I learned this weekend that Hedonism III in Jamaica closed last August.  I had no idea.  It saddens me.  Such a fun place to play.  I guess Super Clubs was going to revamp it a bit, and re-open it under a different name, with a few changes (premium liquors would no longer be inclusive, in place of the nude-only pool instead would be a small nude-only beach, plus shuttle service to/from the airport would no longer be offered).  From the reading around I did (me<—google queen), it sounded like they were going to turn it into a place I wouldn’t care much to visit again.  They actually must have gotten that same feedback from others bc it was supposed to reopen in October and never did….

But a new resort has taken over the adult only-clothing optional-all inclusive market, it’s called “N Resort”.
(blurb taken from their site)

This is going to be a sophisticated, classy, all-inclusive, adult only,
nude vacation resort  – - the perfect vacation resort.
Unique~ Classy~ All-Inclusive~ Adult Only~ All Nude

I think the main thing about this new resort, is it gets away from the ‘stigma’ attached to the Hedo resorts.  They are going for a ‘classier’ approach it seems.  I would certainly check it out if I were to go to Jamaica again! *wink*

A friend of mine (the same friend who informed me of Hedo and N…actually met him and his stunning wife AT HedoIII) also brought to my attention another resort.  This one in Cancun, called Desire Resort & Spa Riviera Maya (another clothing optional all inclusive adult only resort).

Desire Resort & Spa is a unique couples-only resort, the first and only of its kind in Mexico, that located on Cancun’s Riviera Maya will surround you with amazing landscaping and a deliciously erotic atmosphere to unleash your imagination and stimulate your senses. A place of freedom where fantasies become real, a place to abandon inhibitions and truly be you. Imagine sharing this paradise with like-minded couples who also seek a sensuous, clothing-optional upscale venue or an adventurous lifestyle experience. Desire Cancun features a deluxe, all inclusive formula with extraordinary amenities such as delightful, gourmet dining, fun, daily activities

I wanna go!!!

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This is seriously one of the hottest movie kissing scenes.  I tried to find a shorter clip, but the only high quality one that showed the make-out scene in all it’s delicious HOTNESS, is this one.  Watch the first 2minutes at least, you won’t regret it!
Mmm….. *swoon*

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It’s Monday….  Sweet.

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~ xo

Vixen

~Buffy The Vampire Slayer
(this quote cracks me up, one of my favorites from the series)

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He has a 14yro daughter and her BFF is bi.  And because of that he won’t let his daughter have sleepovers with her.  He says he wouldn’t let a boy sleep over, so not her either.  His daughter is calling him a ‘homophobe’. 

I think he’s being ridiculous.  I’m having a difficult time even wrapping my mind around this in order to lay out my thoughts.

First off.  Young people experiment.  When I mentioned this CQW to PC he brought to my attention that not all pre-teens were like me and my friends.  Ok. Point taken.  My friends and I from a very early age began experimenting with each other.  Not one of us thought anything of it.  *shrug*  Of all of my friends I am the only one who later realized I was a lesbian (and later on, the reality that what I really was was probably bi….unless you go back to my sexual fluidity post that I just like who I’m attracted to…. FOCUS!).  We were experimenting not sexually active, not trying to turn each other ‘gay’, we weren’t doing anything ‘wrong’ or anything out of the ordinary.  Maybe my friends and I were being more ‘curious’ than some others.  But I don’t really believe that’s true.

This fathers attitude perturbs me a bit in that his way of thinking seems to be that people who are bi/gay are out to ‘turn everyone’….to have sexual experiences with everyone they meet.  So apparently to him people who are bi or gay are more promiscuous????  Oh and untrustworthy.  Also, I hate to break it to him, but if they were to have something going on between them beyond a friendship, keeping them from having sleepovers together isn’t really preventing anything.  I mean hello….has he been fourteen before?!

The idea as a parent is to teach your children your values and expectations.  Impress upon them these things.  And then hope as they mature into young adults that you have done a good enough job that they have listened and learned.  Sure you can eliminate temptations but restricting a specific friendship because of who or what they like bothers me.  Restricting his daughter from having sleepovers with her best friend is sending a bad message, in my opinion.  And quite honestly, if I were the parents of the bi BFF I would be pissed.

What do you think?

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HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

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Her husband and her have been married for 6 years.  She is very in love with him. They have a child together.  She has reconnected recently with an old friend.  A female.  This female and her have developed a very strong sexual attraction to each other.  She would like to explore these feelings further with her female friend…..  But she’s stuck.  Does she tell her husband?  Does she see where things go with her friend?  Are her feelings even valid?

