Secrets of a Blue-Eyed Vixen

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I was listening to my radio show the other day and there was a girl on who told a story of something that had happened to her. She came home one day from work and found her boyfriend in bed with their neighbor, who was a close friend of theirs. And a man. Her boyfriend and her ended up not being able to move past it, they broke up and three years have passed.

She’s had various other relationships over the year but not found ‘that special person’ yet. The ex boyfriend and her have recently reconnected on a friendship level. She is obsessing over him. She remembers being THE happiest she ever was with HIM. Of all the relationships she’s had in her adult life, theirs was the one she keeps remembering and coming back to. She’s finding herself wondering if she should give him another chance. But of course has many doubts and concerns. Blah, blah, blah. Right.

But the question(s) her story brought about, posed by the DJ’s were these:

Do people who are bisexual have twice the temptation? Twice the possibility of cheating and therefore a GREATER possibility of cheating.
If you are in a relationship with someone who is bi, does it pose a bigger threat in/to the relationship???

Hmmm…. I think my situation is somewhat unique and/or different in that ok, this is me, Ms.Mainly-I’m-A-Lesbian. If anything he feels less threatened bc he knows I’m not going to run off with some other man (uh, bc it wouldn’t be a man, lolol). And that I’m not *looking* for someone to be in a serious relationship with. I have that. I would never fuck with what him and I have. But…he is also ok with the idea that if another girl makes me happy….then well….ok. ~grins~ (I’m not sure how I got so lucky…:::happy sigh:::…)

Actually. He is ok with whatever I purpose as long as he gets to remain the one I’m madly in love with. (I think it helps that I help remind him of his ‘bitch’ status and he feels needed too…*giggle*…)

But personally, if I were with someone who was bi (and I have been with girls who were)….no. I’ve never felt ‘more threatened’ bc they were. If you are constantly worried about who is or isn’t threatening your relationship, I think honestly you have greater problems to deal with.

I ran across a blog and found something they wrote that I loved:

“Another stereotype is that bisexuals are more likely to be
unfaithful. If a person is going to play away, it says more about that
person’s views on relationships and respect than their sexual
orientation.

(which, isn’t that I pointed out a second ago?! hehe…SEE?!)

But, without a shadow of a doubt, the biggest misconception people
maintain about bisexuals is that it is just a stage, a journey of
self-exploration. This is society’s way of trying to justify someone’s
behaviour that doesn’t slot nicely into one of the morally approved
category’s assigned to us at birth. Only you will know if it is a
stage, or if this is truly who you are. Only you know yourself, and
anyone who tries to tell you different is the only confused person
taking part in the conversation.

Be gay, be bi, be straight - don’t worry about labels, just be yourself.”

I am interested in people’s views on this topic and what you have to say, how you feel. So let’s hear it. :)

HappyHUMPDay my loverlies!!!

(via thetrembler)

~xo

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“Does sex education encourage sex? Many parents are afraid that talking about
sex with their teenagers will be taken as permission for the teen to
have sex. Nothing could be further from the truth. If anything, the
more children learn about sexuality from talking with their parents and
teachers and reading accurate books, the less they feel compelled to
find out for themselves.”
~BENJAMIN SPOCK

So I’m not going to beat a dead horse here (as an animal lover, I abhor that phrase, WTF?! lol). Quite a few of you brought up good points and gave your opinions on my Mute Monday topic, Sex Education. I just wanted to touch on few things, perhaps elaborate on others.

*U.S. researchers found Sex Education helped teenagers delay sex- Teenagers who have had formal sex education are far more likely to put off having sex, contradicting earlier studies on the effectiveness of such programs.

Statistics by the U.S. Center of Disease Control-
*Teenage boys who had sex education were 71% less likely to have intercourse before age 15.
*Teen girls were 59% less likely.
*Sex education also increased the likelihood that teen boys would use contraceptives the first time they had sex.

