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You want a prettier what?! -CQW

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Belly button?  Toes?  Va-jay-jay?  The most popular being butt implants and labiaplasty.  The new 'extreme' surgeries- or as some doctors have dubbed them "Fashion Surgeries", are becoming more popular.  According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS), 1,030 "vaginal rejuvenations" were done in 2006.  A 30% increase from the year earlier.  The number of butt implants rose 18% in the same time frame.

Some women do have good reason to seek these nips and tucks.  An elongated labia, for example, can make even a brisk walk uncomfortable- let alone sex.  Or if there is an aesthetic issue that is crushing a woman's confidence, surgery can be a legitimate option.  Although men polled by Glamour magazine when asked if there is such a thing as an 'ugly vagina', the consensus was *NO*!  But for the most part plastic surgery has raised the 'beauty bar' to an impossible standard. (According to Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D, coauthor of "Change Your Mind, Change your Body")   

"Looking 'normal' is no longer the norm.  There's pressure to be perfect from head to toe- literally!- and women feel the smallest perceived imperfection needs to be fixed"

That combined with the mind set among doctors of someone's going to do the surgery, so it might as well be them.  Doctors note having to fix many a 'botched' procedure bc a women went to a less qualified/less reputable dr.

My opinion....  Unless I was having a serious issue like mentioned above, where say walking was even uncomfortable- I'm pretty sure I don't want one of those areas (most esp my va-jay-jay!) messed with surgically.  I think you can go 'too far' with the plastic surgery and trying to 'pretty up' areas like belly buttons....butts and va-jay-jays.....too far, IMHO, for me anyways.

All this said.  Is this type of surgery something you would ever consider?  Men, if there were a surgery for you to 'enhance' your man-parts, would it be something you would consider???  Would you want your partner (male or female) to look into one of these type of extreme/fashion surgeries?  What do you think about these procedures?


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Confrontation is not a dirty word….blogging ettiquette -CQW

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"Confrontation is not a dirty word.  Sometimes it's the best kind of journalism as long as you don't confront people just for the sake of confrontation."

So.  I have a question.  I am a very non-confrontational person.  Confrontation and I are not friends. I go OUT OF MY WAY to avoid it.  And sometimes it actually is not in my best interest.  Sometimes I think it bites me in the ass.

Anyway.

I was reading a blog the other day.  One I used to but lost and then stumbled upon again.  I'm not sure the content of the blog makes a difference or not so I'll leave it out for now.  I got caught up in the comments.  One commenter (who happened to be a long time reader) said exactly what I was thinking and would have said myself (although was a bit blunt with their wording).  The comment was not taken very well though by others or the blog author. 

I was very tempted to leave a comment back.  Show my support to the poorly received commenter.  Possibly try to point out to the author of the blog that maybe the commenter had something in what they said.  But I stopped myself.

First- I was opening myself up to confrontation.  They did not receive the first comment well.  It's likely they would not have accepted mine very well either.

Second- what right did I have?

Although. It's a public blog.  Open to the public, they laid their woes out there for everyone to read.  Doesn't that mean *anyone* should be able to leave a comment?  I'm not talking nasty, vindictive ones or becoming 'The Blog Police'.  That is disrespectful to ANYONE.  But I get random comments from bloggers I'm not necc. familiar with on my blog all the time.  Giving opinions, etc.  I certainly don't take offense to new people commenting (again, as long as it's not hateful/rude).

Would you have left a comment?  What do you think is proper blog 'etiquette' when it comes to leaving comments?


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27

Secrets of an exotic dancer -CQW

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"Whoever wishes to keep a secret must hide the fact that he possesses one"
~Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Here is the deal.  Joe and Linda are engaged, planning a wedding.  Recently they went to her hometown to visit her family/friends, where it came out she used to be an exotic dancer (many, many years ago). He is miffed (understatement of the year) she never mentioned this 'bit of information' to him and ready to call the wedding off. 

A- Should she have told him?  Does she have an obligation to disclose ALL?

B- Is he over-reacting?


Ok so, honestly, I can't imagine NOT telling the person I was going to marry and *in love with* everything.  I suck at secrets.  Hiding them, keeping them.  It's not me.  And I am a very open person.  NOT telling 'all' eats away at me.  That said.  Do I think she had an obligation to tell him?  Um.  No.  Not really.  I think it's 'normal' or common for people to keep certain details regarding each others pasts from each other. And possibly it's something she's ashamed or not proud of.....or a part of her past she just wants to forget about.  Who knows why she chose not to tell him.

I wonder if he is reacting the way he is bc of what she used to do OR if it's bc she held something from him.  He is wondering what else she might/would hide from him.  He says 'normally' he wouldn't date a stripper.


What do you think?

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15

Maybe not all recycling is good -CQW

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Karen and Shane (names have been changed) have been together for almost a year.  It's a good relationship, they are in love, things are going very well.  For their one year anniversary Shane tells Karen he is taking her out to someplace special to celebrate.  She gets dolled up, very excited for their special night out.

