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(while watching Buffy The Vampire Slayer and Tara asks Willow to go a week with out magic)

PC:
…I want you to go a week with out porn.  For me.  Can you do it?

Vixen:
Yes!

PC:
No you can’t!

Vixen:
Yes I can! I did! 
*thinking*
That week we were in Jamaica! That was a week.

PC:
Honey!  Every day was porn!

Vixen:
Oh.

Hmm.

True.

Vixen:
Nevermind.

~ xo

Vixen

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This topic came up on my radio station…

Her husband has given her permission to cheat.  When they married she had been a virgin and was very young, he on the other hand is a bit older than her and had been with quite a few women previously.  She’s been finding herself fantasizing about other men quite a bit lately.  She loves her husband very much, has no intentions of leaving him, she wants to be married with him.  But is curious.  He has offered her a 7 day “Hall Pass”.  She’s not sure if she should do it or not.

I was completely taken aback by the responses on the radio station.  People were throwing out things like he’s probably cheating on her already so she should leave him.  That HE should leave her for having these feelings.  They should just divorce because they obviously don’t love each other. 
*shaking head*

I guess I’m just a lot more open minded to think this could possibly work.  But I also believe there is nothing wrong with open marriages, swinging, being polyarmorous, etc.  Society has grown and with it different relationship dynamics and types.  I mean, you don’t want to do that in your relationship?  Fine.  So don’t.  *shrug*  But to belittle, berate and attack someone else for wanting to try something in theirs?  Shut the fuck up.  Seriously.  (sorry, nothing strikes a nerve more with me than people who are narrow minded and judgmental of others)

Now the question of if she should do this or not….  That’s not something I think anyone can answer except for her husband and her.  Is it playing with fire?  Possibly.  I commend her husband for being confident and secure enough in himself, her and their marriage to encourage her to do this  She needs to delve into her feelings, the stability of their relationship, they need to be pretty open and honest with each other about expectations, how the other is feeling, etc.  I think a lot of communication needs to happen before she decides to take advantage of his offer.

Thoughts?

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HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

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Her husband and her have been married for 6 years.  She is very in love with him. They have a child together.  She has reconnected recently with an old friend.  A female.  This female and her have developed a very strong sexual attraction to each other.  She would like to explore these feelings further with her female friend…..  But she’s stuck.  Does she tell her husband?  Does she see where things go with her friend?  Are her feelings even valid?

(weheartit)

First of all.  I fully believe she needs to have a conversation with her husband.  Open the the flow of communication… discuss her feelings, be honest with him, TALK with him.  She seems unsure of how she even really feels, she’s dealing with so many emotions on her own.  If they have a solid marriage she needs to/should be able to have a an honest discussion with him about this.  I have no idea what his reaction will be.  Regardless, it needs to happen.

If the conversation is unable to be had (at. all)- then that right there speaks volumes about them and their relationship.  But, how does she know if she doesn’t talk with him???  After they have spoken she can go from there.  But considering they are married, she’s in love with him, this needs to be talked about.

Depending on how her divulging this goes with her husband, she can decide how she wants to move forward.  I’m not an idiot, I’ve been around the block (a few times ….*wink*….) I KNOW this type of conversation can go down in a bad way.  I know I am much more open minded than many, but still…  She should feel the idea out with her spouse. 

Opinions?  Advice for her?

*****

HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

~ xo

Vixen

 I get “TV and Take Out guy”, she gets “Sparkle Guy”!
~Carrie (Sex and the City 2)

Marriage takes work.

Kids.  Animals.  Work.  Computers.  Tv.  Friends.  Illness.  Exhaustion.

Just… *gah*  …LIFE.

It gets in the way.

And sometimes you forget the need to put that extra effort into your partner….your relationship.  Or worse yet, you get lax, don’t put forth enough effort.  And the other person feels taken for granted….not good enough, not wanted, not needed.

Which is crushing, makes you feel incredibly saddened.  Because you love this person and never meant for them to feel this way.  Pains you to know your actions, or rather your lack there of…..caused them to feel this way.  It causes you to feel as if you are failing.  Have failed them.

See.

You have to work on the sparkle.

(vi.sualize.us)

This weekend we went to a Christmas party and later to a bar with some of PC’s friends.  I was “Sparkle Girl” for PC’s friends.  But unfortunately “Pass out- Too Little Too Late Girl” for PC.  I suck.  (and not in the good way!)  *SIGH*  (I’m Sparkle Girl often…..but maybe not often enough for the person who counts the most)

*****

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~ xo

Vixen

We lay in bed, both of us partially naked.  His hand ran up my thigh.  Slowly.

Discover me
Discovering you

Tracing the curve of my hip bone.  Slowly.

One mile to every inch of
Your skin like porcelain

His hand stopped on my stomach.  Letting it rest, for a moment.  Nuzzling his lips into my neck, my hair.  I could feel him breathing me in.  I turned my head so that our lips could meet.

One pair of candy lips and
Your bubblegum tongue

My hand wandered between my thighs.  His hand followed mine.  My breath caught.  His breath quickened.  An arched back….my hand pushing his further. 

And if you want love
We’ll make it
Your body is a wonder (I’ll use my hands)

Every inch of him, completely aroused by every inch of me.

You tell me where to go and
Though I might leave to find it
I’ll never let your head hit the bed
Without my hand behind it

The waves of ecstasy overcoming me.  As he brings me to orgasm.  Again.  And again.

Damn baby
Your body Is a wonderland

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TFT is up!!!

*THANKS* to everyone who contributed!

Would love to have you contribute as well!!! (C’mon, you know who you are) ANYONE can…just snap and Send!

