I’ve been thinking quite a bit about what it would be like to experience a positive M/F/M threesome.  You know, as opposed to the experience I had that sucked (no pun intended) and I swore I would never participate in such an activity again…..  I actually used to be fairly turned off by the idea of threesomes in general.  So many emotions and feelings involved, someone inevitably feels left out, which causes issues.  Which can lead to drama.  You all know how I feel about drama! But I’ve had more positive experiences that have led to a more positive position (again, ha, no pun intended) on the idea.  It can work.  It can be drama free.  It can be A LOT of fun.  With the right people.

Part of our cuckhold talk for numerous years between PC and I have involved the idea of a M/F/M scenario.  Fun to talk about in bed, in the heat of the moment, as a ‘turn on’ tool…but to actually go through with?  Yeah, very different.  And I have been….reluctant to proceed.  But as of late, the idea is intriguing me more and more. 

I am becoming much more open to the idea, let’s just say.

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ANYONE can contribute. Girl, guy, couple, hell, your entire fraternity/bachelorette party… Snap. Send. It’s all cool. Be as simple, artsy, or whatever…as you’d like. It doesn’t have to be anything special! Or make it be. Hey, my point is, whatever you feel comfortable doing- I’ll take it and put up. ALSO, you can contribute anonymously if your little heart so desires. OR let me know how you would like to be linked/titled.

I’ll make it even easier. You want to become a regular contributor? You can send me one picture at a time. Or bunches. I’ll start a file and pull a picture from it each week. I’m easy people (I keep telling you all that! *grins*)!

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Have a fabulous Tuesday!!!

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Vixen

For whatever reason *ahem* I’ve been thinking a lot about threesomes lately.  I’ve participated in my fair share of them over the years beginning in high school, where it was a normal occurrence for my best friend, boyfriend and I to end many nights in that manner..  And of course there’s the infamous 4some (M-M-M-F) I’ve talked about several times.  (Which still to this day causes me to cringe….course I blame my feelings regarding that night completely on my boyfriend -at the time- reactions afterwards)

Which brings me to my next thought.  Threesomes are so fun.  Why do they have to go and get all mucked up by things like dynamics, reactions, feelings?!  Pffbbtt….  I’m being a bit sarcastic obviously, especially considering I am the queen of ‘feelings’ (lol).  I do firmly agree that anyone that decides to open their relationship to others, invite someone else in….whether we are talking an open marriage, swinging, threesomes…..there must be rules, guidelines, communication.  With out those things to operate off of, even if loosely, well…you’re screwed.

Anyway.  Back to the feelings part.  I took a looooooong break from any sort of sex that involved more than one other person (at a time) bc I had several bad experiences where someone became upset/jealous during or shortly after.  I became gun shy so to speak.  Take the 4some.  My boyfriend set it up.  Now realize, while I was dating him, I was mainly more interested in females but had a curiosity regarding men.  So he sets this up.  He then realizes as it’s happening that he has made a mistake.  Things go pretty shitty afterwards for him and I bc of how it made him feel and he displaced his feelings regarding it on me.  I carry an enormous amount of guilt and shame and ‘ick’ regarding that night (twenty some years later….).

As enjoyable as threesomes are, the problem with them is the ‘feeling’ factor.  Very rarely, in my experience, can they happen w/o someone involved becoming jealous/envious/upset.  I guess the ones that have worked out the best for me are those where everyone involved were….casual, w/o emotions attached and/or um, very intoxicated.

PC and I have on numerous occasions discussed the possibility.  And I’ve been open to it ‘happening’.  I encouraged (read: required) him to be open to it as well.  When we went to Hedonism several years back it was something we both completely considered a very realistic option.  I can come up with many scenarios where it ‘might’ happen.  But so far it hasn’t and I think the main factor is I HATE planning sex.  I broke things off with a girl I was seeing this past fall bc she was constantly asking me for a ‘game plan’.  ACK!  Any attraction I had for her fell flat.  Fantisizing, talking about sex, planning a date…fine.  But asking me to plan it out for you.  Blech….no.  So to *plan* a threesome isn’t going to work for me.  It has to just…happen.

I’m really not going anywhere with this.  Just thinking aloud.  Luckily my more recent experiences have been positive (ohsovery).  So I guess I’ve been excited/encouraged (????) again regarding them.

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TFT is up!  It’s been a bit since I ‘clarified’ the specifications for contributing to TFT.  ANYONE can contribute.  Girl, guy, couple, hell, your entire fraternity/bachelorette party…  Snap.  Send.  It’s all cool.  Be as simple, artsy, or whatever…as you’d like.  It doesn’t have to be anything special!  Or make it be.  Hell, my point is, whatever you feel comfortable doing- I’ll take it and put up. ALSO, you can contribute anonymously if your little heart so desires.  OR let me know how you would like to be linked/titled.

I’ll make it even easier. You want to become a regular contributor?  You can send me one picture at a time.  Or bunches.  I’ll start a file and pull a picture from it each week.  I’m easy people (I keep telling you all that! *grins*)!

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Have a fabulous Tuesday!

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~ xo

Vixen