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A bit ago I mentioned the Lingerie Football League.  What started out as a pay-per-view half time show, has quickly formed into an entire league of ten teams that actually play full games.  Uniforms consist of helmets, shoulder pads, elbow pads, knee pads, garters, bras and panties.

The founder of the LFL looks for three things when scouting women to join their teams-
*she must be beautiful (he explains that the girls must be marketable)
*in shape/athletic
*confident -to play in your underwear in front of millions, there’s got to be certain level of confidence, no?

I guess there has been quite a bit of criticism regarding the LFL and how it objectifies women, saying it’s

“disappointing that players have to put on revealing outfits in order to get recognized in the world of women’s football”

One player, a defensive end on team Bliss, was quoted disagreeing….

“I think it’s very empowering for women to be sexy AND tough!”
~Summer LaViolette

IDK.  I guess I can see why it might bother some people…  Kind of.  (But I’m guessing these are the same people protesting Cheerleaders too????)  If you’ve seen a LFL game, we’re not talking about ‘flag football’ here.  It’s full contact, tackle football…not glorified mud wrestling. 

But so that brings me to another interesting thought.  One of my readers emailed me a bit ago and presented me with this question:

Lingerie Football aside.  But ANY sport females participate in?  I believe there are plenty of woman’s sports that don’t objectify women.   But that’s not the question……  SO?

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I’d have some cool kick ass job that I’ve always thought about and wanted to do…. Like finally learn how to Bartend and get a job in some awesome bar/club/place. The flirting. Night life. Fun clothes. People watching. Totally my kind of scene….that I’ve just never been able to bring myself to do. Being the introvert that I sometimes (most of the time) tend to be.

OOO!!!  Or a Coyote.  You know, if they hired old people.  ~wink~

You?

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News on the street is the case might be wrapped up by lunch tomorrow.  Which means us jury members should go into deliberation afterwards.  Keep your fingers crossed it’s an easy decision to come to.  This week has been painfully long and completely emotionally/physically exhausting.  Gah….

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The theory:  If you don’t have relations the night of your wedding, you will end up divorced!  …..Are YOU doomed for a divorce?

I honestly don’t think one thing has to do with another.  I’ve been married twice and yes, one ended in a divorce but I think the fact he was an abusive, cheating, psycho asshat had more to do with our demise than whether we had sex on our wedding night.  Just sayin….lol.  And no, there were no ‘relations’ the night of my wedding with PC either.  I guess I’m just too much of an alcoholic (ahem). PC knew coming into it though….  I think I pass out on him every ‘big’ event we ever attend. 

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Halloween?  Hot, slutty costumes?!  Drinking?!?!  Dirty dancing?!?!?!  Libido is through the roof.  Hit the room and well, I hit the bed.  Doh. 
Fail. (every. single. year)

New Years Eve?!  Drinking!  Provacative dress!  Fabulous shoes to dance in!  Fucking colder than hell…..make it to the hotel, pass out while trying to regain feeling in my chilled to the bone body.
Fail. (every. single. year)

My birthday this past year- BEST night out EVER.  Best friends.  Many (many) shots.  Dancing on the bar at Coyote Ugly.  Heavily flirting with my favorite Coyote (ah…Jackie…*swoon*….).  Roxy and I were making out, flashing everyone in the bar.  That was even the night I called Abercrombie dude “A Tall Glass of Yummy” (haha…*blush*…No shame….lol).  Later back at the hotel?  Yeah….not even Roxy got lucky (with me I mean, who knows what her and her hottie hubbie did).  *snort*
Fail.

I have a poor track record of putting out on fun, celebratory occasions.  BUT I do make up for it in other areas/other times.  Like fucking him every chance we had the entire time we were on our honey moon at Hedonism (in the pool…in the room…in the hot tub….in the…oh you get the idea…~grins~).  That should make up for not having sex on our wedding night….no?!

Ok so, almost more like a poll than a controversial question this week.  I’m interested in hearing from those who are married, those who are divorced and those who don’t fall in any category but have something to say about this!

