Anesthesia and I don’t really go hand in hand… trying to manage the pain (*ooaf*), super loopy from the meds…..  So, as you probably guessed- no CQW.  Slowly trying to get back to normal.

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This is Daisy.  Daisy is a sweet, happy little dog.  She knows how to wiggle her ass like you’ve never seen when she’s happy (and she’s ALWAYS happy).

Daisy is also highly neurotic and an attention whore (we are nothing alike…..*ahem*).  She is also very possessive of me.
This is Daisy highly pissed off and quite agitated.  This is her evil stare or look of death.

This is why.  She is beside herself that this cat had the nerve to come lay next to me, in HER spot, while she was off getting a drink of water.  Notice how the cat could care less?  (LOL)

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There will be HNT this week!  And Friday Favorites!!!

Happy HUMP Day!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

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I recently heard that in something like 20 states it’s illegal for a married person to cheat on their spouse.

I think once the court system steps in and starts trying to legislate morality, love and relationships we have a bigger  problem on our hands than the original ‘issue’.  Whether I condone or like cheating has nothing to do with anything.  I don’t think it should be criminalized.  Furthermore, making it illegal isn’t going to make it stop.

What do you think?  Should it be illegal?  And the bigger question in my eyes is….can you legislate morality?

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~ xo Vixen

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Haven’t done this in awhile…. This is my new favorite song on my playlist. Kinda plays into my mood this week a bit.

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So.  I had actually been working on a CQW post and found myself feeling anxious and overwhelmed by the time and thought I was having to put into it.  And I ended up saying- screw it.  Instead what you get is random jumble of thoughts.  I mentioned too that I’d like to use the case I served as a juror in for some CQW topics.  I’m having a hard time though processing my thoughts regarding it.  I guess, quite honestly, it really traumatized me on several levels.  The judgement placed on what I thought was a ‘normal’ teenage boy.  The insanity of what an angry father did…  I’m finally just now not having disturbing dreams about it.  Gah.  Not fun stuff.

My mind is racing. I need it to slow the fuck down.  The unfortunate fun part of my neurosis is that I become overwhelmed easily.  And when I’m overwhelmed I become frazzled and unable to concentrate or think clearly and often times in turn I get very irritable.  I admit it, I don’t handle stress very well.  Or being overwhelmed.

*deep breaths*

I am overwhelmed.  The time change- while I LOVE the added light- has seriously fucked up my sleeping habits.  Or rather, lack there of.  I’ve gotten a handful of hours of sleep this week and had a completely crazy busy week.  PC and I are heading to California on Thursday (more to come on this tomorrow….stay tuned ~wink~).  I’ve had a slew of things to get done before we leave…getting the house and animals ready for their babysitter to come stay with them.  Prepping for us to be gone.  Laundry.  Packing.  And not just for *us* but for the kiddos who are staying with their grandparents.  Arrangements for pick ups and drop offs.  Primping appointments (what?! I’m a girl!  Don’t act like you all are surprised!).  The list goes on.

But it will all be worth it come Thursday afternoon when I take my first sip of beer and am amongst super awesome friends in warm temps, with palm trees in my view.  Ahhh…..

I do have to say, our weather has been FABULOUS.  Which definitely makes me a bit more sun-shiney.  I’ve gotten in some incredible runs and am finally feeling back in shape after such a long, rough winter.  I was forced to take SO much time off this winter.  From when I badly cut my foot last fall, to being constantly so so sick (I swear my lungs are just finally feeling ‘normal’ again), and then the harsh winter where snow was almost always on the ground.  Yeah…put a damper on things.  Temps and snow I can work around with the treadmill.  A cut foot and being sick all winter…not so much.

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Packing….  Got my jeans, bikini, tank tops, sweatshirt, large long haired cat…..  Does he know he’s not coming with???  *snicker

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

~xo

Vixen

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A bit ago I mentioned the Lingerie Football League.  What started out as a pay-per-view half time show, has quickly formed into an entire league of ten teams that actually play full games.  Uniforms consist of helmets, shoulder pads, elbow pads, knee pads, garters, bras and panties.

The founder of the LFL looks for three things when scouting women to join their teams-
*she must be beautiful (he explains that the girls must be marketable)
*in shape/athletic
*confident -to play in your underwear in front of millions, there’s got to be certain level of confidence, no?