As I stated, of course we as parents should try to instill our values into our children (BOTH girls and boys). And absolutely both should be taught that the best form of birth control IS abstinence. It’s 100% effective. BUT the reality is that (abstinence) is not the choice that’s being made by many teens (…children, gasp!) right now. Planned Parenthood has made a similar statement. SO. I believe in conjunction with teaching them our values and the hard, cold facts of abstinence being *the best*…..that educating them is also very important.

SR and I were discussing this topic the other day and she brought up some absurd points. Like that there are teens/kids who think BJ’s are like holding hands these days. Or that anal sex isn’t actually sex. Or that they can’t get STD’s from BJ’s or anal sex. Seriously! These are things these young people are talking about and walking around thinking.

The last statement I want to make is someone brought up the fact that they don’t think it’s the school’s ‘right’ or ‘place’ to educate our kids. PC and I had an, um….’heated’ discussion about this as well. Absolutely it should start in the home. I do NOT think it’s the schools responsibility or job. The home and the parents should be the persons most involved in this.

I do, personally, think this is something the parents and the schools can work on together. After all, We trust them with our children’s education (at least I do. And if I didn’t I would be finding a different school or school system), which to me is a pretty BIG deal. Unless parents are doing their research to learn all the STD’s and the medical facts and exact reproductive language and percentages….. they don’t know this information as detailed as say a professional, or someone who has background in this.

“Parents aren’t sex education experts just because they are parents.”
~Pepper Schwartz (Ten Talks Parents Must Have With Their Children)

And as much as we’d like to think ALL parents are as perfect as ourselves (face it, any parents out there like to think they are), we aren’t all that way. A GOOD PORTION of parents WON’T be discussing ANY type of sex education much less human reproduction with their kids. This is where I think if the parents and the schools work together, you can have a really great system.

“Experts agree that parents, not school instructors are a child’s best role models of sexuality; they communicate with their children about sex and sexual values nonverbally. However, most adolescents report that they have never been given any advice about sex by either parent, even though a majority of teenagers prefer their parents and counselors as sources of sex information. While studies also indicate that both parents and their children believe that they should be talking about sexuality, parents are extremely uncomfortable doing so.”- Unmarried America

I’m all for schools teaching a parent approved syllabus in conjunction with what parents are teaching at home. For parents needing to give their permission for kids to attend these classes. But to me, the point is that kids are taught about their bodies and reproduction and sex and promoting to not have it. There are kids out there who become pregnant or wind up with STD’s for no other reason than they were misinformed or almost worse yet, NOT informed! …in walks the kid who thinks they can’t get an STD from oral sex. Or can’t get pregnant if the girls on top.

“Sex education is a broad term used to describe education about human sexual anatomy, sexual reproduction, sexual intercourse, reproductive health, emotional relations, reproductive rights and responsibilities, and other aspects of human sexual behavior. Common avenues for sex education are parents or caregivers, school programs, and public health campaigns”

But really, most importantly, all I’m advocating is sex education. I think it’s important. Where it comes from can be open to debate but that’s not what I’m debating. Which I felt like some people misinterpreted the other day. I’m not promoting we hand out condoms during Trick or Treating on Halloween! But that we EDUCATE our children.

That’s all.

HappyHUMPday!!!

~xo

~Woody Allen

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Ok so I was talking with a friend the other day and he told me he had a good question for CQW.  He went on to tell me how lately his SO has been ‘directing’ him…giving him ‘advice’ on how to do certain things on/to her DURING the act (specifically going down on her).   Which ok.  Who hasn’t told their SO they like so and so or try this, harder, faster, whatever…  But here is his issue.  When he does it HIS way on her, she O’s fast and hard and well, he’s rockin’ it in the ‘blowing her fucking mind’ department.  When he tries it HER way it. takes. forfuckingever.

So.  Here is what he was wondering…
Is it possible for someone to know your body better than yourself?