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~ xo

Vixen

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Kate and Ben have been married for three years.  Recently, inadvertently, Kate found out that Ben ‘experimented’ with other men in college.  Ben had not meant for Kate to find out.  But once she did, he gave her all the details and has told her he was young and experimenting- that that’s what people do in college.  He’s tried to reassure her that he knows what he wants now, isn’t ‘confused’ and knows he wants to be with Kate…  He hadn’t told her before for the exact reason that is happening now. 

She’s pissed and unsure that she even wants to stay married to him.  She mainly doesn’t think she can trust him since he kept this from her.  Something she views as pretty huge.  She also feels that you can’t be with other men and not still be gay.  She says she loves him but can’t ‘risk having kids with a guy that could leave her for another guy‘.

What are your thoughts?  Whose side are you on?

My first thought is…  Ben totally fucked up by not telling her.  IN THE BEGINNING.  Keeping skeletons in your closet is always bad news.  They are going to eventually fall out.  Like in this case.  And yeah….the fact that he kept it a secret all this time, it makes it feel like it was this “super, deep dark secret”.  Had he been upfront and honest with her when they were dating, she might feel differently.  No one wants to feel they know the person they married and then realize they really don’t, that the person they trusted and loved were keeping ‘secrets’  from them.  It does make a person wonder- what else are they hiding????

AND maybe if he had told her up front….he might have seen how close-minded she was.  And maybe HE wouldn’t have wanted to marry her.

I am annoyed at the fact that she doesn’t feel she can have children with him… “because he might leave her for another guy”. 

*rolling eyes*  

Did he tell her he was a virgin before they were married?  (I’m thinking not…)  I mean, shouldn’t she be worried he might leave her for another woman too?!  Ridiculous.  He married HER.  He fell in love with HER.  It doesn’t matter who he was involved with or had sex with previously….he chose *her*.  Hmm, insecure much?

So I see both sides.  But I have to say mostly, I’m on his side.  Because I don’t do well with such judgmental/close-mindedness that she is displaying here.

*****

HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

~Gray’s Anatomy

I can’t sleep when he’s not here.

No matter how ‘cuck’ our relationship may be.  What adventures and paths I may adventure down.  I want him next to me.  I came in from an incredibly hot (HOT) encounter with Abercrombie….  Cold.  Needy. Exhausted.  Spent.

I woke him from the other room…  I wanted to snuggle into him.  My body fitting exactly perfect within his. I needed his warmth.  His body to entangle within mine.

I needed comfort.  And that is what he gave me.  What he provides me with.

I love him, insanely, intensely so….because of this.  I need him.  To be mine.

(vi.sualize.us)

~ xo

Vixen

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Her boyfriend proposed to her. She felt it was ‘half assed’ and too soon as they hadn’t been together very long. She didn’t feel like the intention, the moment, nothing was right.

So she said no. Now it’s six months later and she wants him to propose again. She KNOWS he’s the right guy now and is trying to figure out how to get him to ask her again.

First, I think she’s lucky he stayed with her.  I think that could potentially be a pretty big blow to a guy’s ego.  Second, she rejected him the first time, why would he ask her again!?  I feel like the ball is in HER court now.

But that aside.

I ‘get’ it feeling too soon….  But disliking his proposal (saying it was half assed, not the right moment, etc)…  If you met the guy of your dreams and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with him- why does the the way you are proposed to matter?!

HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!

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~ xo

Vixen

Friday Favorites-

Three this week and they were…..on my.  Swoon worthy.  I can’t imagine that you missed them, but if perhaps, there was a reason you did, hit them up!

Cheeky Minx…..


Barefoot Dreamer…..

Jas…Evocative Abyss…..

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Ostrich-like:  one who attempts to avoid danger or difficulty by refusing to face it

First off. This is coin marked by Roxy. She has accused me of being in “Ostrich-mode” on numerous occasions through out the years. I am the ‘stick your head in the sand, enjoy the situation/life, not wanting to know all the details because they might upset/bother/stress me’ chick.

It’s bad of me.

I admit on most days, I live in ‘pretty pretty spoiled princess land’. Where there are no problems or issues to deal with. Ok, except for the occasional hormonal imbalance. But over all. I am taken care of.  I am coddled.  I make no bones about it. I love being taken care of. I love being spoiled. I love my life.  Once upon a time I kicked ass in the- no one else is going to do it for you but yourself, you’re on your own sweetheart- business.  But these days, problems arrive in my/our life and PC swoops in and takes care of them for me/us.  PC= Prince Charming…..  *swoon*

But.  Occasionally things arise that I need to take care of myself.

Such as. A frank discussion I needed to have. It involved me and a certain someone and I have put it off too long.  *ducking* Far too long. But I was having too much fun! I didn’t want to talk about it. Bring it up.  Risk hearing things I didn’t want to. *she says in an annoyingly whiny voice*
(I did at least take care of this)

Or my Dr’s office that keeps calling me. I need to talk with them. Take care of it. What is the saying- just do it?

But I suck. I hate confrontation. I love everything to be peachy and fabulous. I thrive on it.

Ostrich—->Me

*shrugs shoulders*  Hey. The first step is recognizing…..  ~wink~

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Have a fantabulous weekend.  The review I spoke of earlier this week goes up tomorrow.  Check back. It’s a super cute set!

~ xo

Vixen

Have you ever been on such a perfectly perfect date? A date where he wines and dines you…. At the most romantic, bestest place ever. Your favorite place.  Where he has even arranged for a dozen red roses….which you adore.  You feel adored.  A bottle of your favorite wine later….  Kissing.  Great conversation.  He can’t keep his eyes off of you.   Or his hands.  Especially once you reach the car.  And then you know, how sometimes… you just can’t wait until you get home?

~CLICK!~

Yeah. It was like that.

HappyHNT!!!

~ xo

Vixen