Until she discovers the restaurant he is taking her to is the exact same one he used to take his ex girlfriend to for special occasions.  She knows it used to be 'their place'.  Karen is quite upset about this and they end up getting into a very nasty argument.  Her issue is she felt as if it were a recycled date.  That rather than put thought into taking her to a uniquely special place to THEM, he took her to the place him and his ex girlfriend liked to go together.

Does she have a valid point or is she blowing things out of proportion and making more of an issue out of it than there actually is?  How would you feel?  I'd love to hear from both sides.

Personally, I think she's being ridiculous.  Shane can't take her *anywhere* he took his ex???  What if he took his ex girlfriend to Cancun?  Would she mad if he took her there too?!  Depending on how many exes he has had and how long he was together with them, there may not be anywhere he could take her that he hasn't taken someone else at some point.  And honestly, if a ritzy, nice restaurant is very romantic and awesome and has great food, of course he would want to take her.  PERFECT example.  My most favoritest, most romantic restaurant EVER is The Melting Pot.  There are three located here but one (the original) that puts the others to shame.  It's located in a historic library, dimly lit, very private and the epitome of romance.  I love love love love going there.  And yes, my exH had taken me there on occasion.

Like I was NEVER going to want to go back!?  Or wouldn't want to share such a fantasically wonderful place with PC?!  On like our second date PC took me there.  He'll have to answer for himself, but as far as I know, it never occured to him to be upset that my exH and I had been there.  And now, it's OUR place to go.  When we are celebrating a special occasion like an anniversary or birthday, it's the first place we both think of to go.  We've made it *our* place.

I understand wanting things to be special but she's dwelling on irrelevant details.  IMO.

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How much bling do you need in your ring? -CQW

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The headline:

Brides-to-be are becoming victims of the economy  Would be husbands are forgoing the diamond market to buy Cubic Zirconium.  Truthfully speaking, right now could be seen as a ridiculous time to go out and spend thousands of dollars on an engagement ring.  The general rule of thumb is to spend 3months pay, the recorded avg amount spent in NY is approximately $10,000.

Here are the two arguments-

Side A-

What if the would-be-husband says....

"Look there is no job for certain in this economy right now, let's take this money and sock it away 'just in case'  and then when the economy turns around buy a REAL ring, until then spend a significantly smaller amount for a CZ ring".

Fact of the matter is that it may not even BE an option to spend that kind of money.  The money might not even be there at all.

Side B-


Women get married for two reasons, the ring and pageantry.   The other side argues that women will hold out on marriage/getting married until their fiancee can afford a 'real' diamond.  She won't want to 'make due' with a CZ ring until a later date.

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What is your view?  As a man, would you spend the phenomenal amount of money on a "REAL" diamond in this economy?  Would you buy a CZ ring as a 'place holder' until things turn around or you can afford one?  OR would you hold off altogether on even asking the love of your life to marry you until you have the amount of money you see fit to spend on a ring?

And then that brings me to the women's view.  ARE diamonds a girls best friend?  What would you like your man to do?  How important is 'THE RING' to you?  Does it have the same meaning whether it be a $10,000 diamond or a CZ that costs a 1/3 of that?

Something else they suggest in this article is that men might seek this alternative with out disclosing the information to their soon to be spouses.  How would you feel about this?  As a man, would you do this?  As a girl, would this bother you to find this out?

For me. I'm of the mind set that if you constantly wait for things to be 'right' or 'perfect'.....it never will be.  As OCD and non-spontaneous as I can be....when it comes to things I *want*, I want them.  And I will do whatever it takes to make it happen.  I definitely want a ring to show off.  To proudly show "LOOK I BELONG TO HIM!" ....but how much it costs?  How big it is?  Quality/type/brand, etc.  *shrug*  I'm easy.  I admit to being spoiled, I have a beautiful ring that is all pretty and sparkly and I adore it ~happy sigh~  If I were to find out it's CZ, I'm really not sure it would make a difference to me. 

I think if it were discussed as a couple-options, I'm probably in the band wagon that when/if he/we could afford it, replace it with a real and/or better one.  But seriously.  I'm not in it for the ring.  Marriages and relationships aren't about rings or how much things cost.  They are about the people in themLOVE.

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27

Sex is like air; it’s not important unless you aren’t getting any -CQW

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A similar subject has been brought up in earlier TMI's as well as touched on in a CQW or two over the years but I wanted to delve into it again.  Here is the scenario:

A couple has been together for two years.  They are currently engaged.  I'm not sure if a date is set yet or not.  Their sex life has deteriorated over the last year.  To the point that the female in the relationship is quite unhappy with the state of it.  She has brought it up several times and he seems completely disinterested in making any changes.  He thinks their sex life is fine.  And that sex drives fluctuate.  He accuses her of having a much higher sex drive and wanting it 'too much'.  She is now questioning them getting married. And wondering how concerned she should be about this issue.


