Several emails….  They decided to meet him for drinks.  Which led to dinner because things seemed to be flowing so well. Although…she’d probably drank too much.

On the drive home, all three in the car, they excitedly discussed expectations…’rules’, desires.

Isn’t this how they had intimately discussed such a circumstance so many times before?!?!

Her husband would sit in the same room.  While her lover had his way with her…his wife…in their bed.

He’d take her…his wife…in their bed.
And watch.

But yet…nothing would go as planned. ….the best laid plans often go awry.
I was uncomfortable….
I think he might have been more into PC then myself.
I changed my mind suddenly. Changing the rules with out warning. I broke the rules. At the last moment everything we had agreed upon I threw out the window.
Because why? ….I don’t know the answer to that. *sigh*
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Vixen

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Yeah.  My night was a little bit like this.  Ok.  Actually, it was exactly like this.

But not before this…..

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Sorry for the delay in posting.  As you can see, I was a bit um, busy.

*wicked grins*

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~ xo

Vixen

Anyone watch Survivor? We’ve been catching up on Tivo’d shows and one of the girls made this comment. Haha…too funny.

Friday Favorites-
Because I didn’t do a Friday Favorite post last week, I’m including some that I loved from then.  Remember, thumbnails are just sneak previews.  If you haven’t already, go show them some love!

Cheeky Minx…Love Hate Sex Cake…..

Elle…Kink Unleashed…..


Sexy Sadie…..

Barefoot Dreamer…..

Jas…Evocative Abyss…..

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I went on a date with Johnny (the guy I’ve been writing about on the sly- if you’ve been paying attention you remember him….he can also be found over on TFT *grins*) Thursday night…brain is in other places and I really actually don’t have much to say (shocking…I know).  I guess I said it all on Monday (ha).  I see this around occasionally and I liked the questions this time around.

Naughty or nice…..

1. Had sex in a car older than a 1985 model?
Why yes….  Several in fact.  My first car was a 1971 VW Bug.  I *loved* that car. And yes!  Amazingly so, you can have sex in a car that small! (my most embarrassing moment E-V-E-R took place in this car….I’ve spoken of it a couple times, maybe I’ll have to share again- another time)  I also inherited my grandmothers Maverick, which was a 1970, in high school.  And that was well used as too….  A lot of my teenage sexual experiences took place in cars.  *ahem*

2. Played strip poker and lost?
Yes…  I’m probably a very fun person to play strip poker with because I always lose. (doh)

3. Name three celebrities you would like to bang the sh!tz out of.
Oh shit.  Only three???? Well….  Megan Fox, Channing Tatum and Kiera Knightley
*swoon*

4. Ever gone commando?
Um….have you met me?  LOLOLOL Panties are for special occasions.  Nuff said.

5.Open relationship?
Have you read my blog?  Are you new?  Well…that answers this question then…..  *wink*

6. You have been naughty what is your punishment?
Me naughty????  Pffbbttt….  *wicked grins*  Ok.  We all know that if I were to do something ‘wrong’, that PC would be punished for it with a riding crop.  That’s how it works in this household.

7. Ticklish?
I suppose my sides.  I really, really hate to be tickled though. 

8. Spit or swallow?
Neither
*ducking*  I told you….sigh  I really, really wish I could.  Oh well.

9. Is rear entry an option?
Depends on what you are going to enter with…  (ha!)  So my answer is possibly yes.

10. What would you do for a Klondike bar?
Eww.  Ice cream and chocolate= puke.  You’ve just combined two of my least favorite things, nah, no thanks.

11. Truth or Dare? (Truth have you ever been with more than 1 person in one day? or show a tasteful picture of cleavage/boobs or guys a boxer shot)
I never, ever take truth.  I actually really dislike this game. I’ve been traumatized by it.  Anyway…  So Truth- yes. I have.  Fun times my friends.  *grinning*

12. BDSM?
Yeah…no thanks.  Not my thing.

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14.You order a pizza…would you ever flash the delivery guy at the door?
Ha…I have!