(weheartit)

First of all.  I fully believe she needs to have a conversation with her husband.  Open the the flow of communication… discuss her feelings, be honest with him, TALK with him.  She seems unsure of how she even really feels, she’s dealing with so many emotions on her own.  If they have a solid marriage she needs to/should be able to have a an honest discussion with him about this.  I have no idea what his reaction will be.  Regardless, it needs to happen.

If the conversation is unable to be had (at. all)- then that right there speaks volumes about them and their relationship.  But, how does she know if she doesn’t talk with him???  After they have spoken she can go from there.  But considering they are married, she’s in love with him, this needs to be talked about.

Depending on how her divulging this goes with her husband, she can decide how she wants to move forward.  I’m not an idiot, I’ve been around the block (a few times ….*wink*….) I KNOW this type of conversation can go down in a bad way.  I know I am much more open minded than many, but still…  She should feel the idea out with her spouse. 

Opinions?  Advice for her?

*****

HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

~ xo

Vixen

My top 10 9 hottest, most favorite sexual adventures…..
***in no particular order***

1.  Balcony of a 4 star hotel in downtown, overlooking a major highway about midnight on a Friday night.  Heavy traffic.  Summer night, air heavy with heat and slight humidity.  Completely naked, bent over the railing. 

2. Lake McCanaughay.  Middle of the night.  Skinny dipping.  Two naked forms, silhouetted by the moonlight….for hours.  The electricity between us so intense the cold water didn’t even phase us. 

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3. A night club hallway. I wrote about it HERE.

4. Lake Powell.  Under the moonlight.  Sleeping bags.  Kissing, making out, touching for hours….followed by intense, insane sex….the type where both your bodies are so sensitive to the touch it’s as if your skin is on fire.  Shivers sent down your spine at her very breath…

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5. Hotel.  Hours….upon hours of kissing, touching, caressing, exploring. 
(I had pretty much fallen head over heels but after this weekend…totally, completely)

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6. Being bent over, in front of an official looking building- downtown, dress thrown over my ass, sans panties…his hands on my hips, being fucked hard.  (Remember?)

7. Pool at Hedonism III, broad daylight.  Completely naked.  Completely occupied pool.

(vi.sualize.us)

8. In a restaurant restroom, with HER.

9. A ski resort, late at night.  We had been at a bar at the base of the mountain, listening to a band.  We walked up one of the slopes, the snow making machines were blowing.  My back pushed against a pine tree, him supporting my weight, one of my legs wrapped around his waist, his mouth pressed against my neck and ear breathing heavily into it.

10. I decided….. why limit myself to 10?!  *wicked grins*

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Have a fabulous Tuesday!

~ xo

Vixen

Ok.  So completely out of boredom and then what led to curiosity, late one night awhile back (insomnia…oh so much fun…) I signed up for an AFF account as an experiment.  As I’ve mentioned before, PC is the one who peruses the sites and likes to ‘shop’ for me.  99.5% of what he sends me to check out I have little interest in (Ashton made the .5% and damn was that a good decision…it just shows how much his ad clicked with me *wink*).  PC used ALT.com for quite awhile and that really wasn’t my scene.  From Bossy Becky who wanted to dominate PC and took the approach of telling me how it should be done…um…. FAIL.  To the couple that I really was interested in, that seemed like such a  perfect fit…he was deployed in the military and wanted his wife to have a playmate while he was gone.  Except she didn’t drink and didn’t think anyone else should either.  Bwahahaha…yeah, that’s not gonna fly.  There were many others, PC managed that account and all the emails and he was good at it, but nothing ever really worked out there. 

I did try out Ashley Madison briefly but become bored with that very early on.  It felt complicated and so many hoops to jump through just to like TALK to anyone.  AND, they were mostly all married people hoping to have an illicit, discrete affair (yeah, yeah I know it’s what the site is all about, I mean after all their slogan is “Life is short.  Have an affair”).  Bleah….I’m not dying to enter into an affair where drama is likely to erupt.  Me and drama….not on the same team.

And we all know my luck on CL, again, PC is the one who enjoys browsing there the most.  It’s just easier that way, let him weed through and then I’ll reject the ads he sends me.  Ha!