My take.  If she truly loves him, I think she should try to work on the issue with him.  I know she has tried....but maybe he didn't understand just how much it bothered her.  Maybe if she were to make him realize the extent to which this is effecting her/them.  I'm not sure she should use breaking off the engagement as an ultimatum.  (I *hate* ultimatums.)  But put things into perspective for him.

I definitely don't think they should get married until this is resolved and she is feeling better about this.  Going into a marriage with problems is a really bad idea, IMO.  Working through them beforehand AND THEN saying your lifetime vows seems much healthier.  Otherwise it's just a recipe for disaster.  And as I've said before, being happy in your sex life with your partner is HUGE.  If she's feeling this discontent NOW, imagine how she would feel married further down the line. 

And honestly, if it can't be resolved and she views it as a big enough 'importance', as difficult as it might be- he might not be the right person for her.  Not meaning to call her out, but I'd be really interested in Ms.I's opinion on this.  I know she loves her husband but is very dissatissfied with their sex and well.....anyone who reads her blog knows where it has lead her. 

Anyways.  I think enough people out there are in this position now, married to that person with an unhappy sex life.  Advice?

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I’m pregnant!!! (and CQW)

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APRIL FOOLS!!!!!



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I was paging through the an issue of Shape magazine and came across an ad/article that had a picture of a pregnant woman in a bikini.  This has become more and more popular through out the years.  Beginning with actresses like Demi Moore but also others like Christina Aguilera, Nicole Richie, Tori Spelling, Patrick Dempsey and his pregnant (with twin boys) wife, Jillian posed on the cover of Life....

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We live on a lake and in my previous like (aka with my exH) we spent every weekend through out the summer on our boat.  One of those summers I was pregnant with LM and I still wore my bikinis.  Some of my summer cami's didn't cover my entire belly.  I also had professional boudoir pictures taken when I was 8months pregnant with him.  They are framed and hanging in our bedroom.  I *LOVED* being pregnant.  And I loved my pregnant belly.  The two times I was pregnant were some of my happiest memories.  There is something about a pregnant woman that is so damn sexy!!! Pregnant bellies are beautiful, adorable, miraculous and well, SEXY!  So I'm all for the baring of beautiful pregger bellies.  If a woman feels comfortable in their own skin to do so, then absolutely.

I was having a conversation with a (male) friend several years ago at the pool.  And there was a pregnant woman with her children in a bikini.  My friend made an off-handed, disapproving comment about her.  I was surprised and taken aback by his reaction.  What are your thoughts on pregnant women in belly baring clothes and bikinis?

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Big Brother (part II) -CQW

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Do you all remember the last CQW?  To refresh your memory, a gal's boss pulled her aside to ask her to be aware of her behavior and what she did outside of work hours bc her actions represented the company she worked for.  Click the link to read the full post and comments.

I left out some details of the situation bc I wanted to get your reaction and opinion on the initial topic with out the next bit of info tainting your answers.

This person is also friends with the boss's wife.  And just before being approached by her boss regarding her 'behavior', the woman went out with some friends/co-workers.   ...the boss's wife wasn't invited. 

Does that change the situation? I'm leery of believing how you act outside your place of employment is much of your employers business (although it seemed to become the consensus that it depends on the person's position in a company and how they are representing it) . But it seems to me the boss clearly has a problem with her behavior. And is hearing of such behavior (it seems) from his wife.  Possibly in retaliation??? IDK....   I'm thinking the friendship should to be either severed or seriously changed.  Sticky situation.

Thoughts?

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It’s her birfday!

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SR and I have been bestest girly friends for something like twenty-five years. I admire and love this chick like you would never know. Through thick and thin. The girl fucking rocks. HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRLIE!! I loves ya!!!

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Like Big Brother? -CQW

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A girl was approached by her boss, advising her that she needed to monitor her behavior outside of the work environment bc what she does reflects on the company.  And that 'people' associate her with the company she works for.  This was after a 'night out' with friends.
(ETA: Some information regarding this matter have been left out for the time being bc I wanted to get honest views and opinions regarding this before tainting it with the additional information, part 2 will be next week)

I wonder what your thoughts and experiences are on this.  As a SAHM, I'm not in a work environment so I'm not sure how 'fair' that seems to ask someone.

I think it might possibly depend on the job and position you keep. Obviously a politician has to be very careful what they do as they are always in the public eye.  And even what they did before they were a politician will be discovered and potentially used against them. 

But what about your 'average joe'.  I understand practicing discretion.  But should what you do outside of your employment get to be monitored and mandated by your employer?  Do they get to have a say in what you do, how you act, who you see, your life outside of the work environment?  Maybe to a point? But where does the line get drawn?  And how does one know what is and isn't appropriate according to your employer?

And then it begins to feel quite a bit 'big brother' like.  Doesn't it?


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