I guess there has been quite a bit of criticism regarding the LFL and how it objectifies women, saying it’s

“disappointing that players have to put on revealing outfits in order to get recognized in the world of women’s football”

One player, a defensive end on team Bliss, was quoted disagreeing….

“I think it’s very empowering for women to be sexy AND tough!”
~Summer LaViolette

IDK.  I guess I can see why it might bother some people…  Kind of.  (But I’m guessing these are the same people protesting Cheerleaders too????)  If you’ve seen a LFL game, we’re not talking about ‘flag football’ here.  It’s full contact, tackle football…not glorified mud wrestling. 

But so that brings me to another interesting thought.  One of my readers emailed me a bit ago and presented me with this question:

Lingerie Football aside.  But ANY sport females participate in?  I believe there are plenty of woman’s sports that don’t objectify women.   But that’s not the question……  SO?

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

~ xo

Vixen

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I’d have some cool kick ass job that I’ve always thought about and wanted to do…. Like finally learn how to Bartend and get a job in some awesome bar/club/place. The flirting. Night life. Fun clothes. People watching. Totally my kind of scene….that I’ve just never been able to bring myself to do. Being the introvert that I sometimes (most of the time) tend to be.

OOO!!!  Or a Coyote.  You know, if they hired old people.  ~wink~

You?

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News on the street is the case might be wrapped up by lunch tomorrow.  Which means us jury members should go into deliberation afterwards.  Keep your fingers crossed it’s an easy decision to come to.  This week has been painfully long and completely emotionally/physically exhausting.  Gah….

Happy HUMP Day!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

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Every year I bring this up and every year I get completely shot down regarding the topic of Valentine’s Day and who likes it/celebrates it.  I think the consensus last year was that most everyone thinks it’s a silly holiday that should just be gotten over.  I always wholeheartedly disagree.

Is it more to do with you don’t have someone who properly celebrates it with you, or you just flat out think it’s dumb?  Mmm…..not sure.  I know it’s been brought up before how heavily commercialized it is.

PC takes very good care of me, it’s no secret he spoils me.  We go on dates fairly frequently, as well as enjoy dinners/activities out with the kiddos (for Mothers Day last year the four of us went to The Melting Pot).  He surprises me with Starbucks and gifts on a regular basis.  The romance is alive and well, we make sure it stays that way.  BUT that said, who doesn’t love their honey doing a little something special for them on the day that (IMO) signifies love?!

I have, although, never been a huge fan of the practice to dump tons of money into elaborate, expensive gifts.  I don’t think V-day *has* to be completely commercialized. I don’t expect lavish gifts….  A homemade card from my kiddos and some flowers with dinner from PC would make my day perfect.  And in return I usually plan to rock his world a bit more than usual. ~wicked grins~

So that all said….
I’ve heard several married men this week mention that they were boycotting the holiday.  But the most interesting, was another girl who has the PERFECT boyfriend, but he refuses to acknowledge the day and she’s quite upset over it.  Almost deal breaker upset.

So the question this week:
If you aren’t into the day, but your SO is, do you go ahead and celebrate it anyways, try to make it special for them?  Or try to make them understand this is just the way you are?

(IMO, you suck it up and do what is going to make the person you love happy, damnit)

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

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I don’t get many girly magazines (I’m talking PG here people, lol) bc so many of them are either completely FULL of ads *ahemCosmoahem* and no substance or they are geared towards a 50′s housewife different type of mom than I am, KWIM?  *LOL*  But one of the ones I do still enjoy is Glamour.   One of my favorite sections is the “Do’s & Don’ts”.  I was surprised to read this…

69% say it’s a DON’T

“Bad idea, and not just because then you smell like a strip club” says one reader (24)

Seriously????  In this day and age women still feel that way about strip clubs and their men going to them AND about them going with them?!?!  I was taken aback.  I know a TON of women who enjoy going to strip clubs with their husbands. I know a ton of women who go to strip clubs with other women.  Hell, my sister, Roxy and I had plans to hit a strip club while we were in Vegas (before we had to bag that plan bc we were too hung over….lol) and my sister isn’t the most sexually overt person.  I know I am extremely open minded.  I’m also not judgemental in the slightest (or at least try really hard NOT to be).  I tend to keep friends who are similarly open minded.  And I read blogs of open minded people. 