Ok.  So back to AFF.  It’s been….eye opening to say the least.  I know there are women on there looking for a good fuck and nothing more.  And there is nothing wrong with that, it’s just not ME.  Or what I am looking for/interested in.  I’m not that girl that fucks every person she meets.  Nothing wrong with those girls.  Just I’M not one of them.

Anyway though. It got me thinking because somethings really bugged me and I figured I would give some pointers, for the men mostly-

*STOP with the dick picture as your profile shot. I don’t care what your DICK looks like.  What it does now….that’s a different story, lol.  But sending me an email with you holding your cock?  Lost me before Hello. (want to clarify, dick pics among *other* shots- fine….I mean, I’m a sucker for a guy with a hot bod)

*Sending an email to a girl and the first thing you say is what you would like to DO with your dick.  Again.  Really?!  That is your ‘pick up line’?!  Would you come up to a girl in a bar and tell them what you would like to do to them with your 10foot dick?  Idon’tfuckingthinkso.  You’d get a drink in your face if not wallopped up side the head.  When you send an email to a chick (at least THIS chick), for gods sake try to at least WOO me, will ya?!

*Have something to say.  Telling me “Hi, I liked your profile.”  Period. Nothing more. ….isn’t going to cut it!  I’m not a guy (no shit, right?  *lol*) -although I’ve heard there are much, more more men on on AFF then women- so I don’t know their side.  But females get hundreds of emails a day.  You have to have something that is going to draw a girl in!  (and NO that’s not your dick picture *snort*) One of the bitches I’ve had about the girls I’ve tried chatting with on CL…their lack of interest.  Or their response is some one liner and I’m thinking…wait a minute.  YOU had the ad. I emailed YOU and you respond with “Cool.  You’re pretty”.  Um…. huh?

*Lastly, my profile stated that I was mostly only attracted to men younger than me (if at all, it takes a lot for me to be interested in someone else, especially a guy).  Most certainly men who appear young looking.  So that said- Grandpa! STOP SENDING ME EMAILS.  Ya perv, I’m NOT INTERESTED.  I’m barely attracted to men my own age (PC, hon, you are totally discluded here…but you should know that considering people think you are 10 yrs younger than you are, *grins*), I’m most certainly NOT going to be attracted to someone my DAD’S age.  *shudder* (no offense to my more advanced readers…just being honest about *MY* interests/likes)

So.  All this said.  I only had my profile listed as ‘interested in men also’ (rather than just females) for all of a week before I changed it back to female for female.  The funny thing is, I still got numerous emails a day from men (they’ve died down since I’m completely inactive on there now).  But um...psst…did ya read my profile, m’k?  Right.  Add that to the list too.  Ok then.

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Hope everyone has a great Labor Day!

(found HERE)

~ xo

Vixen

The lights are out and I barely know you

We’re going up and the place is slowing down

I knew you’d come around

(vi.sualize.us)

You captivate me, something about you has got me

I was lonely now you make me feel alive

Will you be mine tonight?

(vi.sualize.us)

Take me on the floor

I can’t take it any more

I want you, I want you, I want you to show me love

Just take me on the floor

I can give you more

You kill me, you kill me, you kill me with your touch

(vi.sualize.us)

My heart is racing as you’re moving closer

You take me higher with every breath I take

Would it be wrong to stay?

(vi.sualize.us)

One look at you and I know what you’re thinking

Time’s a bitch and my heart is sinking down

You turn me inside out

(vi.sualize.us)

Take me on the floor

I can’t take it any more

I want you, I want you, I want you to show me love

Just take me on the floor

I can give you more

You kill me, you kill me, you kill me with your touch

(vi.sualize.us)

I wanna kiss a girl

I wanna kiss a girl

I wanna kiss a boy

I wanna …

(vi.sualize.us)

I wanna kiss a girl

I wanna kiss a boy

I wanna kiss a girl

(vi.sualize.us)

Take me on the floor

I can’t take it any more

I want you, I want you, I want you to show me love

Just take me on the floor

I can give you more

You kill me, you kill me, you kill me with your touch

(vi.sualize.us)

Take me on the floor

I can’t take it any more

I want you, I want you, I want you to show me love

Just take me on the floor

I can give you more

You kill me, you kill me, you kill me

Please don’t stop!

(vi.sualize.us)

~The Veronicas

Inspired by a certain, um, someone.  *ahem*  She knows who she is….
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Have a fabulous Tuesday!!!

~ xo

Vixen

“I kinda flirt with everything and everyone, no matter if it’s a tree or a coffee cup. I can’t resist.”