Personally?  I know what PC would say and I’m just going to second that.  HELL YEAH he does.  LOLOL  I mean there are certain things that I can do better on myself (specifically…my fish/rabbit, I know WHERE it goes, HOW to do it and I love love love his help but let me man the machinery  *snort*).  But honestly, that is the only area.  He knows what I like.  How I like it.  And seriously there is no way in hell I would ever tell him how to go down on me bc that man ROCKS it in a serious O-M-F-G type of a way.  He is my fucking hero.  IDK how he does it or what exactly he does but there is a very good reason I crave and request that of him on a very regularly basis. ~wink~

Spill it people, what do you think?

******

Happy HUMP Day!!!


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~xo

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I was talking with a friend the other day and she was talking about an argument her husband and her had gotten in.  She had made an off-handed/teasing/joking comment to him about him not being her ‘type’.  The comment struck a chord with him and he ended up dwelling on it (in girl terms, ‘obsessing’…lol).  Long story short, the end result was that they got into an argument over the topic.  He questioned her being with him, could she really be ‘in love with him’ if he wasn’t her type.

Her point was, the fact that she had fallen in love with him, despite him not being her type, was actually pretty huge.  She had been ‘WOWed’ by him enough for it not to matter that he wasn’t her usual ‘type’ she dated or was attracted to originally.  Which is a good point.

“Push past your type to see who might be a far better, longer lasting and happier match for you.”
Dating for Women - He’s Not “My” Type
By Ronnie Ann Ryan

And it got me thinking.  About my type.  Do I have a type?  I think about girls I’m attracted to….  Once upon a time I would have said someone like Jennifer Anniston…Jenna Jameson.  Slim, blonde, pretty, girly, feminine….  BUT then I think about every girl I’ve been attracted to or been in a relationship of sorts with in the last few years.  And uh…none of them fit that description.  LOL! (ok, one of them did, she was a short term summer ‘fling’)  What it comes down to is not my initial reaction or attraction (or lack there of, whatever the case may be).  They pursue me.  They wow me.  The girls who have pursued me, the dark, mysterious personalities that everyone else is falling head over heels for but they still chose ME.  THAT is who I’ve been with. 

Men.  I used to think I had a type.  But that in itself was difficult, bc as a general rule, I’m not attracted to men really.  But a cut bod.  Surfer type, guy used to do it for me.  Until I realized (as I matured, doh!)….no.  What does it for me is the guy that holds doors open for me.  Acts as if and treats me like I am the most beautiful creature in his presence, wants to take care of me and protect me…but at the same time help me grow, and let me be me.  THAT is a huge turn on.  And the more I got thinking about that….huh.  I found him.  AND he does have a cut bod to boot.  ~grins~

The Girl Next Door:

52% Sexy-Cute, 57% Dark-Light, 64% Artsy-Stylish

Cute, neither Dark nor Light, and neither Artsy nor Stylish. This sounds like a blah category, right? Oh, my, no. The Girl Next Door has been the subject of more dirty fantasies than you could possibly count. She’s so sweet, and innocent, and infinitely corruptible. Every morning you glance out your window hoping she’ll have forgotten to draw the blinds. You may feel bad about it, but you know you’ll be doing it again tomorrow.

The Your Type of Girl Test

Action movie star:

You scored 55% masculine, 52% athletic, 54% exotic, and 56% refined!

You love a manly man and you don’t have time for boys. You like someone who looks exotic and who takes care of his body and hygiene. That is a good idea in case you are trying to eat jello shooters off of his beautiful 6 pack. Someone like…..Jean-Claude Van Damme, Belgium’s hottest export. But let’s face it, the whole point of this was to look at a bunch of hot guys.

(seriously….I do NOT care for *this* particular man, barf, LMAO!)
The What type of MAN turns you on Test

What is YOUR type?  Not just what the silly test says, lol.  But what you think is your type?  And would you consider the person you are with now (if you are), ‘your type’?