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So Tiger’s Mistress landed herself a job as a correspondent for Extra. The network is catching a lot of heat for hiring her.  Saying it’s in poor taste and what does it show…“you can do bad things and get rewarded”.

I’m annoyed by this.  Not that I condone what Tiger did.  But why is his mistress being singled out as the ‘bad guy’?!  SHE wasn’t the one married.  And what…she shouldn’t be allowed to be employed bc she had an affair with a married man????

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I guess it goes back to whether ‘the other woman/man’ should be blamed in an affair with a married person.  IMO, no.  If there is blame to be placed it should be on the married person cheating.  But I came across this article and found it interesting but at the same time rather outrageous.

In the business world, one can be held liable for tortiously interfering with a business relationship.  For instance, if a person convinces another to break his/her business promises or contracts, or prevents a business person from living up to the same, the meddler can be held liable to the injured party who did not receive the benefits of the business relationship.  Should there be a similar legal concept for marital relationships?  Isn’t that what these cheating partners do?…. convince a husband to break his marriage promises, interfere with the husband’s marital relationship, preventing the wife from receiving all the benefits of the marriage relationship to which she is otherwise entitled?

I think the part that causes me to bristle the most is this statement-

Isn’t that what these cheating partners do?…. convince a husband to break his marriage promises, interfere with the husband’s marital relationship, preventing the wife from receiving all the benefits of the marriage relationship to which she is otherwise entitled?

Key words….‘convince’ and ‘prevent’???  I would imagine there are some scenarios where an individual actively seeks out someone, to be with them, fully knowing they are married.  But frequently the ‘other’ party doesn’t even know they are having an affair with a married person until they’ve been in the relationship for awhile.  I still feel as if the responsibility falls on the married person.  The whole notion of  ‘convincing a husband to break his marriage promises’ is a cop out!  My favorite comment I came across in regards to this article was when someone pointed out that the law has no business interfering with people’s love lives and if you want that kind of drama, watch divorce court.  Ha!

I feel the same way about the the network being criticized for hiring Rachel Uchitel.  Since when does having affair mean you don’t have the right to earn an income?!

What are your thoughts?  I’m interested in hearing whatever you have to say regarding this matter…..

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Vixen

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Every year I bring this up and every year I get completely shot down regarding the topic of Valentine’s Day and who likes it/celebrates it.  I think the consensus last year was that most everyone thinks it’s a silly holiday that should just be gotten over.  I always wholeheartedly disagree.

Is it more to do with you don’t have someone who properly celebrates it with you, or you just flat out think it’s dumb?  Mmm…..not sure.  I know it’s been brought up before how heavily commercialized it is.

PC takes very good care of me, it’s no secret he spoils me.  We go on dates fairly frequently, as well as enjoy dinners/activities out with the kiddos (for Mothers Day last year the four of us went to The Melting Pot).  He surprises me with Starbucks and gifts on a regular basis.  The romance is alive and well, we make sure it stays that way.  BUT that said, who doesn’t love their honey doing a little something special for them on the day that (IMO) signifies love?!

I have, although, never been a huge fan of the practice to dump tons of money into elaborate, expensive gifts.  I don’t think V-day *has* to be completely commercialized. I don’t expect lavish gifts….  A homemade card from my kiddos and some flowers with dinner from PC would make my day perfect.  And in return I usually plan to rock his world a bit more than usual. ~wicked grins~

So that all said….
I’ve heard several married men this week mention that they were boycotting the holiday.  But the most interesting, was another girl who has the PERFECT boyfriend, but he refuses to acknowledge the day and she’s quite upset over it.  Almost deal breaker upset.

So the question this week:
If you aren’t into the day, but your SO is, do you go ahead and celebrate it anyways, try to make it special for them?  Or try to make them understand this is just the way you are?