The whole player thing….  (which jr so kindly provided a definition of -below- from the Urban Dictionary and that I am so totally NOT) When I mentioned it last week (you know, when PC called me out on it), I failed to mention it was entirely directed towards my interactions with females. I am so totally NOT a player (oh good lord…SO totally not….lololol) when it comes to boys (to clarify…PC doesn’t count…he’s an honorary girl ~winkgrins~).  I mean…until this past year the very idea of me even liking one was ridiculous to me, and well anyone else who knows me well. I just wasn’t attracted to them.  Not that that stopped me from flirting, or being friendly with one (many).  I just wasn’t interested.  Still find that to be pretty true. It’s much easier for me to feel an attraction to a female.

But.  I am an equal opportunity flirter.  I don’t discriminate.  Girl…guy….cute….sexy….smoking hot…plain…not really my type…whatever. I WILL flirt with you.  I’m not even sure of my ‘type’….bc for me, it’s all about whether that *CLICK* is felt.  It surprises me sometimes in fact, when I feel it.  Who it comes from.  What caused it.  When I’m asked my type, I shrug. I used to rattle off something…like I really knew.  But it was pointed out to me (ahemPCahem), that no….that has nothing to do with anything really.  I like to make people feel good about themselves.  Make them smile.  Put a lift in their step.  I have a knack for it.  I like that I have that ability to do that for someone.  BUT please don’t get me wrong….  I have my sights set.  My crushes, interests, while they may seem to include everyone...don’t.

(vi.sualize.us)

Just because I flirt with someone, doesn’t mean I want to hook up with them.  I am very flirtatious.  It’s just who I am.  PC and I work well, because he understands this about me.  Not that he isn’t insanely flirtatious himself….  But he doesn’t feel threatened.  Nor do I with him.  Hell when guys have offered to buy me a drink when we are out, he is all for it.  Saves him money!  *smirk*

A past girlfriend was upset with me at one point, regarding my flirting- she wanted to feel *special*.  But I mean, everyone wants to feel special to someone, right?!  When I pay so much attention to… ‘everyone’….the person I’m into has a difficult time ‘knowing’ they are the one I’m lusting after, completely into.  Well, gah, I guess that makes sense.

I guess I suck at that part.  Because in my mind…I KNOW who I’m into.  But I guess sometimes I get so consumed in my flirting that I fail to really devote my attention to the person(s) I am entirely interested in.  PC has even complained about this occasionally. (I TOLD you…I suck sometimes)

(((PC)))

I like to be liked.  To feel special.  And adored.  And fawned over.  Why wouldn’t they?

Player?  Not so much.  Equal opportunity flirter?  Completely.

(weheartit)

~ xo

Vixen

(vi.sualize.us)

Four years ago I met a girl at our pool  (we have a fabulous pool that we’ve gotten a membership to for years).  She was a SAHM like myself, had a daughter similar in age to LM and a slightly older son with down syndrome.  She was…unique.  Think, Shane from The L Word (which if you recall I’ve lusted after hardcore for years), with bleached blond hair.  Tiny but quite obviously worked out.  And tattoo’d.  She had numerous, awesome bits of ink.

(Katherine Moenning- Shane)

From the moment I saw her I’ve been intrigued.  It took a couple weeks for me to introduce myself and begin talking with her.  (seriously if pools would just allow alcohol we’d all have so much more fun, or at least I would!) Once I did, we became fabulous friends.  Saving chairs for one another, the best ‘spot’ on the lawn, looking forward to each others company.  I anticipated our interludes, which were never with much privacy.  I mean, we each (at the time) had three year old’s.

I admit. I developed a huge crush.  The year came to an end.  I hadn’t seen her since.  Then.  Guess who showed up at the pool last week.  And happened to sit next to us.  Her.  She’s changed a bit.  I don’t think she works out as much.  Has a slightly different hair cut.  She seems pre-occupied and worn out.  But.  All of that aside.  The minute I saw her, it didn’t change the immediate butterflies…….  The smile that met hers when she looked my way and we immediately recognized each other.

Crushing……

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So.  I was watching The Real L Word and PC unfortunately for him, happened to watch it with me.  With in 10min he informed me I was like this one girl.  Who is a total player.

Wha?!  ME???  A player????  I thrive on stability!  Relationships!

And he explains to me how and why I’m just like this Whitney girl, who oh so totally is a player.

Fuck.

He’s right.

*****

(vi.sualiz.us)

~ xo

Vixen