Happy HUMP Day!!!

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~Billy Joel

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Recently in reading blogs regarding sex quizzes, TMI’s…etc I have been surprised at so many peoples answers saying they would prefer no sex to bad sex. I guess the issue I have is while I can give myself a *killer* O…nothing beats one on one contact. The feel of someone else’s skin against yours, the weight of their body…. I crave *touch*.  Feeling….loved, sexy, DESIRED.  So while I may not want to have bad sex all the time (lol), if you go so long with NO sex, don’t you at some point think any sex is good?! 

And therefore, I choose bad sex over no sex. BTDT with the no sex and uh, no thanks.  ~wink~  It leads to nothing good, except wanting to go find it somewhere else! Just saying….  (ok, ok….I think bad sex leads you to wander too…but still.  Doh!)

I’d love to hear others opinions on this and explanations, the ‘why factor‘, of what makes you answer one way or the other.

Happy Hump Day!!!

~xo

~Frank Sinatra

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So.  As of July 1 the blue law in Colorado was lifted.  Which means, alcohol sales are legal on Sundays now.  For people who are totally foreign to this idea or what this means.  Up until now it’s been like this:

Liquor stores sell ALL forms of alcohol (beer, wine, hard alcohol) were open Mon-Sat.  On Sundays, ALL liquor stores are closed.  BUT Monday-Sunday (seven days a wk) you can buy 3.2 beer (the beer sold in liquor stores are like 3.6 of 4.0….it doesn’t matter to me, I think it’s silly, I buy my beer where it is most convenient…if that happens to be while I’m in Walmart or while driving home to hit the drive through liquor store, it makes 0 difference to me *shrug*) and wine coolers/malt beverages.  But NO hard alcohol.

It has *always* been like this, for as long as I can remember (75years to be exact according to the article I found on this).  So I’ve never thought anything of it.  I guess the liquor store owners were against it, they would have rather stayed closed on Sundays. Not really sure why (I guess it was nice to have a mandatory day off???  IDK…).  But I guess the bigger threat to them, which has also been proposed but turned down, is allowing convenience stores to sell high alcohol and wine.  Which the liquor stores TOTALLY don’t want.

Convenience stores don’t love this new law and I guess were against it because they think it will cut into their profits. I imagine they made quite a bit of money on Sundays being the only ones allowed or open to sell beer (even if it is less alcohol content).  But as I mentioned before, I’m going to buy my beer where I am.  And 9 times out of 10, that is at a convenience store.  It’s less expensive and usually way more convenient.  I think there are quite a few people who are like this.

Well.  Anyways.  It passed and came into effect.

On several occasions the topic of different states liquor laws has come up on different boards I’ve participated in or between friends.  It is highly interesting to me how totally different each state can be.  My favorite state for alcohol sales I think is Ca.  I love when I go visit Mojito and we go grocery shopping and in the same trip can fill a whole other cart with JUST ALCOHOL.  It’s awesome!  LOL

Bc of all this, it made me curious and wanted to ask you all what your state liquor laws are.  I think many of you will be amazed at how different each state can be.  Ok, maybe ‘amazed’ isn’t the best word choice (lol).  But you get what I mean.  So?  Inquiring minds want to know.

Happy Hump Day!
 ~wink~

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~xo

Still in process of getting settled in from our vacation.  Playing catch up…which feels like I may NEVER actually catch up.  LOL  Plus my sisters kiddos are out of town and she’s came up to drink beers.  Booyah baby!

CQW will return next week.  I’m totally open to suggestions.  Email me if you have any!  Until then, here is a fun and naughty meme perfect for Hump Day.  Feel free to steal, but let me know you played so I can come check out your answers.

