Ga-ga for Drama ~CQW
posted by: Vixen
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So a friend of mine is having ‘drama’ in her life. Her boyfriend works with a girl that is ga-ga for him. The girl has admitted to him she wants him and flirts like crazy with him. It really bothers my friend and her boyfriend knows this.
Well, at a drunken work type function her boyfriend and the girl he works with ended up making out. He told her about it that night when he came home feeling incredibly guilty. He feels awful and promises that’s all that happened, nothing more. She’s pissed at her boyfriend, they are dealing with that. But she wants to write the girl, bitching her out and tell her to basically ‘back the fuck off her man and get her own’ (her words).
I gave her my opinion (I’ll tell you in a second what it is) but she wanted me to ask for other people’s opinions too.
MY opinion? NO-NO-NO-NO She should not contact the girl. That girl did not force her boyfriend to do anything he didn’t want to with that girl. Whether drunk or not, he chose to hook up with her. So the chicks a bitch for hooking up with a guy who has a girlfriend. But the real person at fault is THE BOYFRIEND. The issue needs to be with HIM, needs to be taken up with him. Period. Involving that other girl is only going to cause more drama. (And you all know how I feel about drama)
I had a really good guy friend from High School that I had to end our friendship a few years back because despite us being only friends….his wife kept contacting me. Voicing her ‘displeasure’ at our friendship, sure there must be something more (!!!). Jealousy is not a characteristic I am a fan of. I don’t get the mentality that having an issue with your significant other means you should take it up with an outside party. How about you focus on the person you are trying to have a relationship with. Duh!
But as I told her, I would bring it up with others. To get a more rounded opinion than just mine. So?
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March 22nd, 2011 at 11:53 pm
I agree. Contacting the other girl would be completely stupid and immature. I’ve never understood why women do this. She never held a gun to his head, she doesn’t know this girl, and its HIM that owes her loyalty.
BiggunMarch 23rd, 2011 at 12:49 am
Well people have free will. I also am no fan of jealousy. He did what he did out of free will, the girl isn’t at fault. It isn’t the girls domain to keep the guy faithful.
Your friend should know write the girl, she should decide if she is going to keep the dood and then do what it takes to make her decision work out for the best.
PCMarch 23rd, 2011 at 5:47 am
I think she has bigger concerns than the other girl.
I don’t care that he flirts. But he flirted and then tasted some of the goods. That can be a lot to overcome on her part.
Chapter Two- BFDMarch 23rd, 2011 at 5:54 am
No, she shouldn’t go out of her way to contact the girl. If they are in the same place together (all three of them or just both girls) saying a off handed comment (as in “I know what you (two) did bitch- and that WONT be happening again- right?”) but going out of her way now makes her ‘that girl’ or ‘that psycho girlfriend’
Really she has bigger worries (like PC stated) the fact that drunk or not he made out with her would cause me greater concern.
Westcoast WeirdoMarch 23rd, 2011 at 6:45 am
Yeah, she needs to be the bigger person & ignore the girl. I’m sure that what’s the girl wants – to create drama & make them break up so she can have him. What really pisses people off is indifference, being ignored. Like they don’t exist & are so insignificant that they don’t matter.
Freeze the fire with ice.
KennyMarch 23rd, 2011 at 7:06 am
Contacting the other girl would be as silly as waking up every morning to pee on her boyfriend and therefore mark her territory!
Here is the other thing contacting the other girl will only make the GF look like a psycho bitch. The other girl will become only become more emboldened by this and find some way to use this a wedge to get further in between the relationship.
Focus on the BF it will be far more effective when he spurns the other chicks advances after making out with her.
nitebyrdMarch 23rd, 2011 at 1:14 pm
Some people thrive on drama. If she contacts the girl, she will only be fueling her life of drama.
She definitely has an issue with the BF. HE needs straighten up and fly right.
viemoiraMarch 23rd, 2011 at 1:41 pm
I totally agree with you- the issue should be with her boyfriend.
It may actually cause crushing co-worker to go after her man more to get back at her if she approaches her in any way.
Sex FairyMarch 23rd, 2011 at 3:33 pm
I agree. The girl is not in a relationship with your friend. Her BOYFRIEND IS. It’s his problem, not the co-worker. She needs to take it up with him. And truth is, she may NEVER be enough for him. They need to figure that out, too.
Holy City SinnerMarch 23rd, 2011 at 4:00 pm
I agree with everyone else – do NOT contact the girl. Nothing good will come from that.
autumnMarch 23rd, 2011 at 6:08 pm
well said, vixen. the issue IS with the boyfriend…period. definitely don’t contact the girl. yeah, it sucks she did that knowing he had a girlfriend, but still it’s on him. and really? why bring that sort of constant drama on yourself? also vixen, sorry about your experience with the wife of a high school friend. such a shame.
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Alenkaloves autumn
March 23rd, 2011 at 6:13 pm
I think sex in the car can give to us ahother feelings. I like it…
KellyMarch 27th, 2011 at 9:01 pm
I agree that you shouldn’t contact her. But at the same time, she has boundary issues and is disrespectful. I’ve been in a somewhat similar situation and it was with a nurse…..I won’t go there. But what I have learned is that it is the boyfriend who needs to step up to the plate and be sensitive to what he’s done. I feel that he didn’t do a good job of establishing the fact that he is in a committed relationship. The fact that he told her shows that he is a good guy.