(IMO, you suck it up and do what is going to make the person you love happy, damnit)

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Vixen

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I don’t get many girly magazines (I’m talking PG here people, lol) bc so many of them are either completely FULL of ads *ahemCosmoahem* and no substance or they are geared towards a 50’s housewife different type of mom than I am, KWIM?  *LOL*  But one of the ones I do still enjoy is Glamour.   One of my favorite sections is the “Do’s & Don’ts”.  I was surprised to read this…

69% say it’s a DON’T

“Bad idea, and not just because then you smell like a strip club” says one reader (24)

Seriously????  In this day and age women still feel that way about strip clubs and their men going to them AND about them going with them?!?!  I was taken aback.  I know a TON of women who enjoy going to strip clubs with their husbands. I know a ton of women who go to strip clubs with other women.  Hell, my sister, Roxy and I had plans to hit a strip club while we were in Vegas (before we had to bag that plan bc we were too hung over….lol) and my sister isn’t the most sexually overt person.  I know I am extremely open minded.  I’m also not judgemental in the slightest (or at least try really hard NOT to be).  I tend to keep friends who are similarly open minded.  And I read blogs of open minded people. 

So I wonder if I’m being unrealistic and overly open minded on this topic????

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Ok.  So your friend asks you to join her on a GIRLS wkend.  She makes fabulous plans for five of you- daytime activities, dinner reservations, a bit of clubbing.  Several of the friends say “Yay! A girls only weekend, my husband can’t wait to come!”.  Um…what?  They stated that ‘they just don’t spend time apart’ and showed up with their husbands in tow.  As the friend who planned the ‘girls only’ weekend, are you understanding or upset?

To clarify (doh), this has nothing to do with me.  It’s something that came up on a reality TV show I’m almost too embarrassed to tell you I watch (Real Housewives of Orange County).  I personally would be pissed.  Really?  REALLY you must be attached to your spouse’s side 24/7, you can’t get away to have some fun with your girls with out your husband holding your hand???  That screams insecurity and control issues to me.  I feel the same way about the parent that can’t leave their child. It’s healthy to have a life outside of BEING A WIFE, BEING A MOM.  If you are invited on a girls only getaway and can’t leave your spouse behind- stay home!  Don’t bring him along and spoil everyone else’s fun, most especially the host!  If you were invited on adult only vacation would you bring your kids along then too? Nevermind….probably these inconsiderate women would….  *shaking head*

PC doesn’t ‘restrict’ me in any way.  I don’t ever feel as if I need to ‘get away from him’.  I drag him on all my nights out.  I mean, the man has POCKETS!  A huge thing that came up while preparing for our Vegas trip is where do we put all our crap w/o PC along to hold it all for us?!  *LOL*  Seriously though, kidding aside, my 2 bestest friends and I are going on this girls only trip.  This will be the first ever for all 3 of us and we are *giddy* with excitement bc it’s a new and fun experience.  And while I will wholeheartedly miss PC, I don’t feel as if our marriage and relationship will be ‘damaged’ bc I went away with my girls.  Which is how the women on the show made it seem might happen, or that w/o their husbands standing ‘guard’ over them infidelity might ‘happen to them’ (like it’s something you catch and have no control over).  Good lord.  Give me a break.

*rolling my eyes*

So understanding or upset?

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A couple (Jen and Steve) are close friends with another couple, both mutually and separately.  Jen confided in her husband, Steve, that the female half their friends is planning on leaving her husband the end of this month.  Just the other day Steve was talking with the male half of the couple and he was sharing these magnificent birthday plans he has for his wife (just so you are following….the same one who is secretly planning on leaving).  We’re talking a dinner date at a swanky restaurant, topped off with an expensive new piece of jewelry he plans on surprising her with at the end of the night.  The male half of the couple has shared that while the couple has had some issues over the last few months, he feels they are doing better and this big night out is just the thing to get the couple back on track.

Steve is feeling very torn.  His wife shared with him the information in confidence.  But he is really feeling as if she should warn his friend that he’s about to be dumped.  ESPECIALLY before he doles out a bunch of money.  If Steve tells his friend, Jen will be very upset with him.  The ramifications go further in that the female side of the couple (the heartbreaker, we’ll call her, lol) will most likely find out/know that Jen told Steve and Steve told the male about to be dumped.  Not to mention how pissed Steve’s friend will be when/if he found out Steve knew all along and didn’t tell him.