1. Chocolate or Whipped Cream:
Ew.  NOT CHOLOLATE.  I do loooooooove whipped cream though…….

2. Leather or PVC:
Gah.  I guess I go with Leather.  Really I’d say neither.  Just not my thing.

3. Outdoor Sex or Indoor Sex:
Indoor.  But I DO love outdoor, uninhibited, dangerous sex.

4. In the Jacuzzi or In Bed:
Gah…LOVE Jacuzzi sex.  It’s the cats meow.  But if I have to choose, then bed.

5. Bad Sex or No Sex:
Bad sex.  Bc if you go long enough even bad sex is GOOD.  Doh.  lolol

6. Dominate or Be Dominated:
Depends on my mood. I think I tend to be more dominate. It’s in my nature to be a little bit bossy at times, huge turn on in bed.  ~wink~

7. Thigh highs or Bodystocking:
Thigh highs are hothotHOT.  Bodystockings weird me out.  Too much like pantyhose, which REALLY weird me out.  *shudder*

8. Fast or Slow:
Nope.  Nah-uh.  No way I can choose on this one…  Ok.  If I have to.  Fast.

9. Rough or Gentle:
Rough.

10. Bite or Suck:
Gah such difficult questions to choose bwtn!  I love both.  I DO both.  But I suppose to have done to me, suck.

11. Role play or Reality:
Reality. Not a huge fan of role playing.  Just not really my gig.

12. Dirty Talking or Dirty Talking To:
BOTH!!!!

13. Edible panties or No Panties:
No panties. Which is the norm for me anyways.  The idea of edible panties gross me out. 

14. Spanking paddle or Bare-handed:
None thank-you-very-much.

15. Landing Strip or Kojak:
Kojak baby  ;)  I don’t mind a landing strip on someone else I guess.  But really prefer the bare-down there look and feel.

16. Multiple Sessions or One Good Fuck:
Multiple.  PC and I have mastered that and then END with a good fuck.  Mmm…yeah…..

17. Moaning or Screaming:
Moaning.  Not much of a screamer.

18. Older Men or Young Men:
Doh.  PC is older though….so lets say older.

19. Threeway or No Way:
If I have to choose- No Way.  Threeways can be fun but they are tricky.

20. Swing or No Swinging:
No swinging.  Nothing against it.  Don’t mind participating in it.  But again, you are asking me to choose.  ~grin~

HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!


~xo

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A friend and I were talking a few months back.  An interesting topic came up…  Regarding- Who is off limits. For instance.  Ex’s, siblings of friends, people of a certain age (ie, too young, too old)…..

I have to honestly say I don’t have quite the passionate opinion on this as I have on some other topics.  I really feel this is a person to person basis with me. 

*If my best friend wanted to date AH.  Hell fucking yeah I have an issue.  There is bad blood between that ex and I and for someone very close to me to get involved with him would cause me SERIOUS angst. 

*I had a short summer fling with a girl who was 19 (she was fucking HOT people, lol) several years back.  Can’t say I would have seen her and I *in a relationship* but it was fun, we were hot and heavy for a short while and she was someone cool to hang out with.  I guess age wasn’t an issue for me.  LOLOL

So as I said.  It really would matter to me my mood at the time.  The persons involved.  But sitting here trying to think of how I feel on this, I’m feeling absurdly ‘nothing’ about the topic.  I’m not sure if it has to do with my more open than most personality or just that this is a non issue with me.  Or that I haven’t been put in a situation that would cause me to have more of an opinion (lol).

But what is YOURS????  Is there someone who is off limits?

Happy Hump Day!!!

~xo

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There is a show on WEtv called “The Secret Lives of Women”.

Real women that reveal their deepest, darkest secrets.  Fetishes, fantasies, polygamists to the dirty little secrets of suburbia.  The show gives you a glimpse into what makes some of these fascinating women tick.  And it’s totally interesting and cool.

What are you hiding?  Is there something about you that no one would guess unless they knew your dirty little secrets?