So I wonder if I’m being unrealistic and overly open minded on this topic????

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

~ xo

Vixen

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A couple (Jen and Steve) are close friends with another couple, both mutually and separately.  Jen confided in her husband, Steve, that the female half their friends is planning on leaving her husband the end of this month.  Just the other day Steve was talking with the male half of the couple and he was sharing these magnificent birthday plans he has for his wife (just so you are following….the same one who is secretly planning on leaving).  We’re talking a dinner date at a swanky restaurant, topped off with an expensive new piece of jewelry he plans on surprising her with at the end of the night.  The male half of the couple has shared that while the couple has had some issues over the last few months, he feels they are doing better and this big night out is just the thing to get the couple back on track.

Steve is feeling very torn.  His wife shared with him the information in confidence.  But he is really feeling as if she should warn his friend that he’s about to be dumped.  ESPECIALLY before he doles out a bunch of money.  If Steve tells his friend, Jen will be very upset with him.  The ramifications go further in that the female side of the couple (the heartbreaker, we’ll call her, lol) will most likely find out/know that Jen told Steve and Steve told the male about to be dumped.  Not to mention how pissed Steve’s friend will be when/if he found out Steve knew all along and didn’t tell him.

What does he do???

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

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This was brought up right before Christmas but I didn’t have the time to post it in time for the holidays.  It’s still an interesting topic though and am interested on your views.

Jen and Nate have been married for three years.  Every year for the holidays they go out of state to visit Jen’s family.  She has a big family with many traditions and they are quite strict about adhering to them.  One of them is that even though Jen and Nate are married, they sleep in separate beds/bedrooms the entire time they are visiting her parents.

Bc of the amount of people staying in the house and all the different holiday activities, Jen and Nate get to spend very little time together during these visits.  Nate wanted to get a hotel this year so that they could have some one on one time and while it might be very busy during they day, he would at least get to spend some time with his wife at night.  This is his only vacation that he will get to take this year and he would like to enjoy it.  Jen says he’s being selfish and only wants sex and that is why he is pushing for the hotel.  Not only is she annoyed at his ‘selfishness’ (her words), she is really worried this will break her parents heart.  That they are elderly and really look forward to having the entire family together, in their family home, for the holidays.

What’s the solution?  Should Nate suck it up and spend the holidays sleeping alone to appease his wife and IL’s?

My opinion- I feel as if they should talk with Jen’s parents.  Let them know that this is Nate’s only vacation (I do feel that this is an important point) and they would like to both enjoy it but having to sleep separately bothers them.  I think I would present it as a choice to the parents- ask if they can share a bedroom and if that isn’t feasible then they will want to stay in a hotel room.  It may sound like an ultimatium but I don’t blame Nate one bit.  He goes to stay with Jen’s family every year for holidays, this is something he does for her, bc he knows how much she enjoys being with her family. Admittantly, he loves many of their traditional ways too.  I think it’s perfectly fine for them to request this of Jen’s parents and if they aren’t willing to bend on their rule, then yes, book a hotel room.  I can’t imagine going on vacation with my husband and not getting to snuggle/sleep with him every night.

Thoughts?

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

I offer this advice for someone no longer in my life. 

I rarely see this person.  I have next to no contact with them.  But we are forever tied by two precious entities.  I have made mistakes in my life. I have taken roads possibly I shouldn’t have.  Wished I’d made different, better choices for myself.  I could harbor animosity and anger over a great number of things.  From the past and the present….concerning this person.

But I don’t. 

I.
just.
don’t.

But he does. 

*shrug* 

Oh well.

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I know I said CQW would be back this week but fuck if I’m not feeling run ragged and stressed.  We have done SO much driving and running around since the kids got out of school last week.  Children transporters extraordinaire. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have enjoyed the holiday.  I always do.  But now with New Years just around the corner and extravagant plans having been made….it seems one of the many things that I’m not finding time for is Blogland (my OCD is in massive overdrive and I’m putting so many things aside which only makes my OCD *worse*).  I appologize to my friends who’s blogs I haven’t been by, I miss you all.  So rather than post something I know I won’t have time to follow up on or respond to (which I like to do with CQW in particular), I will postpone the topic for next week.  Tune in for HNT though!  One more theme- Year End Favorite.  Followed by a special Year End Friday Favorites!

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Happy HUMP Day!!!

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen