(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

A bit ago I mentioned the Lingerie Football League.  What started out as a pay-per-view half time show, has quickly formed into an entire league of ten teams that actually play full games.  Uniforms consist of helmets, shoulder pads, elbow pads, knee pads, garters, bras and panties.

The founder of the LFL looks for three things when scouting women to join their teams-
*she must be beautiful (he explains that the girls must be marketable)
*in shape/athletic
*confident -to play in your underwear in front of millions, there’s got to be certain level of confidence, no?

I guess there has been quite a bit of criticism regarding the LFL and how it objectifies women, saying it’s

“disappointing that players have to put on revealing outfits in order to get recognized in the world of women’s football”

One player, a defensive end on team Bliss, was quoted disagreeing….

“I think it’s very empowering for women to be sexy AND tough!”
~Summer LaViolette

IDK.  I guess I can see why it might bother some people…  Kind of.  (But I’m guessing these are the same people protesting Cheerleaders too????)  If you’ve seen a LFL game, we’re not talking about ‘flag football’ here.  It’s full contact, tackle football…not glorified mud wrestling. 

But so that brings me to another interesting thought.  One of my readers emailed me a bit ago and presented me with this question:

Lingerie Football aside.  But ANY sport females participate in?  I believe there are plenty of woman’s sports that don’t objectify women.   But that’s not the question……  SO?

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

I’d have some cool kick ass job that I’ve always thought about and wanted to do…. Like finally learn how to Bartend and get a job in some awesome bar/club/place. The flirting. Night life. Fun clothes. People watching. Totally my kind of scene….that I’ve just never been able to bring myself to do. Being the introvert that I sometimes (most of the time) tend to be.

OOO!!!  Or a Coyote.  You know, if they hired old people.  ~wink~

You?

******

News on the street is the case might be wrapped up by lunch tomorrow.  Which means us jury members should go into deliberation afterwards.  Keep your fingers crossed it’s an easy decision to come to.  This week has been painfully long and completely emotionally/physically exhausting.  Gah….

Happy HUMP Day!!!

(tumblr)

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

Every year I bring this up and every year I get completely shot down regarding the topic of Valentine’s Day and who likes it/celebrates it.  I think the consensus last year was that most everyone thinks it’s a silly holiday that should just be gotten over.  I always wholeheartedly disagree.

Is it more to do with you don’t have someone who properly celebrates it with you, or you just flat out think it’s dumb?  Mmm…..not sure.  I know it’s been brought up before how heavily commercialized it is.

PC takes very good care of me, it’s no secret he spoils me.  We go on dates fairly frequently, as well as enjoy dinners/activities out with the kiddos (for Mothers Day last year the four of us went to The Melting Pot).  He surprises me with Starbucks and gifts on a regular basis.  The romance is alive and well, we make sure it stays that way.  BUT that said, who doesn’t love their honey doing a little something special for them on the day that (IMO) signifies love?!

I have, although, never been a huge fan of the practice to dump tons of money into elaborate, expensive gifts.  I don’t think V-day *has* to be completely commercialized. I don’t expect lavish gifts….  A homemade card from my kiddos and some flowers with dinner from PC would make my day perfect.  And in return I usually plan to rock his world a bit more than usual. ~wicked grins~

So that all said….
I’ve heard several married men this week mention that they were boycotting the holiday.  But the most interesting, was another girl who has the PERFECT boyfriend, but he refuses to acknowledge the day and she’s quite upset over it.  Almost deal breaker upset.

So the question this week:
If you aren’t into the day, but your SO is, do you go ahead and celebrate it anyways, try to make it special for them?  Or try to make them understand this is just the way you are?

(IMO, you suck it up and do what is going to make the person you love happy, damnit)

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

I don’t get many girly magazines (I’m talking PG here people, lol) bc so many of them are either completely FULL of ads *ahemCosmoahem* and no substance or they are geared towards a 50’s housewife different type of mom than I am, KWIM?  *LOL*  But one of the ones I do still enjoy is Glamour.   One of my favorite sections is the “Do’s & Don’ts”.  I was surprised to read this…

69% say it’s a DON’T

“Bad idea, and not just because then you smell like a strip club” says one reader (24)

Seriously????  In this day and age women still feel that way about strip clubs and their men going to them AND about them going with them?!?!  I was taken aback.  I know a TON of women who enjoy going to strip clubs with their husbands. I know a ton of women who go to strip clubs with other women.  Hell, my sister, Roxy and I had plans to hit a strip club while we were in Vegas (before we had to bag that plan bc we were too hung over….lol) and my sister isn’t the most sexually overt person.  I know I am extremely open minded.  I’m also not judgemental in the slightest (or at least try really hard NOT to be).  I tend to keep friends who are similarly open minded.  And I read blogs of open minded people. 