I think the cool part about blogging and blogland is that is where so many people ARE themselves.  Where they tell about their secret lives.  What they keep hidden IRL, or do behind closed doors.  Bloggers are cool.  ~wink~

I guess my biggest thing that I can think of is this, here.  My blog(s).  There are quite a few people I know IRL that I wouldn’t dream of telling them.  Or showing them.  RL people have to earn my trust and make me feel I won’t be judged or have information they read used against me.  So when people ask me “what do you do”  ….I don’t usually readily offer “I have a blog!  And post half nekkid pictures of myself!”  LOL  I’m not embarassed. I just keep that info private, until I feel safe.  Now the real me is well, me, everywhere.  Here.  There.  LOL  Course then there is my mom who ‘knows of’ my blog but has never read it (she refused to take one of the numerous copies of my old blog that AH’s parents made copies of and distributed to well….everyone.)  But she teases me/jokes about my ‘porn/sex sites and being a party it up lesbian/swinger’.
*snort*  Uh yeah….that’s me. 
(hahaha)

Anyways.  I’m not looking for or talking about deep dark secrets.  POST SECRET type confessions or secrets.  I’m just referring to….what the average joe may not know about you that would surprise them.  Fetishes.  Fantasies.  Things people wouldn’t guess about you upon meeting you or know about you, KNOW you.  So?

(btw, Blissfully Wed brought up a legitimate point.  This is *NOT* just directed towards the gals.  The show IS.  But my question/post, is not.  I’m curious to hear of ANYONE who is willing to share. Ok? …smile…)

HappyHUMP Day!!!

~xo

*sigh*

I’m having one of ‘those’ days. Ok weeks.  Gah…lives (lol).

Megan Fox….  *swoon*
My birthday…Christmas….  I want one of these.  Feel free to pitch in, you know, all of you.  To get me one.  Of her.  Um, yeah. 
(good fucking LORD is she hotter than hell!!!)

Cory Lee - The Naughty Song

Gotta getch yah out of my mind
Gotta getch yah into my life

I know that you’re down by the way you’re watching me
You take my words away and I can hardly speak
There’s just room for two in my fantasy
So baby lose your crew and come away with me

Turn down the lights and light up the party
I got the ride and you got the naughty
Leave your boys with my girls tonight
Come home with me, asap
Turn down the lights and light up the party
I got the time and you got the body
Leave your boys with my girls tonight
Come home with me, asap

Tonight’s the night and it’s only just begun
All the boys and the girls wanna f*** tonight
Gonna turn the naughty on
Tonight’s the night and it’s only just begun
All the boys and the girls wanna f*** tonight
Better turn the naughty on

I like what you say by the way you rock your shoes
And the way you wear your smile got me really digging you
All this bump and grind makes everyone a freak
Let’s get out of sight, baby run away with me

Turn down the lights and light up the party
I got the ride and you got the naughty
Leave your boys with my girls tonight
Come home with me, asap
Turn down the lights and light up the party
I got the time and you got the body
Leave your boys with my girls tonight
Come home with me, asap

Tonight’s the night and it’s only just begun
All the boys and the girls wanna f*** tonight
So turn the naughty on
Tonight’s the night and it’s only just begun
All the boys and the girls wanna f*** tonight
So turn the naughty on

Gotta getch yah out of my mind
Gotta getch yah out of my head
Gotta getch yah into my life
Gotta getch yah in my bed

Gotta getch yah out of my mind
Gotta getch yah out of my head
Gotta getch yah into my life
Gotta getch yah in my bed

Turn down the lights and light up the party
I got the ride and you got the naughty
Leave your boys with my girls tonight
Come home with me, asap
Tonight’s the night and it’s only just begun
All the boys and the girls wanna f*** tonight
Gotta turn the naughty on
Tonight’s the night and it’s only just begun
All the boys and the girls wanna f*** tonight
Better turn the naughty on

******

How naughty are you feeling?!?!  ~wink~

Happy Hump Day!!!

~xo