15. Are you horny?
Usually.  But I’ll tell you, it must be my old age *snort*….being tired has been recently trumping being horny.  WTF?!

16. Leather or lace?
Lace.  Although both together can be pretty fucking sexy too. 

17. Silk ties or hand cuffs?
I guess silk ties.  I can be super adventuresome but I just don’t love to be tied.

18. Thongs? Boy shorts? Grannie panties? lace?
Ultra low cut lace thongs are my all time favorite.  I have some lace tangas that I like to wear with dresses. I like those too…but never with jeans. 

19. Eyes open or closed?
What are we doing?  If we are kissing- CLOSE YOUR EYES!  That’s just going to creep me out!  Anything else we are doing?  Mmmm….eyes open is hot hot hot.

20. Romance or kink?
Romance beats out kink but I do enjoy the kink!

And lastly…

21. Would you rather take a bath in chocolate pudding or drive around the town naked in your car?
I’ve driven around town naked- BTDT.  I think taking a bath in chocolate pudding sounds fun!  Can I bring a friend??  (BFD…wanna come over?!  *WINK*)

Have a fantabulous weekend!!!
(oh, almost forgot- review going up this weekend too, check back!)

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~ xo

Vixen

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I’m sure when adults enter into relationships/sexual encounters outside their marriages, everyone has different expectations.  Of what they are looking for, what they desire, what they need, of what they want.  I read a very wide spectrum of blogs.  It’s very easy to see that what one person wants and is hoping to achieve is not the same as the next blog in my feeder I click to.  And it’s pretty fair to say that what the next five bloggers are desiring is probably different from one another….and in turn from me.

I think I am very honest and up front with people I potentially may date- about what I am looking for, who I am and what I have to offer (and not offer…).  Because it’s not unclear in my mind, I feel I am able to present this quite clearly.  I’m not wishy washy about my needs, wants or desires.

But yet….here I am.  Wondering how it can be so difficult to find someone who fits the bill!  I don’t want a fuckbuddy.  I don’t enjoy NSA sex, in fact, I’m fairly incapable of it.  I’m the first to admit it.  I have a family that is fairly time consuming, I live on a farm with a bazillion animals that are definitely very time consuming, I also have a sissy cuck husband that I am in love with and am in no fashion looking to replace (which it’s amazing the amount of people I meet who can’t wrap their mind around that….).  I have a certain amount of time I can make myself available for someone else.  And it does require some planning and forethought.  I guess I want a glorified FWB….I enjoy the friendship aspect.  I also enjoy the ‘benefits’ aspect.  I am an emotional, affectionate creature. Hell.  Ok.  I’m looking for a boyfriend.  PC is the first one that suggested that’s what he thought I was looking for, and well, right, it’s true.

Spring Flower wrote a post a bit ago….about refusing to feel like an after thought.  That it doesn’t require 50 emails/phone calls/texts every day but KEEP IN TOUCH.  She called it a ‘constant flow of little things’.  And I’m so totally with her on this! It’s a small amount of upkeep that goes a super long ways.  I’m not entirely emotionally needy (hey I said *entirely*…snort) but I need a ‘something’ here and there.  I need to feel you’re into me.  And if you are, it shouldn’t be that difficult to show.  Right?  Hmm….

Anyway.  Just thinking aloud because I’ve been frustrated a bit about this recently.  I actually did have a fabulous weekend.  I heard from who I really wanted to… *huge grins* Brownie points! *wink*  And PC and I had several incredible dates. 

So.  Yeah. 
Enjoy your Monday!

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~ xo

Vixen

The thing I haven’t mentioned as of yet…is that I met someone.  In Vegas.

Beneath the stars.  The midnight sky, illuminated by the Sin City lights.  The air warm and pleasant.  At a club called The Ghost Bar.  After being wined and dined earlier in the evening.  We flirted shamelessly….standing on the floor made of glass, the 55th floor, dressed to the nines…me in the perfect little black dress.  Paired with impossibly high sling-back heels. 