So I wonder if I’m being unrealistic and overly open minded on this topic????

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

A couple (Jen and Steve) are close friends with another couple, both mutually and separately.  Jen confided in her husband, Steve, that the female half their friends is planning on leaving her husband the end of this month.  Just the other day Steve was talking with the male half of the couple and he was sharing these magnificent birthday plans he has for his wife (just so you are following….the same one who is secretly planning on leaving).  We’re talking a dinner date at a swanky restaurant, topped off with an expensive new piece of jewelry he plans on surprising her with at the end of the night.  The male half of the couple has shared that while the couple has had some issues over the last few months, he feels they are doing better and this big night out is just the thing to get the couple back on track.

Steve is feeling very torn.  His wife shared with him the information in confidence.  But he is really feeling as if she should warn his friend that he’s about to be dumped.  ESPECIALLY before he doles out a bunch of money.  If Steve tells his friend, Jen will be very upset with him.  The ramifications go further in that the female side of the couple (the heartbreaker, we’ll call her, lol) will most likely find out/know that Jen told Steve and Steve told the male about to be dumped.  Not to mention how pissed Steve’s friend will be when/if he found out Steve knew all along and didn’t tell him.

What does he do???

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

(tumblr)

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

This was brought up right before Christmas but I didn’t have the time to post it in time for the holidays.  It’s still an interesting topic though and am interested on your views.

Jen and Nate have been married for three years.  Every year for the holidays they go out of state to visit Jen’s family.  She has a big family with many traditions and they are quite strict about adhering to them.  One of them is that even though Jen and Nate are married, they sleep in separate beds/bedrooms the entire time they are visiting her parents.

Bc of the amount of people staying in the house and all the different holiday activities, Jen and Nate get to spend very little time together during these visits.  Nate wanted to get a hotel this year so that they could have some one on one time and while it might be very busy during they day, he would at least get to spend some time with his wife at night.  This is his only vacation that he will get to take this year and he would like to enjoy it.  Jen says he’s being selfish and only wants sex and that is why he is pushing for the hotel.  Not only is she annoyed at his ’selfishness’ (her words), she is really worried this will break her parents heart.  That they are elderly and really look forward to having the entire family together, in their family home, for the holidays.

What’s the solution?  Should Nate suck it up and spend the holidays sleeping alone to appease his wife and IL’s?

My opinion- I feel as if they should talk with Jen’s parents.  Let them know that this is Nate’s only vacation (I do feel that this is an important point) and they would like to both enjoy it but having to sleep separately bothers them.  I think I would present it as a choice to the parents- ask if they can share a bedroom and if that isn’t feasible then they will want to stay in a hotel room.  It may sound like an ultimatium but I don’t blame Nate one bit.  He goes to stay with Jen’s family every year for holidays, this is something he does for her, bc he knows how much she enjoys being with her family. Admittantly, he loves many of their traditional ways too.  I think it’s perfectly fine for them to request this of Jen’s parents and if they aren’t willing to bend on their rule, then yes, book a hotel room.  I can’t imagine going on vacation with my husband and not getting to snuggle/sleep with him every night.

Thoughts?

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

(tumblr)

~ xo

Vixen

I offer this advice for someone no longer in my life. 

I rarely see this person.  I have next to no contact with them.  But we are forever tied by two precious entities.  I have made mistakes in my life. I have taken roads possibly I shouldn’t have.  Wished I’d made different, better choices for myself.  I could harbor animosity and anger over a great number of things.  From the past and the present….concerning this person.

But I don’t. 

I.
just.
don’t.

But he does. 

*shrug* 

Oh well.

*****

I know I said CQW would be back this week but fuck if I’m not feeling run ragged and stressed.  We have done SO much driving and running around since the kids got out of school last week.  Children transporters extraordinaire. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have enjoyed the holiday.  I always do.  But now with New Years just around the corner and extravagant plans having been made….it seems one of the many things that I’m not finding time for is Blogland (my OCD is in massive overdrive and I’m putting so many things aside which only makes my OCD *worse*).  I appologize to my friends who’s blogs I haven’t been by, I miss you all.  So rather than post something I know I won’t have time to follow up on or respond to (which I like to do with CQW in particular), I will postpone the topic for next week.  Tune in for HNT though!  One more theme- Year End Favorite.  Followed by a special Year End Friday Favorites!

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

CQW will be back next week. In the meantime- more ‘fluff’.

(Sung to Holly Jolly Christmas)

Have a hottie naughty Christmas!
It’s the breast time of the year!
Lotsa “elves”,
With lovely shelves,
And red-furred white-trimmed rears!