What does he do???

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This was brought up right before Christmas but I didn’t have the time to post it in time for the holidays.  It’s still an interesting topic though and am interested on your views.

Jen and Nate have been married for three years.  Every year for the holidays they go out of state to visit Jen’s family.  She has a big family with many traditions and they are quite strict about adhering to them.  One of them is that even though Jen and Nate are married, they sleep in separate beds/bedrooms the entire time they are visiting her parents.

Bc of the amount of people staying in the house and all the different holiday activities, Jen and Nate get to spend very little time together during these visits.  Nate wanted to get a hotel this year so that they could have some one on one time and while it might be very busy during they day, he would at least get to spend some time with his wife at night.  This is his only vacation that he will get to take this year and he would like to enjoy it.  Jen says he’s being selfish and only wants sex and that is why he is pushing for the hotel.  Not only is she annoyed at his ’selfishness’ (her words), she is really worried this will break her parents heart.  That they are elderly and really look forward to having the entire family together, in their family home, for the holidays.

What’s the solution?  Should Nate suck it up and spend the holidays sleeping alone to appease his wife and IL’s?

My opinion- I feel as if they should talk with Jen’s parents.  Let them know that this is Nate’s only vacation (I do feel that this is an important point) and they would like to both enjoy it but having to sleep separately bothers them.  I think I would present it as a choice to the parents- ask if they can share a bedroom and if that isn’t feasible then they will want to stay in a hotel room.  It may sound like an ultimatium but I don’t blame Nate one bit.  He goes to stay with Jen’s family every year for holidays, this is something he does for her, bc he knows how much she enjoys being with her family. Admittantly, he loves many of their traditional ways too.  I think it’s perfectly fine for them to request this of Jen’s parents and if they aren’t willing to bend on their rule, then yes, book a hotel room.  I can’t imagine going on vacation with my husband and not getting to snuggle/sleep with him every night.

Thoughts?

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The buzz in celebrity news right now is of course Tiger Woods and his numerous affairs.  Have you seen his wife?  Um…she’s fucking hot.  Makes you wonder WHY?!

What’s ironic is just a week or so ago my nail lady and I were discussing this similar topic.  She had read this article:

The NY Daily News reports on a new study in the Journal of Family Psychology that shows that couples are happier and more satisfied in their marriages when the man is less attractive than the woman. This could be partially due to the fact that men, the ones who are traditionally more likely to cheat, are less interested in other women when their wives are hot.

But she took it a step further by adding a theory she has, of not so much that one spouse is more attractive than the other, but she believes this-

She thinks “less attractive” men work harder to make you happy and adore you a lot more than “more attractive” men do. The article she read discussed the idea of an ugly guy = happy marriage saying that “When a woman looks better in a relationship she feels like she has nothing to worry about,” and “the men try harder so it makes for a better marriage.”

You have to wonder, with all the cheating going on in celebrity-ville, why do powerful men cheat?  Because they can?  Bc they’re so used to having it all and pushing to see if there’s anything they can’t have?

Let’s face it – the attention of a plethera of women/men (ok, lets be fair, women cheat too) throwing themselves at you is a powerful aphrodisiac!! And the more women/men wanting you, throwing themselves at you, could increase the likelihood of cheating.

No?  It seems a likely cause in why so many of them fail at fidelity.  And could this be the same reason handsome/beautiful women/men cheat?  Would you feel more secure in a relationship with a ‘less attractive’ spouse?

My opinion….  Does having others throw themselves at your feet increase the likelihood of cheating? Possibly.  BUT, I still stick with the simple fact that if someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat.  Period.  If a person is capable of- is GOING to cheat, then they are going to cheat.  You go into a relationship trying to make it work, doing what you need to, loving them, adoring them, giving it your all.  When you don’t, they don’t…. things begin to fall apart.  Nor can you *control* another person’s actions.

How do you feel about this?

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