes so much more for me to be sexually attracted to men.  It’s few and far between that I will meet a man that I would even fathom being intimate with.  When things went south with my exH, I had no desire to be with another man.  Ever.  I was done.  And after all, my attraction was to females.  And then I met PC.  Which honestly, when we first met, neither of us had any intentions of becoming more than friends.  I was completely upfront with him that I was only interested in females and had no desire to be with a man ever again.  But well…it’s pretty clear that changed.  *wink*  PC used to love to gloat that he was the one who ‘changed’ me.

And then things changed slightly more this past year. In that I found I could actually be attracted to men.  If I felt that CLICK with *the right man* (where Ashton comes into play… *wicked grins*) . If I opened my mind to the idea.  And maybe initially I was battling with the fact that I didn’t want to be involved or attracted to another man.  But my search (with PC’s help also) for a female friend/playmate for the previous 3 years had resulted in nothing but absolute frustration.  So yeah….I guess I decided to broaden my interests, open myself up to more opportunities.  And hey, that’s worked out quite nicely.

Committing to a sexuality today is like committing to a favorite color for the rest of your life:
What if you love red now but find you prefer green later in life? There are many discoveries one makes about one’s self after having varied life experiences.
~afterellen.com

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Hope everyone had a fabulous weekend!  PC has recently decided to make some changes regarding his Jujitsu training and in doing so the kiddos and I have become more involved (as a family).  Very low key weekend but really, really great.  *beaming*

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~ xo

Vixen

“This set is a best choice for the romantic love night with a little bit of kink. Red babydoll with lace ruffle detailing has front ribbon ties for easy access. Fingerless gloves feature lace ruffles and ribbons to tie hands together for some naughty play. Cute G-string decorated with ruffles as well.”

The set includes:

• Babydoll
• G-string
• Fingerless lace gloves with ribbon restraints

This sheer and ruffle set is mesh and one size fits most but the babydoll is completely adjustable.  I love love loved the bow.  (I have a thing for them….*grins*…)  The G-string…was not my favorite. I suppose it fit ok, but it’s crotchless.  I am in the camp of people who are soooooo not a fan of crotchless panties.  I mean, as if a G-string isn’t teensy enough (and I am a fan of those!), you have to remove part of it?  Yeah….no thanks.  You either love them or you don’t (I don’t).  The fingerless gloves with attached ribbons are a nice touch.  They call them ‘restraints’…although I’m not sure about that.  I guess it’s maybe more about the idea behind them.  Of the entire set, I was most in love with the babydoll and it’s very affordably priced!

More lingerie can be found at Eden Fantasys….

~ xo

Vixen

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