Have a hottie naughty Christmas!
Ev’ry Star Trek geek’ll cheer -
“Oh my Scotty, beam me up a naughty Christmas, this year!”

(***sultry sleigh-bell interlewd***)

Have a hottie naughty Christmas!
With a case or two of beer -
Get her blotty!
Have a hottie naughty
Christmas,
This year!

~grin~

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

The buzz in celebrity news right now is of course Tiger Woods and his numerous affairs.  Have you seen his wife?  Um…she’s fucking hot.  Makes you wonder WHY?!

What’s ironic is just a week or so ago my nail lady and I were discussing this similar topic.  She had read this article:

The NY Daily News reports on a new study in the Journal of Family Psychology that shows that couples are happier and more satisfied in their marriages when the man is less attractive than the woman. This could be partially due to the fact that men, the ones who are traditionally more likely to cheat, are less interested in other women when their wives are hot.

But she took it a step further by adding a theory she has, of not so much that one spouse is more attractive than the other, but she believes this-

She thinks “less attractive” men work harder to make you happy and adore you a lot more than “more attractive” men do. The article she read discussed the idea of an ugly guy = happy marriage saying that “When a woman looks better in a relationship she feels like she has nothing to worry about,” and “the men try harder so it makes for a better marriage.”

You have to wonder, with all the cheating going on in celebrity-ville, why do powerful men cheat?  Because they can?  Bc they’re so used to having it all and pushing to see if there’s anything they can’t have?

Let’s face it – the attention of a plethera of women/men (ok, lets be fair, women cheat too) throwing themselves at you is a powerful aphrodisiac!! And the more women/men wanting you, throwing themselves at you, could increase the likelihood of cheating.

No?  It seems a likely cause in why so many of them fail at fidelity.  And could this be the same reason handsome/beautiful women/men cheat?  Would you feel more secure in a relationship with a ‘less attractive’ spouse?

My opinion….  Does having others throw themselves at your feet increase the likelihood of cheating? Possibly.  BUT, I still stick with the simple fact that if someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat.  Period.  If a person is capable of- is GOING to cheat, then they are going to cheat.  You go into a relationship trying to make it work, doing what you need to, loving them, adoring them, giving it your all.  When you don’t, they don’t…. things begin to fall apart.  Nor can you *control* another person’s actions.

How do you feel about this?

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!


(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

(click the button for more info, email me if you have any great ideas for a topic, I’d love tho hear from you!)

There was a topic that I came across this summer that I found rather interesting.  A program at the University of North Carolina developed an incentive plan called College Bound Sisters (a non-profit organization founded in 1997, funded by a grant from the state ).  The idea behind it is to pay teen girls to NOT get pregnant. 

“Our three goals are that they avoid pregnancy, graduate from high school and enroll in college,”
said founder of the program, Hazel Brown

The program requires the girls (geared towards the ages of 12-18yro) to attend weekly meetings- which covers the use of contraceptives, teaching decision making, being responsible, avoiding pregnancy and even the option of abstinence, in an interactive way.  For every week they attend these meetings and remain not pregnant they receive $7.  But this isn’t just ’shop at the mall’ spending money.  The money is deposited into an interest earning account that’s collectible when they enroll in college, provided they aren’t pregnant.  The success rate is close to 100%…. meaning almost ALL of the girls stayed baby free AND graduated fro college.  Not bad!  Especially considering NC has one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the nation.  Their graduation rate has also been a serious issue resulting from the high teenage pregnancies.

Is it a bribe?  Kind of.  This program has quite a few people up in arms, saying it sends ‘mixed messages’.  Many don’t agree with the idea of paying young people to do something most think they should be doing regardless.

Look at the statistics-

• teen birth rate stands at 7.2 pregnancies per 1,000 teenage girls
• teen pregnancies cost taxpayers $9.1 billion annually
• $75,000 annual cost for such programs
• taxpayers can pay as much as $500,000 for health care and welfare related to a teen pregnancy

Seems like with those figures in mind, paying girls $365 a year to NOT get pregnant is a pretty ‘modest’ investment.  The only argument I agreed with in my research is that some call this a ‘Band-Aid’ solution for a small group of girls.  That it seems much more sensible to teach all children and teens nationwide comprehensive sex education and make birth control easily available.  Possibly the money should be put towards the availability of birth control methods and increased education on the use of them?  Others argue that while putting the funds towards education on a broader level would be a great idea, the reward program gives teens a more tangible, concrete reason to not get pregnant.  Teens, hell MOST people respond well to that.

What are your opinions on this?  And would you support a government funded program similar to this, that discourages teen pregnancy?

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!

(tumblr)

~ xo

Vixen