His hand lingering on my lower back, through out the night…of the dress that was cut seductively low.

He said I was crazy and spontaneous…  I supposed in Vegas you can be anyone you’d like to be, because neither of which am I.

He referred to something that had happened earlier, that I had talked him into… asking if I always got my way.  To which I replied… “yes.  I usually do.”  He called me a temptress. Yes…I’m quite good at it.  Being persuasive.

He told me I was killing him slowly…in that dress, with those heels.  I couldn’t help but grin (blushing), turning my eyes down.  He lifted my chin up, so that I was looking into his eyes….bringing his lips close to mine, until he kissed me.

Later…in the darkened room, illuminated by those big city lights….despite it being nearly 4:00 a.m.  In the city that never sleeps.  With his lips buried in my neck, he whispered- “you’re bad…“

I turned my neck to the side, allowing him to nibble along my collar bone whispering back-
“…I am bad. I think that you probably like that about me.”

I unbutton his shirt, slowly forcing him backwards, towards the bed…pushing him down on it as I slid my body on top of his.  Heels and panties having already been tossed aside.  Just before my mouth covered his, huskily he says….
“Well, the best times are always with the bad ones…the bad ones with little black dresses.”

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~ xo

Vixen

We lay intertwined…naked.  In the dark.  My head on his chest.  His hand on my back, tracing my backbone.  As we talk.  About life, happenings….day to day stuff.  Our pasts.  Hopes and dreams. Very random. 

Almost inaudibly it escapes my lips- I’m into you.


Him- It’s apparent.


Me- ….Oh?  Apparent how? (feeling my cheeks burning…blushing)


Him- When we are together, the way you breathe when I hug you or roll over to find you in the morning


Me- Oh.  Right.  …I’m that transparent.  I guess I don’t really try to hide it.


Him- And you shouldn’t.  I also like to notice these things.


Me- Well…sometimes you make me melt.


Him- Melt is good.


Me- Yes.


Him- I’m glad i can do that for you…I do enjoy our time together

It was…nice.  Comfortable.  And.

Defining.

Our conversation came to a pause.  He put his hand on my chin, tilting my face up to his.  It was too dark to see his expression, his eyes.  He kisses me.  Gently at first.  Then increasingly more intense.  More demanding.

He turns so that he’s pressing into me.  I can feel him.

With out removing his lips from mine he rolls on top of me.  His weight an instant arousal.  He pulls away, his hand moving to the small of my back.  My hips ache to meet his.  Then.  That moment.  Of instant fullness, as he moves slowly…deeper…  Overwhelmed with extreme pleasure and desire for more.  A small gasp escapes from my lips….as I melt.

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Have a fabulous Tuesday!

~ xo

Vixen

We all do what we do to get by, to make ourselves happy. And the ways in which we go about doing it may not be the same for each person.
*shrug*

It’s also amazing what we learn about ourselves as we go through life.

Good stuff.

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Lets see….  Ironically, I went from having a handful of boys I was dating- seeing how things might pan out (ie…could call on them at any moment to go out) to nothing.  Nada.  No one.  Interesting turn of events.  Besides one individual in particular *ahemAshtonahem* (who if he would just stop being so busy, I wouldn’t even care about wasting my time with these other boys….humpf), it’s really all by choice.  Abercrombie shot himself in the foot, which really was probably for the best. I was trying to make the best of something that wasn’t entirely what I was wanting it to be.  New guy, Biff (I know I haven’t spoken of him here yet….I wasn’t sure if it would turn into something worth even talking about) pursued me so hard I was wary I had found myself a new stalker.  (I like to be chased…not stalked)  He went from Mr. In My Face 24/7 to …:::crickets:::…  Hmm….weird.  After blowing me off after we’d made plans to go on a date Saturday night I decided it was probably for the best.  I kind of almost think I was trying to talk myself into liking him.  He was the first guy I’ve dated that was near my own age (I mean, besides PC, lol).  And interestingly enough, what I found was that I was completely uncomfortable and not my usual flirty, fun, carefree self around him.  Doh…go figure.  For whatever reason, I’m a lot more comfortable being me around boys the much younger men I’ve encountered.

Anyway.  Despite being blown off, PC stepped in to wine and dine me.  Key words being Brazilian cuisine and Capriaskas….MMMmmmmm….  Gotta hand it to the love of my life, for being a sissy, he really knows how to show a gal a good time.  *grins*  Also got to wear the hot outfit I had planned for Mr. Stand Up Guy.  *tossing that guy to the side*  PC gushed appreciatively.  The night ended dominating his ass…exactly how I would have hoped.  *smirk*

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The giggle PC gave me Sunday while discussing something…

“Put your big girl panties on, ok wait, go put some panties on.”

*snort*

He says I need to be fucked.  I do.  Damnit.  I really do.

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Alrighty people.  Happy Monday…enjoy!

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~ xo

Vixen

Friday Favorites-

Click the links and show the girls some love if you haven’t already!

Emmy…Right Turn Without Signaling…..

Cheeky Minx…Love Hate Sex Cake…..


Jas…Evocative Abyss…..

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Because it entertains me every week, I thought I would share once again the awesomeness that turned up in my AFF inbox.  I could actually make this a new feature.  Haha…

i would love to do for you what your husband cant we should get together and go find us another female to share what do you think i can even host

Well.  Hmm….  While I guess I kind of ok, not really at all appreciate him trying to address the whole cuckhold issue (…ish, bc honestly that direct propositioning turns me off), I’m pretty sure I never (EVER!) mentioned wanting to be hit up for a threesome.  But- OMG he can host!!!  [said in a super high pitched, valley girl-like voice while jumping up and down]  *rolling eyes*

I did get a hit from a woman….married, looking for similar things as I am.  Now if only she were  anywhere remotely near my age (again, I simply can not find myself attracted to someone near my mother’s age).

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On with the randomness I  seem to be full of come Friday…..

LM stayed home sick for the two days this week with Croup.  Poor kiddo.  And come late afternoon the second day he was home….poor Mommy.  Doh.  (seriously!)  Luckily by day 3 he was ready to go back to school and has been all sorts of energy since then.

Our weather has been phenomenal.  I can’t remember the last fall we had that was this mild and amazing.  I am *LOVING* it.  When the weather finally does change it will be a huge disappointment.  You might find me huddled in a corner rocking back and forth.  I *heart* Indian Summers.

School pictures are Friday.  I helped the kiddos pick out outfits.  LP was simple….she’s as girly as I am and has a fabulous wardrobe.  LM on the other hand….I suggested what I thought he should wear.  And he announces- I’ve been waiting for this moment all year long to wear my Tux!  *sigh*  Yeah…..my son is Alex P. Keaten.  He wears vests, bowties and tuxedos…..on a regular, every day basis.

Oh.  And have I mentioned he’s going to be Freddy Kruegar for Halloween?  Oh yeah….  Haha.  Seriously, he is so freakin’ cool.

Kiddos school carnival is Friday night.  It’s always pretty….interesting at these school functions.  I get along incredibly well with the teachers and staff and about so-so with the other parents (albeit a handful).  Fun fun fun!

TGIF….Happy Friday!

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~ xo

Vixen

My top 10 9 hottest, most favorite sexual adventures…..
***in no particular order***

1.  Balcony of a 4 star hotel in downtown, overlooking a major highway about midnight on a Friday night.  Heavy traffic.  Summer night, air heavy with heat and slight humidity.  Completely naked, bent over the railing. 

2. Lake McCanaughay.  Middle of the night.  Skinny dipping.  Two naked forms, silhouetted by the moonlight….for hours.  The electricity between us so intense the cold water didn’t even phase us. 

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3. A night club hallway. I wrote about it HERE.

4. Lake Powell.  Under the moonlight.  Sleeping bags.  Kissing, making out, touching for hours….followed by intense, insane sex….the type where both your bodies are so sensitive to the touch it’s as if your skin is on fire.  Shivers sent down your spine at her very breath…

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5. Hotel.  Hours….upon hours of kissing, touching, caressing, exploring. 
(I had pretty much fallen head over heels but after this weekend…totally, completely)

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6. Being bent over, in front of an official looking building- downtown, dress thrown over my ass, sans panties…his hands on my hips, being fucked hard.  (Remember?)

7. Pool at Hedonism III, broad daylight.  Completely naked.  Completely occupied pool.

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8. In a restaurant restroom, with HER.

9. A ski resort, late at night.  We had been at a bar at the base of the mountain, listening to a band.  We walked up one of the slopes, the snow making machines were blowing.  My back pushed against a pine tree, him supporting my weight, one of my legs wrapped around his waist, his mouth pressed against my neck and ear breathing heavily into it.

10. I decided….. why limit myself to 10?!  *wicked grins*

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Have a fabulous Tuesday!

~ xo

Vixen

Friday Favorites:

Click the links and show the girls come love if you haven’t already!

The Secretive Writer.….


Elle…Kink Unleashed…..

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Adventures in dating….
I’ve decided I really should write a book on my recent dating experiences.  (Which until my mid thirties were actually fairly uneventful, haha)  The people I have encountered, the experiences….  Wow.  Just like…WOW.  Just got to shake my head a lot of the times.  *snort*

This week I was contacted by a fairly good looking guy in his early 30′s.  For whatever reason he decided what I really needed was a dominant male to tell me what to do, for me to be his ‘good slut’.  Um.  Yeah, that’s not how this Vixen plays.  Liking a male who can be a bit dominant (Ashton was dreamy in this department) is nice.  I like and am very domme with PC.  Which is exactly how I like our relationship to be *smirk*, it thrives on that dynamic.  So to be with someone else who likes to take a bit of the control…kind of fun.  To be bossed around and demanded of shit….oh hell no.  Completely wrong tactic with me, it has an adverse effect actually. I even explained this to him, trying to get him to back off a ton bit.  But it became apparent this wasn’t going to work.  See ya…

And Abercrombie completely blew it with me.  It was a tad bit weird annoying to not hear from him for 4 days, even when I tried to contact him.  Which ok, whatever.  But then when he did and I was past the point of irritated and responded a bit snarky to him.  He took this…attitude.  Turning it around on me.  Acting like I was being a clingy (which OMG I am the last thing from), head case just because I hadn’t heard from.  Then says “Oh yeah…I think I remember a text from you but forgot to respond.  My bad”.  Yes.  Yes my dear now scorned friend, YOUR BAD which equates to YOUR LOSS.  *humpf*  Needless to say he’s gotten the cold shoulder since.

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Kiddos had most of the week off of school for parent/teacher conferences.  Leaving things quite busy and hectic on my end.  Luckily at least the weather has been decent so that a good amount of time could be spend outside.  Although I did find myself cursing the sun going down at 6:30 when I would have loved for the children to have spent another several hours OUT rather than cooped up IN.

I’ve become a SAHsurrogateM to five puppies who are now 5 weeks old and E.V.E.R.Y.W.H.E.R.E.  SO high maintenance.  SO much work.  Although not complaining, I adore every minute of it.  Ok…maybe less so the moments at 3am….  (yawn..lol)  But they grow up/develop so fast.  As much work as they are, I will surely miss them when they go off to their new homes.

The kiddos are spending a few days with their Grandma for some fun.  Which means an entire adult- fun filled weekend for PC and I to ourselves.   Oh the trouble me might find ourselves in….  *wicked grins*

Enjoy your weekend!!!  The countdown continues for the biggest night of the year (HALLOWEEN!!!!) 16 days to be exact and AND AND the big fabulous Vegas trip with Barefoot Dreamer- squeeeeeeel…..17 to be exact!  *soooogiddy*

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~ xo

Vixen